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If you follow someone on social media and they tell you they don’t post much is that their way of telling you not to follow them?

I added some people on social media today and the one person I asked if it was ok and they said they don’t post much. And I said “well, I won’t follow you if you don’t want me to.” And they said “follow away.” But yet they didn’t follow me back.

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Do you think this person has a large social circle?

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Idk. It’s just a few people I work with. Idk if the one wanted me to add them or not. They talk with me a lot. But I think some people can get weirded out by that.

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Maybe they didnt see that you followed them yet?

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Usually

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Why is that important? What I got out of your post is this: "It's more about me than you."

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Still doesn't answer my question -

If your colleague has little to no social circle then you should take what s/he said a little less personally. When s/he said, "I don't post much on social media," it wasn't a statement to stop you from following. It was a statement telling you that it may not be worth while....

But, here's what happens when you take it personally -

You said “Well, I won’t follow you if you don’t want me to.” It's right here, at this point, that you assumed what s/he said to mean something entirily different.
Now, you've put that person in a bad circumstance because you made him/her feel like a bad guy for rejecting you and s/he must now salvage what they can by ceremonially holding your hand and assuring you -
"And they said 'follow away.' "

Even after all that, the only thing it seems you walked away with was -

"But yet they didn’t follow me back."

This means you didn't hear a thing. When s/he said "Follow anyway," s/he wasn't stopping you OR giving you permission to follow, it was a do-what-you-like statement.

And you did. You got on social media and followed them - but it just doesn't end there. Now, you have the expectation that in following him/her that s/he should follow you back....

This paints a portrait of a relationship that never happened, based on a misunderstood interaction.

When it comes to social media, you generally don't need to ask permission from someone to follow them - just follow them. And if you happen to catch their eye and they are interested, they may follow you back.

Good luck.

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People who don't use social media much don't follow back because they don't check their account often. This person isn't going to tell you not to follow them because - that's AWKWARD - but this interaction makes sense to me.

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