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I am an ordained minister, published author, and editor of a local newspaper.

Where did you grow up?

Huron and Oxford Counties, Ontario Canada

Where do you live now?

Exeter Ontario Canada

What is the highest level of education you have attained?

Trade School Certificate

What subjects did/do you enjoy most at school?

Tech, and science

What's your favorite sport or sports?


What kind of jobs have you held? Industries too!

Computer Tech, Factory worker, Fast food, Carpentry, Property Maintenance, Cabinet making, Minister, Author, Editor-in-Chief of newspaper

What hobbies are you into?

Tabletop RPG Gaming, Fishing, Camping

What causes are you concerned about today?

The future of the Royal Canadian Cadet Corps.

Which religion (if any) do you follow?

Universalism Christian

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I don’t know what to do now…

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Backstory: The building I work in has commercial space on the ground floor and apartments up above. My company was hired in part to be the super for the building. The building has never been properly maintained in the past 100 yrs. And there is absolutely structural damage. (Our company did what we could, but we didn’t have the budget to do much more than keep the apartments operational.) The building is comprised of 4 different adjoining sections.

Troubling times for us here at Help-QA

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It has been brought to my attention that there are people, members of our community, that don’t feel safe here.


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As many of you know, I have battled with depression for many years. The past two years or so I had been managing it well. The doctor even agreed with me, and I have been off meds now for about 6 months.


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So today while I was out doing a delivery, I was listening to the radio, and they were talking about heroes… and more specifically they were asking people who their childhood heroes were/are.

I want to play Dungeons & Dragons but I want to be the Characters and the DM… I’m told that is called writing a book!

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I think I'm in trouble.

My advice to you is to go and talk to your doctor right away.

Vomiting blood is never a good thing.

Please go and get checked out.

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Is emotional cheating just as bad as physical cheating or not as bad?

You should tell him how you feel. Good relationships are built on the trinity of: Trust, Communication, and Mutual Respect. This is true for all relationships whether romantic, professional, familial, fraternal, etc. And if one pillar is missing then the relationship is going to be miserable. If more than one is missing the relationship is almost guaranteed to fail

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So, I'm looking for an editor for my second book and I was wondering if someone here might be interested?

aeolians.revenge wrote:
Why use an editor when you already are an editor for a local paper??

As much as I can edit, you always need someone else to edit your own work. 😄

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I have autism (Aspergers) and dyspraxia and don't know what jobs I can do and feel like a drain to society.

I too am in the process of being diagnosed with Aspergers. And have gone through a similar struggle finding a job. I completely understand the frustrations you are feeling. I still feel them too to a certain extent.

Just because you are different, does not mean that you are not 'normal.' And it is very important to remember that. Difference, does not mean that you are not 'normal.' Normal is just the setting on a dryer.

For me, like yourself, I just had to keep looking for the job that fit for me. After many years of searching, I became the Editor of a newspaper. That was my perfect fit. It allowed me to be heard by the many without having to interact with the many, and it allowed me to put my mind to use.

Consider something similar. People like us who have Asperger's typically have high intellect, and find it hard to socialize. As such the jobs that we thrive in are the ones that let us use our strengths and keep us in the background away from people.
If you could find a job as an author, or journalist covering local events. Something where you don't have to interact socially and just report the facts could be ideal.
Or if you are not the one for writing, then look for something where you can use your strengths.

In my many year search to find a good fitting job for me... I got severe depression. I hope that you don't have the same thing happen to you.

You may not be the exact same as everyone else, but that doesn't mean that you deserve any different then they do. If everyone was the same then the world would be a very dull place.

As Music=Life said: Don't give up, even when things are hard. You don't have to struggle with this alone. 😄

- written - voted for by 𝕐ͤͭͥ̇𝕖𝕥𝕚。(Yeti.)
I can't bring myself to eat.

It seems like a long time, because in a crisis or even a difficult situation it is a long time. But that doesn't mean that it will be an insurmountable task to get to the appointment. :)

The BRAT diet might help, but that is more for easy digestion rather than the ability to get it down... That said it is probably a good place to start. If the bananas aren't doing the best then try applesauce. :)

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I don’t know what to do now…

And I just learned that they spoke briefly to another practicing lawyer... who told them not to move out, because the FD requires a court order to remove them.

However, as I understand it, all it takes is the FD to call a judge to sign the order... there's no hearing or anything. And given the state of the building, they wouldn't have a hard time getting the court order.

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I don’t know what to do now…

BA1 wrote:
Based on the criteria given, be prepared to jump the ship.

Even if the FD allows the structure to remain standing, it won't allow for any sort of habitation.'re kinda screwed.

Wash your hands and run.

That is what my business partner and I are doing... But how can I get it through to the tenants who are trying to fight it. They can't win this fight. They certainly have grounds to go after the owner for failing to maintain the building, but not to fight the FD.

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I don’t know what to do now…

BA1 wrote:
It wouldn't matter even if the tenant was partially correct about the buildings condition - it's about what the fire department says in general.
If it's not safe, it's NOT safe. (We all obviously agree).

So, the REAL 64 thousand dollar question is.......
What part of the picture does insurence play in this game?

The legitimate truth is, insurance should cover most all "unsafe" areas the fire department claims to exist.

If/being the case, you should be able to temporarily reshelter your tenants until the project is completed and deemed "safe," and then move them back in.

Insurance doesn't play into this at all. Because all of the issues were predating the acquisition of the building. All the issues were known, and nothing was actively done to stop the deterioration of the building.

We still haven't gotten word on what the owner is planning on doing with the building... and the FD still hasn't published the official report from the Structural Engineers. It is entirely possible that the FD will mandate that the building be demolished.

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I don’t know what to do now…

NacthoMan wrote:
i feel ya padre..

sigh. people are still childish no matter how old they are. Know that reason is the best mediator. if they wont listen .. provide some sort of solution.. remember.. a stubborn person inquires a careful plan within reason. such as temp stay somewhere else..

may it be relaying your solution. nobody likes to be ordered to do anything especially when its a osha/saftey mandate. so play ball .. the rules are in course.

might i add.. why are people residing in an incomplete housing complex??

the goal here is to build an affordable residence - and sure theres gonna be some check ups so n so.

This isn't an incomplete housing complex... It is an old building, that was in one family for close to 100 years. And in that 100 years they did virtually no maintenance. The building has needed a new roof for more than 25 years now. The water damage, and other structure issues have all just gotten worse over time.

Then the family that owned the building had a second mortgage and defaulted on it. Now the second mortgagee is in possession, and didn't do anything to the building either. I believe they were using it as a tax writeoff.

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I don’t know what to do now…

Lano wrote:
I have worked in customer service oriented jobs for a long time. I'm guessing you have worked with people a lot as well, so maybe this isn't news to you.

Some people are reasonable, and if you explain things to them logically, in a way they can understand, they will accept your explanation, however grudgingly.

Some people just want to vent. If you let them be angry and explain what is upsetting them, and let them air their grievance, that seems to help. Say that you get it, and be specific, if you can. Say how your cousin got evicted for a similar situation and how hard it was for him or her. Or whatever anecdote you may have that would apply.

All that said, some people just want what they want. They don't care about your reasons, perhaps they've already decided that they know better than you or that you either don't care or are out to cheat them.

In the last situation, like in the first two, you need to be the adult in the room and keep a cool head. To something like "I would rather go to jail." I would try some empathy and be more "real" than professional and say "Sir, I don't think you really want that. I understand that you want to say in your home but unfortunately that just isn't possible anymore." Perhaps offer to do some research to see if there are any similarly priced, comparable amenity apartments in the area on the spot with him.

If he is starting to get violent then you have to get the police involved. That is unacceptable behavior.

I tried all of those things... He just wasn't rational in any way, and stopped just short of actual violence.

One of the biggest issues with this eviction, is that there is a 0% housing market in the area here. And what housing is being built, it is all high end medium residential houses, and well out of the price range of all the tenants. My business partner and I have directed the tenants to those who may be able to help, but they don't seem to care, or are adamant that they are not leaving.

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