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i want to get back rolling on the positive yang train.

been yin (in) the crap trap too long. so heres what im thinking, of the many err of my ways i want to start off by setting up a daily morning routine.

nothing big or major. one thing i noticed with my habits were during the work week.. i advoid eye contact because i am not exactly a morning person and do not really want to chat up and yes i notice some bad vibes i give by doing that where it is kinda contagious and kinda spreads like a virus. only trouble is.. im not exactly a small talk person..

so what im asking from you guys .. bout 2 things i can think of which would benefit the cause..

1.what are good canned material that never gets old.

2. whats a great morning pep talk to start with every morning.

3. both inquiries are probably related, if you know any better suggestions do share.

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1) Avoid canned material. It always gets old.

Instead, learn things about people. People love to talk about themselves. (Even the ones that say they don't.)
A great conversation starter is asking people about what they do for work. (Or if they're at work, ask about what they do for fun in their free time.)
If it's somebody you see often, you can ask how work or their hobbies are going. Do they have groups they meet up with for hobbies, what's changed recently, etc. As an anti-social, not-talker myself, I find it easiest to just do what I can to keep them talking. If you can keep them talking- they'll think you're a nice person. Just how it goes. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ Pay attention to what they say and try to ask for more details about the things that they seem to get the most excited about.

2) Pep talks are very easy. Just be annoyingly optimistic.

When somebody talks about something negative, apologize/sympathize with their pain. Then look for a silver lining. If they're complaining about a person, brush off the other person's bad attitude by saying- maybe they had a bad day. Maybe they meant well but their intentions were misunderstood. Maybe they have a hard time expressing themselves and they get frustrated by that fact. Don't go into details about the bad stuff. Let people get it off their chest, then talk about the good things- even when things are negative. Never say anything bad about anybody. Even when you're furious at them. Instead, think about why they did that. Chances are they didn't want to be misunderstood or ignored or told they're wrong, so they hide between a wall of mean.

3) Practice 1 and 2 on yourself. Ask yourself about your day. After each day, "rehearse" all of the good things and good people that happened during the day. Even if it's - "That old guy I saw smiled like he's never been hurt. That's really impressive." Talk about those things to yourself. Take note of all of the good details. Don't fuss over anything that irked you. If somebody bothered you, think of an excuse/reason why they may have acted that way instead of just dismissing them as mean.

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word of the wise
https://youtu.be/U9t-slLl30E

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IDK about canned material, im not a big conversationalist myself.

As for morning pep talks, there are so many great motivational vids on youtube. I like GaryVee, but it depends on the pep talk you need.

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Rockster160 wrote:
1) Avoid canned material. It always gets old.

Instead, learn things about people. People love to talk about themselves. (Even the ones that say they don't.)
A great conversation starter is asking people about what they do for work. (Or if they're at work, ask about what they do for fun in their free time.)
If it's somebody you see often, you can ask how work or their hobbies are going. Do they have groups they meet up with for hobbies, what's changed recently, etc. As an anti-social, not-talker myself, I find it easiest to just do what I can to keep them talking. If you can keep them talking- they'll think you're a nice person. Just how it goes. ๐Ÿคทโ€โ™‚๏ธ Pay attention to what they say and try to ask for more details about the things that they seem to get the most excited about.

2) Pep talks are very easy. Just be annoyingly optimistic.

When somebody talks about something negative, apologize/sympathize with their pain. Then look for a silver lining. If they're complaining about a person, brush off the other person's bad attitude by saying- maybe they had a bad day. Maybe they meant well but their intentions were misunderstood. Maybe they have a hard time expressing themselves and they get frustrated by that fact. Don't go into details about the bad stuff. Let people get it off their chest, then talk about the good things- even when things are negative. Never say anything bad about anybody. Even when you're furious at them. Instead, think about why they did that. Chances are they didn't want to be misunderstood or ignored or told they're wrong, so they hide between a wall of mean.

3) Practice 1 and 2 on yourself. Ask yourself about your day. After each day, "rehearse" all of the good things and good people that happened during the day. Even if it's - "That old guy I saw smiled like he's never been hurt. That's really impressive." Talk about those things to yourself. Take note of all of the good details. Don't fuss over anything that irked you. If somebody bothered you, think of an excuse/reason why they may have acted that way instead of just dismissing them as mean.

number 2 works

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