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how to be human


so, I google searched this question, and found a lot of interesting articles. I believe sometimes we forget how to be humans, so I'm copy pasting the wikihow article which got me thinking, and I'm hoping for any positive input that could help make us a guide with useful phrases on what it means to be a human. because sometimes we need a reality check in order to appreciate who we are and what we have, we seem to forget easily and we sometimes need to reevaluate our goals and needs.
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Meet basic physical needs. Human beings cannot exist in a vacuum - without caring for certain physical needs, humans will soon die. Take care of your basic well being or you'll have a very hard time meaningfully pursuing the more advanced steps. At bare minimum, humans need to:
Breathe oxygen. Human beings' most pressing need is to breathe air containing oxygen almost constantly. At the absolute longest, humans can go only about 20 minutes without air;[1] most can only last a fraction of that time.
Eat edible foods and drink water. Humans eat food for energy and to provide vital nutrients for essential body processes. At a minimum, humans should consume adequate amounts of carbohydrates, proteins, and fats, as well as several essential vitamins and minerals. Humans also drink water, as it is crucial for many internal processes. The precise amounts of food and water you should consume as a human varies based on your size and your level of physical activity.
Sleep. Humans still aren't completely sure what the purpose of sleep is, though we do know that it's vital for physical and mental performance.[2] The healthiest adult humans usually sleep 7-8 hours a night.[3]
Maintain homeostasis. Essentially, humans need to keep their external environment from interfering with their internal body. This can take many forms - for instance, wearing clothes to regulate body temperature and repairing wounds with sutures, wounds, etc.

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Secure your safety. A human's second responsibility, after meeting his or her innate requirements for life, is to eke out his or her safety. To thrive, humans can't be worried about whether they will starve or die - such thoughts will override any attempts to reach higher levels of human accomplishment. Here are just a few ways to ensure you're "safe" as a human:
Avoid danger. Don't stay near places or situations that can cause physical damage to your body. Injuries can affect your physical health and even cause you to die.
Get or build a home. Humans need a place to live that offers protection from the elements. At the bare minimum, this place should have four walls and a place to sleep.
Pursue a living. Most of the planet earth uses money. Money can be exchanged for goods and services, including food, clothing, and shelter. Most humans eventually get a job to receive a dependable stream of money.

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Form human relationships. Famous human Aristotle is remembered as saying: "Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human."[4] In your life as a human, you will meet people. Some will make you feel good - these are "friends." You may feel a sexual and/or romantic attraction to some: Such a person is a "romantic interest", who can develop into a spouse. A life lived alone is not a fulfilling one - spend time cultivating healthy relationships for a richer, more emotional life.
To maintain friendships, you'll need to "hang out" with your friends. Invite them over for brunch. Talk about sports. Forge a bond with your friends - help them when they need it, and they'll be around to help you.
If you're looking for a romantic relationship, most of them start when one person asks another out. See our list of articles on asking humans out for guidance.

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Cultivate your self-esteem. Humans feel better when they consider themselves valuable and they know that others consider them valuable. It's easiest to respect yourself and for others to respect you if you've achieved something. Try to strive for success, whether it's at your job or in other activities that you practice for fun (these are called "hobbies.") Know and be confident in your own abilities. Respect humans who respect you.
Relationships with others can help boost your self-esteem when you feel sad, but self-esteem begins within. Don't depend on other peoples' approval for your self-esteem.

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Validate your existence. Once humans are physically secure, have a foundation of healthy relationships, and have a good self-image, they may begin to ponder questions such as "Why are we here?" Different humans ascribe a variety of purposes to human life. Many humans adopt a set of moral principals or develop their own. Others embark on creative endeavors, expressing their innermost thoughts through art. Others still try to make sense of the universe through science or philosophy. There's no right way to make the most of your existence, but here are just a few ideas:
Subscribe to an existing (or develop your own) philosophy and/or religion.
Write, draw, play music, or dance.
Become an innovator in your craft.
Experience (and care for) nature.
Whatever you choose to do, try to make your mark on the world. Improve the earth for those who come after you in some way, however small.

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Learn how to love others and be loved. Love is difficult to define; the Merriam-Webster dictionary defines it as a feeling of intense affection, attachment, and/or desire for another human.[5]Many humans say that the best thing in life is to love (and be loved by) other human beings. Many humans get married to commit to a life of loving a romantic partner. Others still start families and have children so that they can love someone from the beginning of his or her life to the point that they die. There's no right way to live a love-filled life - all you can do is follow your heart and embrace love's mysterious, inexplicable humanity.

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๐•อคอญอฅฬ‡๐•–๐•ฅ๐•šใ€‚(Yeti.) wrote:
This one seems to be based on https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maslow's_hierarch... .

yep! it's based on Maslow's hierarchy of needs. what I wanted to point out, and the reason I didn't use the pyramid, and the thing I wanted to make as conclusion, is that, from step 2 and above, it's not exactly "needs" anymore, because you can survive and live a happy life any way you choose. someone could live happily without having a home, another might not need a relationship, etc. humans don't come with a manual book and it would be stupid if you tried to give them instructions on how to live their life. first of, we don't need to know that we need to breathe and eat. in order to die, you need to choose to stop doing what you do from default. but in order to live a happier life, you need to choose to do some things. anyways..
oh, forgot to say, there are two books named "how to be human", the one is written by Ruby Wax, a funny, motivational book with a scientific approach, and the other is written by Paula Cocozza, it's the story of the life of a woman who was abused in her marriage and her life after.

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Thanks for sharing. I found this very insightful and it is making me think more about life as i was continuing to read each paragraph.

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I don't know if you can be happy if #3 is not met.

Great post, btw

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beautycomesfromwithin wrote:
Thanks for sharing. I found this very insightful and it is making me think more about life as i was continuing to read each paragraph.

hi! yes, that's the reason I posted, it made think a lot. thanks a lot!!!

PepperJ wrote:
I don't know if you can be happy if #3 is not met.

Great post, btw

hi! I'm not sure about this one. there are people out there who claim to be happier alone. personally I think they're either disappointed or too afraid of being hurt (again). but I'm pretty sure you can live a happy life when you have some sort of communication with other people, even if you don't have close friends. and also there are people who choose to be alone in the wild or in monasteries or even travel all the time.
thanks for your input! I appreciate it a lot!

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True. They do choose to be alone. But in a monastary, aren't you part of a community, still?

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PepperJ wrote:
True. They do choose to be alone. But in a monastary, aren't you part of a community, still?

oh! I see that "monk" has a different meaning in English! I don't know how things work there. in greek, monk litteraly means "to be alone"! there are monasteries that are communities and there are other monks living in mountains, inside cells, and they often don't see people for days. if they live in a community monastery, they often have one job, they pray alone or in teams, do the job and then pray again. nothing like the community we have in mind. but you're right. I suppose they have some sort of communication, but often they don't have close bonds with anyone. and most important, they don't have family bonds. many of them take the vow of silence. oh, and the first synthetic of the word monastery, means alone. (so in my crazy mind you asked me something that didn't make sense! hah sorry)

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wouldn't this grow on us better if it had a personal touch to it..?? anyone can read science .. doesn't make us a scientist, tho im pretty sure there are some zealots who can easily apply this information and turn their lives around a hundred and eighty degrees matrix style.

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Kalinihta wrote:

PepperJ wrote:
True. They do choose to be alone. But in a monastary, aren't you part of a community, still?

oh! I see that "monk" has a different meaning in English! I don't know how things work there. in greek, monk litteraly means "to be alone"! there are monasteries that are communities and there are other monks living in mountains, inside cells, and they often don't see people for days. if they live in a community monastery, they often have one job, they pray alone or in teams, do the job and then pray again. nothing like the community we have in mind. but you're right. I suppose they have some sort of communication, but often they don't have close bonds with anyone. and most important, they don't have family bonds. many of them take the vow of silence. oh, and the first synthetic of the word monastery, means alone. (so in my crazy mind you asked me something that didn't make sense! hah sorry)

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NaCtHoMaN wrote:
wouldn't this grow on us better if it had a personal touch to it..?? anyone can read science .. doesn't make us a scientist, tho im pretty sure there are some zealots who can easily apply this information and turn their lives around a hundred and eighty degrees matrix style.

yep! you're absolutely right and I wish I could! but I got my C2 when I was 16, so, it's not gonna happen!!! ๐Ÿ˜€ ๐Ÿ˜„ I'll just let your imagination go wild on this one! (you'll actually see me do this a lot, post something I read or answer with a video instead of giving my own opinion.)

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Kalinihta wrote:
In (the) Greek, 'monk' literally means "to be alone." There are monks living in mountains, inside cells, and they often don't see people for days. (And sometimes weeks). They pray alone or do the job alone and then pray again, like nothing in mind. They don't have close bonds with people in general, and most no longer have family ties. And the first synthetic (for) the word monastery, also means alone.

The Big Alone wrote:
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BIG.AL.ONE wrote:

Kalinihta wrote:
In (the) Greek, 'monk' literally means "to be alone." There are monks living in mountains, inside cells, and they often don't see people for days. (And sometimes weeks). They pray alone or do the job alone and then pray again, like nothing in mind. They don't have close bonds with people in general, and most no longer have family ties. And the first synthetic (for) the word monastery, also means alone.

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oh thanks a lot Al!!! I really appreciate this! :)
@PepperJ what Al said! ๐Ÿ˜‹

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Cool post, I am curious about what we have in common among those things with all the other beasts.

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verge wrote:
Cool post, I am curious about what we have in common among those things with all the other beasts.

when I read the article it made me think something about basic instincts. let me (try to!) explain.
it's said that our basic instincts is what keeps us alive and protect us. this is the reason why you feel hungry etc.
but. when a baby is born, although they do have the basic instincts, you'll often hear parents say that babies are always trying to get themselves killed! why is that? why does a baby feel hunger but they could easily jump from a balcony? because balcony is manmade. children have the instincts to survive but they're not programmed to live in a city. same goes for animals. they don't feel the need to built a house unless it's important for their survival.
that's why I often say there's a difference between need and want.

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