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In a Bind

Its hard to use my mind when im cornered. yea its work related, I feel like im being gaslighted or an easy target when i just come in and do my part and its wearing me down. theres too much crap to jot down with nearly over 6 yrs of reoccurances.

A couple months ago i had a major health impact. When i got back they were pretty considerate until things got heavy. Only they care to remember who i used to be, a much more capable person! Fact is, even with out me they cant handle themselves and wish to lay off their flaws upon me.

Every time I ask myself wheres the decency, respect for my expertise, experience while they forget how much deep ****shit they would be in without me.

Now im realizing im being a defeatist, no measure standing up and taking charge of the situations. for the most part, im not the same as i was.

I dunno, I'm still trying to figure out a comeback. im thinking of complaining to HR/ mediator to the bosses. Im not sure if it'll raise the question to make things worse or for better, Somethings got to give!

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I think I understand the situation you are in, and I am really sorry that you have to deal with it on the top.

It is a tricky situation. You can talk to the HR and see what they will suggest. I am not exactly certain what laws are in your country, harrasment, bullying, unfair treatment etc. And going that route will likely not be easy. There also might be a union that you could consult or some free citizen advice agency?

There are books/online resources on this topic, you might wish to consult them, like bullying in the workplace etc. Also, you might like to review 'dealing with toxic people' kind of resources, if the problem is reoccurring. You can learn to be more assertive, enforce boundaries, but that can also have limits, as if the bullies will be unable to find another target, they will probably just step up the game?

This situation would require lots of support for you, lots of strenght, and wisdom. Is leaving an option?

I wish I had more advise to offer as I continually find myself in similar situations, but can elaborate on any topic from what I have already suggested if of any help.

Hope you will find the right solution soon, @Yorick

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Thank You @Cregyn for your thoughtful input/advice

Oh Man i was having a bad time that day, but truth is it was barely anything to go brawling for. truth is when they try to tell me what to do or assign additional responsibilities ( where in past i was boastfully and willingly happy to do so ). I got pissed sour.

turns out it was overreaction on my end. when you're in a routine.. and sometimes get asked for something minimal feels like atlas handed you the world you dont want.

Yorick edited this post .

In a Bind¬ ¬ its hard to use my mind when im cornered. yea its work related, I feel like im being gaslighted or an easy target when i just come in and do my part and its wearing me down. theres too much crap to jot down with nearly over 6 yrs of reoccurances. ¬ ¬ A couple months ago i had a major health impact. and when i got back they were pretty considerate until things got heavy. only they remember who i used to be, a much more capable person. but they remember who i used to be, a much more capable person. but even with out me they cant handle themselves and lay off their flaws upon me.¬ ¬ Every time i ask myself wheres the decency, respect for my expertise and experience and they forget how much deep shit they would be in without me.¬ ¬ now im realizing im being a defeatist, no measure standing up and taking charge of the situations. for the most part, im not the same as i was. ¬ ¬ i dunno, im still trying to figure out a comeback. im thinking of complaining to HR/ mediator to the bosses. Im not sure if it'll raise the question to make things worse or for better, but Somethings got to give!

Yorick edited this post .

In a Bind¬ ¬ Its hard to use my mind when im cornered. yea its hard to use my mind when im cornered. yea its work related, I feel like im being gaslighted or an easy target when i just come in and do my part and its wearing me down. theres too much crap to jot down with nearly over 6 yrs of reoccurances. ¬ ¬ A couple months ago i had a major health impact. When i got back they were pretty considerate until things got heavy. Only they care to remember who i used to be, a much more capable person! Fact is, even with out me they cant handle themselves and whenwish i got back they were pretty considerate until things got heavy. only they remember who i used to be, a much more capable person. but even with out me they cant handle themselves and lay off their flaws upon me.¬ ¬ Every time I ask myself wheres the decency, respect for my expertise, experience while they forget how much deep shit they would be in without me.¬ ¬ Now im realizing im being a defeatist, no measure standing up and taking charge of the situations. for the most part, im not the same as i ask myself wheres the decency, respect for my expertise and experience and they forget how much deep shit they would be in without me.¬ ¬ now im realizing im being a defeatist, no measure standing up and taking charge of the situations. for the most part, im not the same as i was. ¬ ¬ iI dunno, I'm still trying to figure out a comeback. im still trying to figure out a comeback. im thinking of complaining to HR/ mediator to the bosses. Im not sure if it'll raise the question to make things worse or for better, but Somethings got to give!

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NacthoMan wrote:

turns out it was overreaction on my end. when you're in a routine.. and sometimes get asked for something minimal feels like atlas handed you the world you dont want.

Aaw, bless @Yorick. Glad you see the situation from a different angle now, and hope it will be more bearable, all those extra responsibilities ;) Better than dealing with all the drama and bullying/harassment etc, hm? Stay strong

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