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Why do millenials not like to use the phone and prefer texts?

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Also, being in a face to face conversation or a conversation on the phone doesn't allow for well thought replies.

I can sit here and think about my response to your post.

Here, or in a text or letter, I can think about it, put all my thoughts into one concise(or not concise as the case sometimes may be) piece and present it to you knowing that I haven't left any important details out. Which I can't do on a phone call or in face to face conversations.

Im with you on that one. My only problem with writing letters to people is that they may not read them or may skim read them and not actually read and understand them properly.

I have spent hours and hours writing letters and emails to then never have any response from them and being told they didnt have time to read all of that.

Face to face means i can ensure they are understanding what i am trying to tell them.

Problem is that speech conversations never really go as planned. I hate how im unprepared for all responses and only remember stuff i should have said when it's too late.

My communication is really complex and fluctuates. Its such hard work. I prefer the person to be here infront of me so I can see their body language and facial expressions. I ask them to write to talk to me and i read. I may talk verbal or write to talk.

But i like having the papers left behind so I can look over them afterwards.

People hate how time consuming it is with me. The Dr said i take advantage of professionals time. :/

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Why do millenials not like to use the phone and prefer texts?

Yorick wrote:
i used to identify myself preferably with texting because i could always make sure i would say what i intentionally wanted to say

instead of spewing out what i didn't mean to say

if that makes any sense.

Haha yes! Like when I spoke with my Dr on the phone ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜… i think he must have hated me after that.

He wasnt being fair but it triggered me and i maybe should not have said some things. Or perhaps should have used a different tone. But i dont even know anymore whether it was good or bad. And im probably making no sense LOL

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Why do millenials not like to use the phone and prefer texts?

I struggle to process verbal speech and dont process spontaneous conversation very well. Texting allows me to take my time. If i forget what i have said i can look back and remind myself. Speech uses up alot more energy for me because of my illness. I have vsry little energy so I feel where it is spent more

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My grandma, after suffering from Alzheimerโ€™s since her diagnosis in 2013, has passed away today.

Im so sorry Araz. Sending u lots of love

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Are there any truly ugly people or are we just judging them and everyone is really beautiful.

I really dont know what to think with that one @Yorick never heard of it either

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Are there any truly ugly people or are we just judging them and everyone is really beautiful.

Its all subjective. There is not really a factual answer

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So, I just realized I can click "edit post" on your posts.

Yes it works haha

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i would like every long time member of this site to go un-anonymous an re introduce themselves for the year 2020 should bring new beginnings.

Help dot com really helped me. I believed that everyone in the world were horrible and cruel.

My parents used to fight. Dad used to hit us. Lots of family problems.. mam used to drink and pass out... then at school id get bullied and when my friend changed schools i spent almost all my time on my own. The only one i felt cared about me was someone who did not care about me and only wanted his own way with me.

Help helped me to see that there is some goodness in the world. And not everyone are cruel. And people do care.

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i would like every long time member of this site to go un-anonymous an re introduce themselves for the year 2020 should bring new beginnings.

I think my facial tics were made worse from the bullying.

... anyway I loved being here and it helped me learn how to interact with people better. I always struggled to know how to talk with new people. Seeing how others interacted helped me to learn how to do it.

I used to have terrible confidence and spend hours online trying to find out what was wrong with me because I truly believed that no one in the world cared about me. I self harmed to find out if anyone really loved me.

Coming here opened my eyes to knowing that people do care. When I contributed my words people praised me and said i spoke wise words for my age. They built my confidence up. Seeing others talk about their problems helped me to feel more able to talk about mine. I used to keep it all to myself but this place was safe for me. I had to do it all in aecret though behind my mams back. She was worried incase i came across someone like a pedo.

Now i have so many online friends and have so many carsa and gifts from poorly online friends and i joke with her, "you dont know who youre talking to" ;)

I guess to some extent you have to be careful. I was extremely lonely when i was younger. The last couple years ive come to think i have aspergers and it answers all the questions ive had all my life.

I loved coming here to help others. It felt like thats what i was made for. When i used to try search what was wrong with me, i sometimes used to do the quizzes online. Mental health n stuff.. n random teen ones ect. One was the personality test. I got INFJ and every time since i alwayd get the same and its me to a tee :) it describes me so so well!

It makes me happy. And im in the very rare small numbers of people who have this type apparently. I feel like it sometimes. For me it feels like loads of people misunderstand me and who i am. I think that being this type, being an aspie and then having a poorly understood illness is really a bad combo ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜…

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i would like every long time member of this site to go un-anonymous an re introduce themselves for the year 2020 should bring new beginnings.

Hi im Jess. Been coming on help since age 15. Im now 28. Found it by typing help into google. I used to get facial tics and it drove me round the bend. I was desperate for some help and thats how i found it here.

I used to get bullied alot and had family problems at home. Some physical abuse.. had a nervous breakdown when i was 19. Had problems with my mam. Those are resolved now. Didnt talk with parents for about 2 years and they didnt know where i lived. Its all resolved now. Body decided to get sick and lost fiance and job and house (rented) Had another breakdown last year cos didnt get care i need.

I think im pretty transparent to be honest. I sometimes do the odd anon post but its cos i dont want anyone to worry and then go and tell anyone over on fb that theyre worried about me. Just incase I ended up with the wrong kind of help. The authorities have failed me and abused me multiple times and can be really scary to think about having it done again. People can have the best intentions but hurt by accident cos this illness i have is so poorly understood and hard to understand.

I dont expect people to understand all that stuff tho. I think i may have abit of ptsd cos of the professionals and the lack of support i have had since becoming ill has left me fighting for my life at times. Ok i best stop or may trigger myself. Im so silly. I wouldn't want to hurt anyones feelings by saying that though. But anxiety. Yeah lol

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