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Why would your boss start being rude to you all of a sudden?

Me and my boss always seemed like we had a good working relationship but here lately I just think she’s becoming nasty towards me. I don’t know what is going on. She seems to be getting short and her responses to me just now all seem to be rude. Even the assistant manager seems rude to me. I don’t think I’ve done anything. I’m a pretty good worker. I just don’t know what all is happening. But I don’t like it. I feel like sometimes she’s like belittling me in front of coworkers. Does she think it’s ok? I have told her recently that I didn’t like the comments and she keeps saying “we’re joking.” But it don’t feel like joking to me. Any advice? Also, both of them are on one of my social media sites. And honestly I don’t post a whole lot and what I do, it’s just basically of my day to day life. Nothing bad or anything that would be offensive to them. Oh and we are all females.

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Why would your boss start being rude to you all of a sudden? Me and my boss always seemed like we had a good working relationship but here lately I just think she’s becoming nasty towards me. I don’t know what is going on. She seems to be getting short and her responses to me just now all seem to be rude. Even the assistant manager seems rude to me. I don’t think I’ve done anything. I’m a pretty good worker. I just don’t know what all is happening. But I don’t like it. I feel like sometimes she’s like belittling me in front of coworkers. Does she think it’s ok? I have told her recently that I didn’t like the comments and she keeps saying “we’re joking.” But it don’t feel like joking to me. Any advice? Also, both of them are on one of my social media sites. And honestly I don’t post a whole lot and what I do, it’s just basically of my day to day life. Nothing bad or anything that would be offensive to them. Oh and we are all females.

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Explain to her (or them) the vibe you're experiencing (as you have described here) and ask her what you have done to deserve her "moodiness."

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Sometimes employers will ignore you or be rude to you to try to get you to hate the place so you'll leave. They don't really have a good reason to fire you so they may be trying to squeeze you out. In some cases they may not want to spend the money anymore. Have you made any enemies? Perhaps they've spread some bs to your bosses that has changed their opinions of you? Or - they may really be joking and using it as justification to think it's somehow okay. I can only speculate. Either way they've made some really bad days for you. And it sounds like they've already shrugged you off already dismissing your first attempt to explain your feelings about the situation.

It might be beneficial to note that of almost more than 55 companies I've worked for, I held a position at about 2 or maybe 3 where I didn't have a total *****bitch for a boss. It's probably a better solution if you can hold your own against them or get them to back off. The grass will probably not be greener on the other side.

Do it if you can, no shame if you can't. It's a tough world out there. It's really disgusting actually. Good luck!

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my female cousin said to me..

worst place to work is an all female environment.
plently of pikers (people who always try to get out of actual work) and full of excuses ( full of reasons not to work )

no wonder managers/ bosses get kinda of upset.

whats wrong with the picture is when they point at you to get the job done.

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This EXACT thing happened to me once when I worked with all women in a bank. (Except for one man who would retreat into his office when things got... bitchy).

My advice is to get out of there ASAP. You need a healthy balance of different types of people and there was so much drama, pettiness, and bitchiness when I was working with a mostly female staff. It’s the only time in my life that I didn’t get along with my coworkers.

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I would confront her as calmly and gently as possible. If that does not work, ask yourself how much you like or need your job. If not so much, start looking for someplace else to work. If want to stay there long term, you should contact the HR department. Tell them that what your boss is doing and ask them what they think you should do about it. It seems like a drastic step but if it is really stressing you and you want to stay there, that is your only recourse. Its your boss' literal job to make you as comfortable and productive in your job as possible. They need to pull their weight.

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