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When I was a child my mom would never let me feel sorry for myself.


There was no safe spaces. If I was sad she wouldnt listen at all.
She just would say everyone has a cross to bear.
Im not sure if that was a good way to parent but it sure made me strong in that getting coddled seems to create weakness.
We need more tuff love and john wayne strength instilled in kids.
I think we have created a generation of weakness.
Parents fault.
Does anyone remember those days when strength was part of our M.O. ??
Any comments??

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When I was a child my mom would never let me feel sorry for myself.¬ There was no safe spaces. If I was sad she wouldnt listen at all.¬ She just would say everyone has a cross to bear.¬ Im not sure if that was a good way to parent but it sure made me strong in that getting cottledcoddled seems to create weakness.¬ We need more tuff love and john wayne strength instilled in kids.¬ I think we have created a generation of weakness.¬ Parents fault. ¬ Does anyone remember those days when strength was part of our M.O. ??¬ Any comments??

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I believe in yin and yang...tough love makes you tuff but it can also make you less sensitive which in certain situations provides insight that is just as valuable as having thick skin.

That being said, why not both? The question as posed is very general so im not sure if i am answering it in a way that makes sense to you.

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Yes both would be great.
I do wish my mom would have listened to my anxietys.
She wouldnt. It really didnt feel good.
I only hope I wouldnt repeat my moms technique to others but its hard not to

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tough times dont last .. tough people do.

whatever life that was lived.. and forward from now will always have some kind of difficulties. its up to us to decide how we want to tolerate it.

feelings are for the meek, yea i get upset over some little trivial stuff sometimes.. but i gotta stand back sometimes and ask myself.. is this really bothering me? or am i making myself bothered.. i realized the latter.

most people like to escape to these video games.. reality by now theres ********shitload of gamers out there.. all getting the experience and getting better at it by leveling up feeling pretty good about themselves!

why not do that in real life..

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Anonymous wrote:
Yes both would be great.
I do wish my mom would have listened to my anxietys.
She wouldnt. It really didnt feel good.
I only hope I wouldnt repeat my moms technique to others but its hard not to

Do you think her not listening to them aggravated those anxieties, or made you better able to handle them?

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Aggravated for sure.
But wats done is done and I have great friends to process emotions with

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