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I am just stuck in exhausting and depressing cycle of chronic procrastination.

Ok so this is going to sound insane but trust me on this.

Stop snoozing. Set your alarm and when it goes off, count backwards from 5. By the time you get to 1, your feet should be on the ground.

Start with just this little step. If you look at your goals with a broad scope, youโ€™re going to feel overwhelmed, and when that happens, itโ€™s easy to get stuck. So take it one small step at a time.

P.S. I canโ€™t take credit for most of this advice. I love Mel Robbins (her books the 5 second rule and the high 5 method)

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How can I accept my daughter's boyfriend?

Iโ€™m going to start off by saying - no apologies for long replies! Ever! That just means you gave me a whole lot of clarification ๐Ÿ˜Š

You are such a good parent. You did everything you possibly could to protect your daughter. You didnโ€™t know, how could you? She lied - and I was under the very mistaken impression that you were aware of what was happening at an earlier age. I apologize for that assumption.

Honestly, I think youโ€™re going about it the right way. I really respect you as a person and a parent. Sometimesโ€ฆ you just have to let your kids make the mistakes they will. Maybe she will meet someone else as she grows and matures. She may legally be an adult, but she is very much a child in some aspects (crying when he leaves, lying, etc.)

Has your daughter been to therapy? Iโ€™ve been going and it has helped me tremendously. But forced therapy doesnโ€™t work - you have to want to change and my therapist โ€œkeeps it realโ€ as do I lol. Which means sessions can get tough.

I want to reiterate how much I respect all that you do for your daughter, how much you love her, and everything youโ€™ve done.

Parental guilt is a thing, but youโ€™re not omniscient. You provided her with the tools to be strong and independent. At the very least, she will not be financially abused and she has autonomy since he lives far from her.

Youโ€™ve better than a lot of two parent households.

Deep breaths, hopefully you wonโ€™t have to see him again for awhile! Continue to nurture your relationship with your daughter. She may stay with him for too long, but honestly, I think once she starts to really grow up (for me, it was my mid to late 20s) she will leave him.

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How can I accept my daughter's boyfriend?

I know this is an older post but can I just say that itโ€™s disgusting that a 28 year old was chatting up a 13 year old online? Have I understood the age difference correctly, here?

What could a 28 year old grown man have in common with a 13 year old child?

So sheโ€™s 21 and heโ€™s 36 now? Iโ€™m 35 years old. I have nothing in common with 21 year olds.

Age isnโ€™t just a number with these kinds of gaps. He โ€œgroomedโ€ her from a young age. Itโ€™s, quite frankly, criminal.

I donโ€™t think you should accept him, nor would I let him stay with me for a single night, but this post was from awhile ago, so Iโ€™m sure your situation has changed as heโ€™s probably currently staying with you.

Good luck.

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im not aways agreeable with this series but i do enjoy

Iโ€™m being a crotchety witch today Anon, my bad.

Looking at memes and watching satire doesnโ€™t make our problems go away, believe me, Iโ€™m aware. You SHOULD get angry and demand change.

But being furious 24/7 isnโ€™t going to do anything either. You have to compartmentalize or youโ€™ll lose any will to live.

So I can enjoy this show, have a laugh, learn something new AND be angry about the horrible things happening in this country in the same day. It doesnโ€™t have to be one or the other, right?

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im not aways agreeable with this series but i do enjoy

I donโ€™t think itโ€™s funny but if I spend my days being furious at all the horrible things happening in the world, Iโ€™ll never get anything done and will only hurt myself.

Iโ€™m not โ€œnonchalantโ€ but if you canโ€™t comprehend sarcasm or irony, then thereโ€™s really nothing left for me to say here.

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First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak outโ€”because I was not a socialist.

@ Anon YES ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ ๐Ÿ’ฏ this

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im not aways agreeable with this series but i do enjoy

@ Anonymous I think he was being ironic.

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im not aways agreeable with this series but i do enjoy

I like Patriot Act. I also watch John Oliver's show.

I started watching The Daily Show with Jon Stewart when I was a junior in high school (2003). I went to his rally in DC 2010 and saw Stewart live in 2012. I watched the Colbert Report too but I never really watched The Late Show when Colbert took over.

Minhaj isn't for everyone - sometimes his comedic style is "over the top". I think he does well, though. I prefer Oliver's dry British humor, but I can get down with Minhaj too.

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First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak outโ€”because I was not a socialist.

Jetmoo wrote:
Thats abit different to the version i heard. Seems like someone copied someone else

Not sure what version youโ€™ve read but the one Iโ€™ve posted is definitely the original.

https://encyclopedia.ushmm.org/content/en/artic...

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First they came for the socialists, and I did not speak outโ€”because I was not a socialist.

Lano wrote:
Gives you chills

Yeah it does

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