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Help me...find some new websites with interesting content to hang out on.

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I'm bored with my usual haunts, and am looking for things that are unusual and quirky; bonus points if there's a discussion board or busy comment section, too. Pretty much "family friendly" only, please.


The original help.com site was always busy, and I don't think for a moment there are fewer people needing help.

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So it follows this new version just isn't being "found" or isn't showing up when people are looking for answers.


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Everyday I want to crawl into a hole and be alone.

I think the "secret" is to always be the most kind person in the world to yourself. Others will be critical, so that's a role you don't have to play. Instead, just always think of yourself as your own favorite child, and think kind things.

- written - voted for by Araz, BananaLlama
Okay...posting this again.

DragonLady wrote:
But...I think everyone is benefitted if they wait a few years and spend some time just being grown up and free first.

Agree 100% [/quote]

(nods) I do believe it's important to be 100% free, not "wait and see" free. So that's why I'm an advocate of putting the hard truth on the table right away, letting the cards fall where they will with time and circumstance. When one builds the life they want, the right person to share it becomes easier to recognize.

- written - voted for by Araz, PepperJ
The original help.com site was always busy, and I don't think for a moment there are fewer people needing help.

I think we active members may have another method to help to make it better, but it will take some time & a bit of work.

Each day, we need to each start a topic that starts with "help me"

"Help me I'm bored" or "help me plan a party" or "help me choose a new car" or "help me with _______" whatever.

We can move up in the search engines for keywords if they appear often enough, and "help me" is probably the one most important for people who are really needing help. If we attach it to a variety of different topics, we can be more assured of being found by those who are looking.

- written - voted for by WritetheHeroine, Rockster160
Advice needed.

Change the self-defeating voice in your head to one that never, ever, ever abandons or judges you.

You choose the way you speak to yourself, and when you change that, everything else changes, too.

Instead of "oh, what a loser I am" make it "okay, that didn't work; I'll try again". It might take some time and practice, but you can do it.

- written - voted for by NacthoMan
Nobody else is going to start a post, looks like I'll have to talk to myself.

I've never been to any of those meetings, but I do understand about the constant talk making you miss the substances you were abusing.

I went through similar when I switched to vaping. Everyone I knew either smoked, or wanted to discuss my choice to switch, and I finally had to pretty much isolate myself from everyone for a while.

Maybe you can bring the issue up at the meeting, and ask others how they deal with it?

- written - voted for by Sherlock
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I have almost achieved a goal I have been chasing for the past 2-3 years.

Good for you following your dreams. It's scary; but for every thing that might go wrong, there is another that might go right, so try to keep your eye on the positive and don't let anything deter you or lead you away from your path.

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Heroes

My only true hero is -and has always been- Bugs Bunny. Really. Head over to youtube and spend an hour watching Bugs and the way he adapts to every situation, and solves almost all of his problems without ever losing his sense of self.

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Depressionโ€ฆ

I'm sorry you're going through that. Maybe cut back your work a bit and spend more time on a new hobby or with family? Something that keeps your mind busy?

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Why is the saying no good deed goes unpunished.

Yeah; I think it is sometimes.

When you do nice things for people they can take it for granted, then when you stop they get angry and do things that cause trouble for you.

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i just quit this site.

You say "I'm tired of it all being so metaphorical."

Why is it metaphorical? Is there something physically stopping you from standing up, taking a shower, putting on your favorite clothes, opening the door and walking 'til you reach a better life?

Sometimes, you have to take a deep breath, and just GO.... It takes courage and it takes a fair amount of no-longer-care-what-anyone-else-wants but if you're miserable where you are, then change it. No one can do that for you. The journey may be long or short, but you must take every step of it for yourself.

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