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A guy I went out with just reached out and asked me to lunch.

Anonymous wrote:
Update- my gynecologist called and I have a STI. So there is my answer on this topic

Have they informed you which one?

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Best Approach?

ProffVampy wrote:
haha i thought id be able to jump in somewhere higher up too but that wasnt the case and i needed a job. luckily the residents are very relevent to me and part of me does enjoy the work so definitely done better than most of my graduating friends who have no idea what to do or where to start.

Aye, it's definitely better than wandering around for a year or longer without any employment opportunities showing up. If it contributes at all to the career path (or you need the money), it's worth it. A pleasurable experience is an added bonus at this stage.

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Wow!

I am channeling the spirits of this place. They are saying...

Spirits wrote:
True. They do choose to be alone. But in a monastary, aren't you part of a community, still?

Hmm, let's try that again.

Spirits wrote:
What happens here is that some cells can remain alive long after the animal is dead. (This happens to every living creature). Salt contains positively charged sodiun ions which is what gives the nerves the stimuli to react. It's like they're getting a signal from their brain, except there's no brain, so they feel nothing.

That's odd. Last one:

Spirits wrote:
I forgot about that. Superman used to fly around the earth a couple of times and arrive before he left. Neat trick.

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Best Approach?

ProffVampy wrote:
hey yeti :)

i work as a care assistant at the moment so alot of that doesnt apply. and the next job is an assistant psychologist which is what i need for my doctorate experience and also yes pays alot more! ive not been at my current job for 2months yet so not had time to get bonuses or letters like that. also i cant get a payrise to anything like i could get and i have to do various qualifications to get small ones. and my clients are the residents i look after, i feel kinda bad because ive formed a friendly bond with some of them.

Oh, care assistant? I mean not to denigrate, but thought you had been higher on the ladder, so to speak. Not much cause for worry in leaving, as this training simply falls short of your ultimate goal as psychologist - or so you could state without prevaricating in the least.

Methinks it's the nature of the job, in a way. The closer you are to doctor, the more distant from your patients, in the modern world. A necessary sacrifice.

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Anyone familiar with Indian culture?

His age and number of years in the country would make a large difference, and obviously personal preference. If he's 2nd or 3rd gen, the effect is practically negligible (and stereotyping might be a bad idea).
If you don't care either way, go with clean shaven or a short trim like the youngsters, if suitable - the modern standard is fairly pervasive. There are ample points to be gained or lost on germane metrics.

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Best Approach?

Hello, vampy.
Our circumstances differ vastly, in particular I've left every place so far without a reference letter by choice, so take any advice with a grain of salt, but these are my observations, in no particular order:
- Mind any noncompetition clauses in your contract (ie cannot work for a competitor or with a client for x months). I've been informed they can be circumvented legally if it's your only occupation (may or may not be relevant yonder), but it's still something to watch out for.
- Keep any thank you notes or stylised bonus letters - with a bit of editing they can demonstrate your diligence too.
- Ensure that your work (specifically projects) is orderly, but not bulletproof or "giftwrapped" - easy to pick up by your successor, containing minor built in flaws which they'd need to ask you about. I still receive occasional calls years later, filled with courtesy despite the obstinate manner of my departure.
- This is a point of contention with my parents; I believe in not giving any more reason to begrudge you than necessary. Namely, give proper notice, do your best even when you know you won't be staying long, assist when possible, exhibit proper decorum.
- If you can form any personal bonds, they may well surpass your professional reputation in utility.
- Find or form a better excuse than monetary gain for your departure - asking for (and being refused) a raise may be a logical dealbreaker, but consider other aspects like the 12hr shifts, unsatisfactory nature of employ, plans for higher education, possibly various office conditions (that might border on shrewish). Give your current employer the opportunity to counter the offer, and consider it (at least ostensibly).
- A client's favour could be more valuable to you personally than the to organisation, and than your colleagues'. (Mayhap less relevant given the nature of your clientele.)

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Keeping in touch.

Puck:
https://archive.help-qa.com/posts/601578-in-mem...

Thankfulness:
https://archive.help-qa.com/history/many-replie...

https://help-qa.com/posts/340-so-we-have-to-com...

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how to be human

This one seems to be based on https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarch... .

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Hey everyone, long time no see.

CommanderIkari wrote:
I wasn't really scared, a bit nervous and surprised by my own daring perhaps.I've made a few good friends here, have a decent social circle. On the contrary, I think that cross-cultural pollination is mostly a good thing; if you see something you like from another culture, why not enrich your own by incorporating it? A lot of it is the sort of inevitable things that come with modernization and development, like the breakdown in the authoritarian nature of families, where they dictate your marriage, career, etc, and increasingly equitable footing of men and women. Sort of the same way that in the west, the traditional "Father knows best" "I just need to marry well", "I can't do what I want if it doesn't accord with what they want" thing went away, so it is in China. There's a generational gap in culture, expectations, etc. It's like the west, just a bit further back in time.

Censorship is around, but you can find out everything you need to.

Glad to hear you're getting along well socially.
I have some reservations towards this trend in the long term, but I suppose it's at least more accommodating than before.

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Keeping in touch.

verge wrote:
Mindhealer hasn't been to this new and improved help, but he's well. :)

I thought the gratefulness post would coax him out. ;)

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