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Why is he like this?

He confuses me so much. This’d guy is constantly joking with me and messing with me. Half of the time I’m just quiet and he always talks first with me. Well, he seems to flirt. And acts like he enjoys my company. But then he goes and says stuff and I’m just like ouch. Someone made the comment about the world ending and how we are at work. And I said I wish I could be somewhere else like an island...ya know if it were true. And this girl said “but you would take us right?” And I said “of course.” And he said “I wouldn’t be with you all. I would be with people I like better.” And I’m just like ouch. I don’t get it. He acts like he likes me even if it’s just friendly but then he’s been throwing little insults my way. He’s done this before. And so I will try and distance myself from him because I like him and it makes me feel awkward. And it makes me feel like he doesn’t want me around. But then the more quiet I am, the more he tries to talk to me.

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Why is he like this? He confuses me so much. This’d guy is constantly joking with me and messing with me. Half of the time I’m just quiet and he always talks first with me. Well, he seems to flirt. And acts like he enjoys my company. But then he goes and says stuff and I’m just like ouch. Someone made the comment about the world ending and how we are at work. And I said I wish I could be somewhere else like an island...ya know if it were true. And this girl said “but you would take us right?” And I said “of course.” And he said “I wouldn’t be with you all. I would be with people I like better.” And I’m just like ouch. I don’t get it. He acts like he likes me even if it’s just friendly but then he’s been throwing little shadeinsults my way. He’s done this before. And so I will try and distance myself from him because I like him and it makes me feel awkward. And it makes me feel like he doesn’t want me around. But likethen thisthe more quiet I am, the more he tries to talk to me.

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Have you ever heard of this term “negging”?

Definition: Negging is an act of emotional manipulation whereby a person makes a deliberate backhanded compliment or otherwise flirtatious remark to another person to undermine their confidence and increase their need of the manipulator's approval. The term was coined and prescribed by pickup artists.

It’s a fairly common technique used by younger guys and I really hate it. I’ve had it used on me and it’s super frustrating. My advice is to not fall for it and focus on people who will lift you up, not people like this guy.

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Rule number 1. Guys are stupid.
Rule number 2.

There is no rule number 2. Repeat rule 1 as often as it takes. Out loud if necessary.

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soco wrote:
Rule number 1. Guys are stupid.
Rule number 2.

There is no rule number 2. Repeat rule 1 as often as it takes. Out loud if necessary.

HEYYY.. I resemble that comment, so quit it!

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BigWilly! wrote:

soco wrote:
Rule number 1. Guys are stupid.
Rule number 2.

There is no rule number 2. Repeat rule 1 as often as it takes. Out loud if necessary.

HEYYY.. I resemble that comment, so quit it!

RESEMBLE 😂 omg I don’t know if that’s autocorrection or on purpose, but either way, it’s perfect ❤️

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Araz wrote:

RESEMBLE 😂 omg I don’t know if that’s autocorrection or on purpose, but either way, it’s perfect ❤️

Homie don't do autocorrect.

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@BigWilly!! funny 😂

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That's because he's a dick. He likes quiet submissive women who will let him think for them. At least that's the impression I'm getting from this very vague and detached experience you're painting for us.

Smart ***ass comments like "I'd be hanging with people I like better" or whatever, is like the total opposite of, "Hey I like you and I'd like to hang out with you more"


It seems to me he's made his feelings pretty obvious. Why are you trying to read between the lines here? I don't think there's gonna be anything to find.

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Anonymous wrote:
That's because he's a dick. He likes quiet submissive women who will let him think for them. At least that's the impression I'm getting from this very vague and detached experience you're painting for us.

Smart ***ass comments like "I'd be hanging with people I like better" or whatever, is like the total opposite of, "Hey I like you and I'd like to hang out with you more"


It seems to me he's made his feelings pretty obvious. Why are you trying to read between the lines here? I don't think there's gonna be anything to find.

I disagree with this in the strongest possible terms. He is definitely interested.

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