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How close do you relate to your ethenicity?

Nixx wrote:
TBH i feel like English culture is not allowed to be celebrated, its always seen as bad.

That's because colonialism has pushed it onto other civilisations and it's awful that happened since so many people lost their native religion and traditions, but that shouldn't mean that the English or Europeans shouldn't celebrated their own culture (but it should never be at the expense of others). It sort of defeats the purpose of promoting diversity. I can never be a part of any other culture because it wasn't anything I learnt or embraced, so to deny my celebration of my own culture, what a glum life that is, ey?

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What comes to mind when you think "Texas"?

Mexicans, cowboys, oil, desert, and rednecks.

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How close do you relate to your ethenicity?

I'm South African, living in the US, I hated US culture when I moved here, specifically how 'fast' everything is. No one really takes there time with things, but it's the system that's to blame I realise, not the people immersed in it exactly. I've been learning about my 'origins' lately, my family is a right big mix of Dutch, French, Scottish and God knows what else. I'm going to take a DNA test at some point soon to know for sure. I love my South African traditions, and I know that some can be traced back to traditions that are still practiced in Europe, which I really like. So my SO and I are in the process of learning the traditions our ancestors would have practiced, incorporating them into our holidays and lifestyle. So that when we eventually have kids, we can teach them about their origins. I want to learn the languages too, hell, I'd love to end up in Scotland.

My SO is Texan but his ancestors are Czech? And Welsh, possibly Irish? But he's more into the ancestry stuff than I am, he's the reason we're really getting 'back' to our culture. I think the culture you come from is important, we need diversity, your culture and its traditions (as long as there is no cruelty involved - torture of animals including humans, e.g. Sacrifices) is what makes the world richer.

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How close do you relate to your ethenicity?

Rockster160 wrote:
Iโ€™ve got South African ancestry. I was born/raised in UT,US- but my parents and ancestors going alllllll the way back are from SA.

People often tell me that I seem more South African than American, mostly because of the respect I have for people, how rarely I get sick, and how Iโ€™m almost always barefoot if I can get away with it. Iโ€™ve never been- so I donโ€™t know. ๐Ÿ˜„

Didn't know you're South African! ๐Ÿ™ƒ

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around.

I took training on sexual assault a few days ago for work, and I learnt things I didn't even know before. The fact that you can withdraw your consent, or that even in a relationship you have to have mutual consent to have ***sex EVERY TIME. The other thing was this: an intoxicated person cannot give consent, if they say yes, still not ethically okay to take advantage of them.

If I were on the receiving end of it, being straight and wanting to experiment or whatever while drugged up, I'd hope that the friend I'm with respects me enough to know that as a sober person I'd not want to go through with it. I'd say, just respect them.

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Walked into a Staples this afternoon.

Lol, love the jokes!

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Is emotional cheating just as bad as physical cheating or not as bad?

I would be p*ssed if my SO did that to me, especially after going to counselling, and he knew it wasn't good for our relationship. I think, talk to him, if that doesn't work, more counselling. If that doesn't work, the emotional effort you're putting into the relationship might not be worth it if he isn't willing to put in equal effort. Relationships are about equality, something my SO is always reminding me, it's easy to have double-standards. If you had a guy friend that you spoke to, would you do the same, and would you think it is okay? If not, then he's in the wrong.

I do think emotionally cheating is as bad as physically cheating. But honestly, that is something that should have been discussed and mutually understood, since each relationship is different. The dynamics between one couple may be that it's acceptable and that's okay, while the dynamics between another may be otherwise, and that's okay too. It's something that should be discussed.

Others here have good advice. I second the idea of meeting with this woman and seeing what she's like. Invite her over for dinner when both of you are present if you prefer that. I don't think that it's wrong for a person to have a friend that's the opposite ***sex, single or not - although (admittedly) I'd be pretty jealous about it. Either way, there should be boundaries, they should be understood and accepted by all involved. I had a male friend overstep boundaries which had a negative impact on my SO, and I had to reinforce those boundaries, because it was the respectful thing to do.

Relationships are complicated.

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Hey, I'm here, glad to see the place is back to some form of normal.

Ameliorate wrote:
Hello sweetheart. โค๏ธ This is much better ain't it? Like old help. I can't say why, but the other format just did not work for me either. Glad you decided to join all your old friends. We share a bond I think that cannot be broken easily.

Love you plenty ๐Ÿ’•

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I had given up on this site.

Hmm... start over? Second chances? If you don't think the people had good reason for not liking you, then don't worry about 'em :) a lot of people don't 'mix well' but we can all (hopefully) be civilised. Otherwise, ignoring is always an option for those who cannot play nice.

I hope you find what you're looking for.

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So I thought this site was gone forever, With adulting with cripling adhd I just forgot that it existed.

Welcome back :) my experience was similar to yours in wanting to help others, it helped me.

After Help disappeared, a new site was made 'Helptogo' but it was pretty much dead, most users around were in a Facebook group, now we have our old look back :)

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