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I am making this post in memory of Tord Martell who passed away around 2 years ago.

I don't know the exact age

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I am making this post in memory of Tord Martell who passed away around 2 years ago.

He got cancer

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I am making this post in memory of Tord Martell who passed away around 2 years ago.

yeah definetly xx

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I am making this post in memory of Tord Martell who passed away around 2 years ago.

Ok I just added the photo of the avator he used

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I am making this post in memory of Tord Martell who passed away around 2 years ago.

I dont have a url how do i create one
I can't remember his username

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I am making this post in memory of Tord Martell who passed away around 2 years ago.

Trying to add a photo not sure how to do it

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Will 2017 be remembered for the empowered women coming out of the shadows of abuse?

Aria wrote:
I completely agree, @Big-Al-One. I know it is me that need to heal, and it is no longer on those people (especially since one of them is dead). But I think a part of me feel the need to stay angry, because it prevents me from being too gullible and too trustworthy. I feel like my anger saves me...in some weird way.

And, though I know it wasn't a question, I can answer at least from my own point of view:

Big-Al-One wrote:
This isn't a question - how is it that women/girls do to themselves worse than what was done to them?

I blamed myself because I felt like I should have just "taken it" (in the instances that were not "aggressive"). I blamed myself because as mentioned above, my best friend's mother killed herself over it, and the other victims only came forward because I spoke up and went to the police. My best friend lost her mother at only eight years old because I followed the advice of counselors and my parents. AKA - I didn't keep my mouth shut.

I blamed myself because I didn't tell my mother what her boyfriend was doing to me BEFORE he harmed my best friend.

I blamed myself because I let him get away with assaulting me, in my own house, with my best friend/roommate sleeping next door because I had been "drinking" I was "unlovable" and "unable" to have my boundaries "respected" because I wasn't popular and thought that it was the only way anyone would ever think of me...as a "toy".

I blamed myself because my parents and other adults told me that because I was a "victim" at a young age, that it was like a "target" on my head and those seeking an "easy target" could sense it and I became their prey. I basically blamed myself for making said past "noticable".

I blamed myself because society constantly todl me (and still tells me) that I should have been the one to protect or handle myself better. That I should have spoken up sooner, that I should have fought, screamed (even if a knife was at my neck that one time...because apparently risking being killed is more "brave") or told someone immediately.

I blamed myself, basically because in a lot of my cases....everyone ELSE did.

' I feel like my anger saves me...in some weird way.' what do you mean by this?

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Will 2017 be remembered for the empowered women coming out of the shadows of abuse?

Well I sent him a message telling him I didn't want to talk to him anymore before the police intervened. I made the decision I didn't want to take it to court as I've wanted to get on with my life plus there is a lack of evidence anyway. Me and the police officer I spoke too both agreed he would deny the allegations before she interviewed him, which of course he did.

He doesn't talk to me anymore which is what I want anyway. I'm glad I can go for my walks down the road I live in in peace.

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Will 2017 be remembered for the empowered women coming out of the shadows of abuse?

soco wrote:
Abuse is not about S3X. It's about control. Having power over another human being. Making them feel weak and unable to do anything about it.

I agree 100%

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Will 2017 be remembered for the empowered women coming out of the shadows of abuse?

well weeks ago my neighbour thought just because he's rich, loaded, used to work for the council and has a great big fancy car he was invincible enough to put his hand on my bum. Little did he expect the police to go round his house as a result of me telling them.

He certainly is never that happy now to see me whenever I bump into him. Only himself to blame lol

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