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Iโ€™ve got a husband and two cats.

Where did you grow up?

VA

Where do you live now?

VA

What is the highest level of education you have attained?

Bachelors

What subjects did/do you enjoy most at school?

English & Algebra

What's your favorite sport or sports?

None :)

What kind of jobs have you held? Industries too!

Everything you can think of! (Except automotive and construction)

What hobbies are you into?

Reading, watching movies, relaxing, going out with friends

What causes are you concerned about today?

Racism and prejudice, the environment, and the current educational system.

If you claim a political party affiliation, which is it?

Independent

Which religion (if any) do you follow?

Itโ€™s complicated.

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Do any of you work remotely and own a puppy/rambunctious dog?

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Have you ever cut off a family member.

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Essentially โ€œdisowningโ€ them? Or been cut off yourself?

First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak outโ€”because I was not a socialist.

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Then they came for the trade unionists, and I did not speak outโ€” because I was not a trade unionist.

Awkward moments

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I was just thinking about how awkward I am as a person sometimes last night. One thing that happened to me - When I was 6, my neighbor asked me if I took baths, but I couldnโ€™t fathom anyone being unkind so I assumed she was just making conversation. I told her no but forgot to clarify that I took showers... and thatโ€™s how rumors get started ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿปโ€โ™€๏ธ

Are you feeling lonely?

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Iโ€™ve been alone since March. Well - except for the cats. I havenโ€™t seen anyone because of COVID-19.

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Black holes.

Nothing but social obligations and mundane trivial daily work life

- written - voted for by Neutra-The-SpaceWeaver, DocteurRalph, verge, BA1
Were the suicide posts of 10 years ago scripted ????

Mine werenโ€™t. I was extremely depressed and I have a history of anxiety which I have only just gotten under control with anxiety medication (finally). Sometimes I would write a post anonymously and not reply, but keep looking at the responses from others which made me feel better. I was too overwhelmed to respond.

So maybe people thought it was โ€œsuspiciousโ€ but I canโ€™t really control what others think or how they perceive things. The only person who knows the true intentions of the poster is OP him/herself. You just have to take everyoneโ€™s problems at face value and assume that they are being truthful. Better for us to be wrong in assuming the worst than assuming theyโ€™re lying and be wrong about that!

- written - voted for by BA1, ๐•อคอญอฅฬ‡๐•–๐•ฅ๐•šใ€‚(Yeti.), verge, soco
How do you help a depressed spouse?

Update: He interviewed for a job on Monday and got it! He started this past Tuesday and is already feeling much better.

- written - voted for by smiley, BA1, DragonLady
i can tell..

Whatโ€™s worse than being hated? Being ignored.

As far as I can see, you are neither hated or ignored here!

- written - voted for by BA1, Eddieee, ๐•อคอญอฅฬ‡๐•–๐•ฅ๐•šใ€‚(Yeti.)
sometimes i wonder..

SassyMonkey wrote:
like be more genuine and sensitive? idk.. i've always been a bit of a jerk in a way but i do know im a good person and would never intentionally hurt people.

again.. sometimes i wonder.. if im a hard case.. cuz.. i want to be liked.. but i have this un-magnetic vibe for people in general..

just feeling bit low .. this monkey's gone off to cry forever alone.

Ooof, I'm #triggered. The need to be liked is something I struggle with on a daily basis.

Honestly - I think a lot more people than you think struggle with this issue. Al got it right - you really are special. The more time you spend reminding yourself of that fact, the happier you will be.

There will always be someone who doesn't like you. The important thing is that YOU like yourself. If you seek validation from others, instead of yourself, you will always struggle with these thoughts.

Of course, this is advise I could take myself. I know it's easier said than done. But try!

PS I think most people like you here from what I've seen :)

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I am just stuck in exhausting and depressing cycle of chronic procrastination.

Ok so this is going to sound insane but trust me on this.

Stop snoozing. Set your alarm and when it goes off, count backwards from 5. By the time you get to 1, your feet should be on the ground.

Start with just this little step. If you look at your goals with a broad scope, youโ€™re going to feel overwhelmed, and when that happens, itโ€™s easy to get stuck. So take it one small step at a time.

P.S. I canโ€™t take credit for most of this advice. I love Mel Robbins (her books the 5 second rule and the high 5 method)

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How can I accept my daughter's boyfriend?

Iโ€™m going to start off by saying - no apologies for long replies! Ever! That just means you gave me a whole lot of clarification ๐Ÿ˜Š

You are such a good parent. You did everything you possibly could to protect your daughter. You didnโ€™t know, how could you? She lied - and I was under the very mistaken impression that you were aware of what was happening at an earlier age. I apologize for that assumption.

Honestly, I think youโ€™re going about it the right way. I really respect you as a person and a parent. Sometimesโ€ฆ you just have to let your kids make the mistakes they will. Maybe she will meet someone else as she grows and matures. She may legally be an adult, but she is very much a child in some aspects (crying when he leaves, lying, etc.)

Has your daughter been to therapy? Iโ€™ve been going and it has helped me tremendously. But forced therapy doesnโ€™t work - you have to want to change and my therapist โ€œkeeps it realโ€ as do I lol. Which means sessions can get tough.

I want to reiterate how much I respect all that you do for your daughter, how much you love her, and everything youโ€™ve done.

Parental guilt is a thing, but youโ€™re not omniscient. You provided her with the tools to be strong and independent. At the very least, she will not be financially abused and she has autonomy since he lives far from her.

Youโ€™ve better than a lot of two parent households.

Deep breaths, hopefully you wonโ€™t have to see him again for awhile! Continue to nurture your relationship with your daughter. She may stay with him for too long, but honestly, I think once she starts to really grow up (for me, it was my mid to late 20s) she will leave him.

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How can I accept my daughter's boyfriend?

I know this is an older post but can I just say that itโ€™s disgusting that a 28 year old was chatting up a 13 year old online? Have I understood the age difference correctly, here?

What could a 28 year old grown man have in common with a 13 year old child?

So sheโ€™s 21 and heโ€™s 36 now? Iโ€™m 35 years old. I have nothing in common with 21 year olds.

Age isnโ€™t just a number with these kinds of gaps. He โ€œgroomedโ€ her from a young age. Itโ€™s, quite frankly, criminal.

I donโ€™t think you should accept him, nor would I let him stay with me for a single night, but this post was from awhile ago, so Iโ€™m sure your situation has changed as heโ€™s probably currently staying with you.

Good luck.

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im not aways agreeable with this series but i do enjoy

Iโ€™m being a crotchety witch today Anon, my bad.

Looking at memes and watching satire doesnโ€™t make our problems go away, believe me, Iโ€™m aware. You SHOULD get angry and demand change.

But being furious 24/7 isnโ€™t going to do anything either. You have to compartmentalize or youโ€™ll lose any will to live.

So I can enjoy this show, have a laugh, learn something new AND be angry about the horrible things happening in this country in the same day. It doesnโ€™t have to be one or the other, right?

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im not aways agreeable with this series but i do enjoy

I donโ€™t think itโ€™s funny but if I spend my days being furious at all the horrible things happening in the world, Iโ€™ll never get anything done and will only hurt myself.

Iโ€™m not โ€œnonchalantโ€ but if you canโ€™t comprehend sarcasm or irony, then thereโ€™s really nothing left for me to say here.

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