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Anyone ever feel weird or awkward around their crush’s family?

Am I’m overthinking this too much? Ok. So I have liked this guy for a while. I have met his mother a few times. Never talked to her that much. The other day I was out and ran into her and my crush’s sister. First time meeting the sister. His mother invited me to come workout with all of them and said that my crush would love it and actually gave me his number. That made me feel a bit awkward because I kinda felt that if my crush wanted me to have his number then he would have gave it to me or he would have asked me for mine. I just felt like I was put in an awkward spot. Because if I messaged him and he didn’t want to talk to me then it would have been awkward and then if I didn’t message him, wonder if he would have been upset and thought I didn’t like him. He actually ended up sending me an email and asked me if I wanted to come hang out. So I went and hung out with them today, while trying to social distance, and it was fun but at the same time I just felt so awkward. Idk if it was a vibe I was getting from the mom and sister or something from him. Everyone was nice and he seemed happy I came. But I felt like he didn’t really pay me much attention and that’s why I can’t understand why her/they/he invited me out in the first place. I just felt like the third wheel or the odd one. I like him. But I just feel so awkward. The mother actually mentioned we should do this again, but I honestly don’t know if I would be invited. That’s how awkward I feel. But at the same time this was never my idea in the first place. It was theirs. Any thoughts or opinions? Like I was excited about it but now I’m just like it’s awkward. Or I feel awkward for some other reason and I don’t know why.

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Anyone ever feel weird or awkward around their crush’s family? Am I’m overthinking this too much? Ok. So I have liked this guy for a while. I have met his mother a few times. Never talked to her that much. The other day I was out and ran into her and my crush’s sister. First time meeting the sister. SheHis mother invited me to come workout with all of them and said that my crush would love it and actually gave me his number. That made me feel a bit awkward because I kinda felt that if my crush wanted me to have his number then he would have gave it to me or he would have asked me for mine. I just felt like I was put in an awkward spot. Because if I messaged him and he didn’t want to talk to me then it would have been awkward and then if I didn’t message him, wonder if he would have been upset and thought I didn’t like him. He actually ended up sending me an email and asked me if I wanted to come hang out. So I went and hung out with them today, while trying to social distance, and it was fun but at the same time I just felt so awkward. Idk if it was a vibe I was getting from the mom and sister or something from him. Everyone was nice and he seemed happy I came. But I felt like he didn’t really pay me much attention and that’s why I can’t understand why her/they/he invited me out in the first place. I just felt like the third wheel or the odd one. I like him. But I just feel so awkward. The mother actually mentioned we should do this again, but I honestly don’t know if I would be invited. That’s how awkward I feel. But at the same time this was never my idea in the first place. It was theirs. Any thoughts or opinions? Like I was excited about it but now I’m just like it’s awkward. Or I feel awkward for some other reason and I don’t know why.

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He likes you too.
I think the fact that his mom offered you his number tells me he said something to her about you.

Do you both got together and hung out. I wouldn't necessarily call it a date.

I'd say get together with him a few more times and see how things turn out.

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Don't feel so awkward. You're not a stalker because his mom gave you his number. People exchange numbers all the time, I have numbers in my phone that I've never called or texted, it's not a big deal.

It's possible the discomfort you felt while hanging out might be due to your own lack of comfort, kind of a viscous circle.

though, at the same time, the "third wheeliness" tends to happen when you're in someone's home and they're with family...it's too easy to fall into a regular routine of talking with your mom or sister and feeling too awkward yourself to directly interact with your guest. Likewise with his family members.

It sounds like you were a bit nervous and distracted by the whole "does he like me?" thing. Stay open and see what happens. It might not go anywhere, and that's fine too, being neutral and open while also not being closed off and aloof is a life skill that no one can master and takes a long time to be competent at, don't beat yourself up if you don't get it right. Depending on how comfortable you feel, I would err on the side of being too eager rather than erring on the side of being overly aloof.

Why don't you text him today? Like a meme that you found funny that you think he might find funny. And he'll probably just say that's funny. Don't feel pressure to keep the conversation going. If he responds, he responds. You can respond too. In the early part of a relationship less is often more, but again, you don't want to seem abrupt or aloof...It's a tough balance to strike.

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You started your post with a question of personal experience; so I'll address that first. In short; YES. Though, it all depends on what age-bracket we're looking at here.

I've had 3 crushes in my life whose families I have met. My first crush, I'm still very good friends with. I became very close friends with his younger sister who was a year older than I (he was two years older than me) but their dad...made me feel a little awkward. Though, this was over 20 years ago now...and my ex/friend came out as gay several years ago. Which...is really the only reason things didn't work with us.

Sadly, he lost his sister, and in turn...I lost one of my closest friends a couple of years ago to suicide. But since he and I have remained friends and he has been out from the closet, there was less awkwardness between his father and I.

Second crush - we actually met through family. Our families were long friends and I'd known him since I was two years old, though we lost contact a couple of times. First "reconnect", we were just entering our teens and didn't know ****shit about relationships...his younger brother caught us while we were sharing a first kiss and well... we got lectured about having the door closed and trying to keep his 6-year-old brother out. But fast forward to our 20's, and things were different. We reconnected the second time, and we both were in a pretty different place. His brother wasn't the annoying little snot he used to be, and his mother and I had a shift in perspective of each other, especially after we become engaged. Sadly, it didn't last long. I lost my fiance due to health issues, and his mother and I had a falling out. So yeah, now it would be really weird and awkward. My late fiance and I had a fight (over something REALLY stupid at the time) only a weekend before his health issue...and I think through her grief, his mother felt the need to direct the blame onto something or someone... I'm okay with being that target if it helps her direct her pain and anger toward something... But we haven't spoken since in these last 10 years, thought my family still has a bit of contact with her.

My third crush is current. We went to high school together and have reconnect in recent years - and aside from his brother who was a year of two younger and I left school just as he started at our high school...I don't recall meeting any other members of his family. And though for the last 2 years tried to sort of juggle...whatever this is between us (he's abroad for work in Saudi Arabia, and it doesn't look like there's much of an employment choice back here for him with what he does) meeting each other's families seems a long way off at this point. We have seen each other when we can when he's able to fly home for vacation, but coming back permanently doesn't seem to be an option right now with unemployment being the way it is. So he's not even hopeful at coming back at all... So we may not even meet each other's families if things do not continue onto anything further.

As for YOUR part of the question, I may be trying to compare what I know from personal experiences from parents, but they rarely give their child;s contact details to you UNLESS they like/trust you. Also, it could be that his mother knows that her son likes you and has a crush on you in return, and therefore, is being somewhat of a bridge...

You also said that he contacted you himself and asked to hang out. Now, I will say; at this point, I don't know how old you are. I myself, am in my 30's, and while my longest official relationship has been 4 months (with the aforementioned late fiance), from what I read, it sounds like your situation might mean you're both in your late teens or early-mid 20's? I apologize if I'm assuming incorrectly. Just with the mention of his mother, and your describing a situation where it seems he may still be living with his parents, it was what came to mind.

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It’s been a week and he has not said a word to me. And I’m not talking to him either. I am to the point where if he wants to talk to me then he can say something. I’m in my mid 20’s and he’s like a year or two older than me. I just don’t know what to think about this entire situation. I’m confused and I don’t understand. My mind is creating a million different scenarios. First, maybe his mom and sister thought he liked me and he don’t. Second, maybe his mom knows I like him and she likes me so she was trying to set me up with him. Third, maybe he was feeling down and she thought this would cheer him up and it didn’t. I just don’t know. And it’s even more confusing to me that he reached out to me. I mean if it’s like any of the scenarios above, why didn’t he just leave it and seen if I reached out to him first? There was a weird vibe that day and apparently something happened. But I just don’t know why they did this to me. They should have just left me alone.

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Consider it his loss.
I know you had expectations and it hurts when the get dashed.
It's such a difficult time to live in regarding relationships. People are distracted and thrown off course. It does no one any good, including you.
Meanwhile just remember there's nothing wrong with you, the world and people in it are broken. You have a right to persue happiness.
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They should have just left me alone.

You said you had fun in your original post, no? You shouldn't regret that, even if it didn't end up leading to anything. You did nothing wrong and I don't think they did either. Sometimes things just don't work out.

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I had fun. It’s just I don’t know why I was even invited. Like if he didn’t like me, what was the point of him even reaching out to me? That’s what I don’t understand.

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I had fun. It’s just I don’t know why I was even invited. Like if he didn’t like me, what was the point of him even reaching out to me? That’s what I don’t understand.

I get it, and that's why I asked the question.

I guess what I am saying is there isn't always a real reason to people's actions...or maybe there is but it's best not to dwell on it. I think we have all been in circumstances like this and it's easy to think oneself into a black hole.

But I'm trying to say that in more of an optimistic way, like it could be they wanted your company for the day....it's not really all that weird to consider. Not to make assumptions but I've had moments in my life where I had a low self esteem and I also asked myself things like "Why would someone do X unless they wanted to give me a smooch" and sometimes the answer really isn't that. They just liked my company or wanted to do x y or z thing.

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I thought I would give an update. So. I ran into his mom and sister today on my walk. It’s a small town and I’ve been going for 7 mile walks a day. We live in the same area. I literally wanted to run on the opposite side of the street but my sister was like “you can’t do that. That will be too obvious.” If I were by myself I would have. But I continued walking and I let them approach me. Which they approached me first before I said anything. Both of them were so chatty. Like we talked with them probably for 30-40 minutes. I didn’t mention him or anything about how we hung out a week ago. We talked about everything though. They told us they were supposed to be on a vacation this week. They travel everywhere. And they were talking about the virus and how it’s messed everything up. And I said I just wish I could take a cross country road trip. Like I have friends in California and I would love to drive out there and then get them and drive up to Washington. Well, I didn’t mention his name and the moment I said that both of them started talking about him. lol. His mom said “You should do that. He has made the drive before.” And they went on to tell me all about his adventures and stuff. I was just kinda quiet with anything that had to deal with him. But at the end, his mother literally said “let’s go.” And I said as long as I get to see the Grand Canyon and she said that they will stop there and let me see it. But I didn’t say anything about him. It’s just weird to me. I kinda think the mom and even the sister likes me/my sister more than he does. And at first I still got an awkward vibe and I just feel like the mother wanted to say something else to me but she didn’t. I could be wrong but I kinda feel like she held her tongue. Maybe she was going to say something if I brought him up. But I was telling my sister it’s weird to me how she keeps asking me questions about him. She asked me before we hung out if he called me. Then she asked me if I had his number. And then now she asked me if he has ever shown me this thing he built. My sister was thinking is he going back saying things about me or something. I still haven’t seen him or heard from him. I just don’t really know what to think about his mom and sister.

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