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No matter what I say on facebook, it never gets responses.


I could say something witty and I get 2 responses.
An attractive gal could copy what I said,change the wording a little, and yes it happens, she will get thousands of responses. And she stole my ideas.
Im sick of social media.
Its all about status and popularity.
Im mostly looking to engage with people.
I never get that.

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I think that is true. But would say the fact that you care (forgive me if I'm wrong) would suggest that you are not above these popularity games. We all, whether we admit it or not, have a desire to be liked by people and it hurts when people intentionally (or seem to intentionally) to not like us. It goes back to the animals. If we were all in the same primate community group, we'd not show eachother such disrespect...or if we did it is because we were in a tangilble pecking order in said group where the lack of respect would seem merited.

All that aside: You should not make posts hoping to get likes, of course, as you probably already know. What I suggest is that you make posts according to this metric: If I looked back on this post a year from now, how would I feel? If you wouldn't feel dumb for making the post, then there isn't much to regret.

I try to make posts that, not only am I not embarrassed by, but that would give me a positive feeling when looking back. I'm specifically talking about facebook here.

For me, that's really nice quotes from books I was reading at the time, or PSAs reguarding an issue that was relevant at the time.

Posts of me drinking an oversized beer have probably gotten me more likes than those, but those meant something to me, and I smile if I go back and read them.

For you, that might be a joke you posted. It may have not gotten you likes but if you smirk a year from now from reading it, who cares.

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Thanks lano.
I do Want responses so I dont feel so invisable.
Also I love conversation.
Maybe if I change my name and start over.

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No matter what I say on facebook, it never gets responses. ¬ I could say something witty and I get 2 responses. ¬ An attractive gal could copy what I said,change the wording a little, and yes it happens, she will get thousands of responses. And she stole my ideas. ¬ Im sick of social media.¬ Its all about status and popularity.¬ Im mostly looking to engage with people.¬ I sicknever ofget social media.¬ Its all about status and popularitythat.

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Anonymous wrote:
Thanks lano.
I do Want responses so I dont feel so invisable.
Also I love conversation.
Maybe if I change my name and start over.

That strikes me as a drastic step. You don't necessarily need to completely break with the past like that to start anew but if you're not liking what your page is looking like for some reason i don't blame you

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Facebook is "Fakebook."
People portray and edit their existence that is not consistent with real Reality.
This is why I never opened an account. It is the worlds largest social gossip column. If gossip were made of gold it would be 99.9% authentic lies - which is a majority of people. Should I have to say there are some that aren't? Why should I have to play that game of political correctness?
"Never judge a book by it's cover," is one of the most subjective sayings in history. Or, "You can't judge by appearances."
That's a joke - like "Karma."
People are living the dream. They are the gods of life....
Until they fart, or $#!t their pants because they ate too much greasy food the night before. They don't stink and are never dirty and if they are, they don't go to bed without showering first. On Facebook, you are the model of life.
Let's face it, people want to feel perpetually good about themselves and everything around them. They want to be popular - the want hundreds, thousands, millions of eyes on them loving them.
And to be in the fold of the masses like that is the chance of reward - to be truly elevated into the height of the heavens and rule a kingdom on your very own star....
Are ya feelin' it?
I was not put on this earth to be liked nor to make people "feel good" according to the splendor of their ego.
There are people I like, others not so much. Then there are people I flat out don't like - that's reality.
There are people that like me, and others that don't. Then, there are people that flat out don't like me - and I'm good with that. I'm not going to waste a night of sleep in a desprate attempt to walk the tightrope of wanting everybody to like me.
It boarders on an unhealthy form of neediness and high matienience.
If someone doesn't hate me, if someone isn't disgusted, disturbed or triggered, there's something wrong - not all people are going to be pleased but when in the he!! was I looking for their approval to begin with? There are those few that can appreciate my given nature and that's just fine.
In the end, if you leave life having just one friend, that has more meaning than a million fake fans.

But....in general....popularity is about exposure. Of all the people that know me (or at least aware of me), there are billions of people who do not. The question is one of exposure and (secondly) what you would do to be remembered if that moment of exposure ever came.


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Wow. You nailed it.

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