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Araz
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Have you ever cut off a family member.

Essentially โ€œdisowningโ€ them? Or been cut off yourself?

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Not for me. I know that happened to a boy on our block when he came out. Also my dad sort of shunned a couple of his cousins for a few years but he got over it eventually and i think they're mostly good now.

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nay over here.. mostly distant relatives don't concern the nearby fam. but i wouldn't count that as cast out.

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Yah a couple times it never seems to work tho lol.

All jokes aside, I have a cousin that I knew when I was younger. He vanished though and no one will tell me where he is or what happened to him.

Except my mom after DEMANDING that she give an answer finally she said he is married somewhere and has a family.

Why won't they give me a number tho? I can't find anything about him on social media or white pages, or location services. No phone numbers no addresses. Haven't been able to get in touch with him for years.

I worry he's dead and they are just leaving me to wonder. Or in the case of my mom eventually lied to me just to get me to back off it.

So in a way that feels sort of cut off from a family member and kind of pisses me off a lot at the rest of my fam.

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I haven't, but my uncle likes to cut people off. Sometimes I think it's really juvenile because it can be so easy to distance yourself without causing so much extra hurt and drama, like in my Uncle's case. I love him, but so far he has completely cut off his mother for not calling/caring/visiting enough, his brother for not agreeing with him, and he's on the edge with his sister also for a lack of contact. I think cutting contact is better way to hurt people than to actually ignore them and just not mention it. That's just in my extended family where people don't give a ****shit about each other. I can imagine in a really tight knit family where a horrible person is more up in your business, what the value of cutting contact would be.

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Well since my daughter started doing hard drugs again and moved out of state, I haven't spoken to her cuz she cut off all communications with everyone even her sister and that was 7 years ago.

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All of them, in my case.

For some people it is esential for healing to go 'no contact'. Look up 'cptsd healing/narcisistic abuse healing' etc.

If you have toxic, or abusive family, if your dad rapes you, if your mum spends all the money on her drugs, if your brother uses your identity for any scum he can do, for example.. I have read numerous horor stories on the support pages I'm in.

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My next door neighbor cut off all contacts with his elderly father. His dad was living with him and got a couple of credit cards in the son's name and maxed them out at $10,000 apiece. The next thing I knew he kicked his dad out and moved him into a hotel 100 miles away and that was the last we saw of him.... I didn't really blame the guy.

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