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need to break the silent mold i built myself into..

The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well. - Ralph Waldo Emerson

For so much of my life, I wished to be happy. But what does that even mean? There are so many different forms of ‘happy’ - euphoria, content, etc. What does that even mean to be happy?

I think you have figured out something in your depression that most people don’t figure out ever. The only way to be “happy” is to live for others.

When you’re depressed, it feels like the whole world is against you and like no one understands. It’s a lonely feeling. I think selflessness helps alleviate some of that. Therapy helps too, whether it’s a professional or someone you can just talk to.

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I had given up on this site.

I was temporarily banned once when I first started going on help.com. Most people probably wouldn’t have guessed that about me lol.

It was very upsetting for me at the time, but now ¯_(ツ)_/¯

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Do you think stay at home moms are lazy?

PepperJ wrote:
Had my first at age 30. 4th at nearly 41. Would have had a houseful of kids, but started late and had many miscarriages

This is where I’m at - starting late and worried. I had an ectopic pregnancy and my Fallopian tube burst (so I only have one). We want to be VERY financially secure and I feel like we’re not quite there yet. But if I could, I would have a bunch of them. I love kids! My favorite job was being a kindergarten teacher’s assistant.

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Do you think stay at home moms are lazy?

DocteurRalph wrote:
Who cares what they think? You can be a stay at home mom and home school your children, remodel your house and spend hours a day gardening and doing charity work. It's up to you whether you are lazy or not, and people who do know you will be able to judge accordingly. Stay at home and have a whole lot going on, nobody will think you're lazy. Be my mom... she was a superhero ha ha ha.

This really resonated with me. Thanks!

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Jalex wrote: The legend of Slenderman. That's just nonsense fairy tales right?

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That there are 6 media conglomerates that control almost all the news we get.

Oh, WAIT https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.businessinside...

So much for our news being unbiased 🤷🏻‍♀️

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Were the suicide posts of 10 years ago scripted ????

Mine weren’t. I was extremely depressed and I have a history of anxiety which I have only just gotten under control with anxiety medication (finally). Sometimes I would write a post anonymously and not reply, but keep looking at the responses from others which made me feel better. I was too overwhelmed to respond.

So maybe people thought it was “suspicious” but I can’t really control what others think or how they perceive things. The only person who knows the true intentions of the poster is OP him/herself. You just have to take everyone’s problems at face value and assume that they are being truthful. Better for us to be wrong in assuming the worst than assuming they’re lying and be wrong about that!

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Do you think stay at home moms are lazy?

Great answers, guys! At the moment, hubby works probably about 70 to 80 hours a week doing construction. I’m working 2 jobs-bookkeeping and real estate. I’m also 100% responsible for all of the household chores-cooking, laundry, cleaning, etc. I was working 4 jobs but I had to stop doing 2 of them because I was just way too overwhelmed. So I know I’m not a lazy person but I think you are right when you say it’s all about intention. Also, I should have written stay at home parent not stay at home mom.

I think my biggest concern is that one of my very good friends is a stay at home mom and her husband who is also a very good friend constantly complains about how she is lazy. My husband has said multiple times that he does not feel that way about me and that she and I are two very different people. The fact of the matter is, though, that I have a problem directly linking how much income I am bringing into the household with how much I am contributing to our family. I feel like it’s hard for me to put a value on my time and effort and not 100% how much cash I’m bringing in.

I hope what I’ve said made sense and wasn’t all over the place - I’m on my phone which makes this a bit more difficult to edit.

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Is there anyway to recover posts from the past?

I searched for my name in the old posts 😱 So many things I forgot about / was tagged in and never saw. Some things left best unseen, I think! This site can be a fresh start for some.

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I think this is the site (help.com) where my daughter, Pink Freud (Alice) modded.

She was an amazing person. When I first met her on help.com, she wasn’t a mod yet. Actually, she was still in high school! I was on the site intermittently but I never forgot her. We all miss her.

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