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I have fallen in love and I don't want it!

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I am married; he is married. I'm not going to cheat on my spouse.

All he did was talk and listen for an hour, and now I have all the physio-chemical signs of "in love" and it's completely stupid and ridiculous. How do I make it stop?

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Well, the good thing is, you are quite aware of the reason why you have feelings for him, and the most importantly, you realise that it is just some unwanted chemical reaction upon which you will not act!

The bad thing is, I don't know the solution, sorry. I have fallen for the worst guys out there numerous times, not when I was married, but they were too toxic or abusive; so if you will find the solution, please do let me know.x

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I never had this happen before. I should apologize to everyone who I ever doubted had accidentally "fallen in love".

Seriously, neither of us did anything even remotely inappropriate.

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imo love is overrated

but with all the love songs out there proves me wrong that love still goes strong.

who am i to argue.

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NacthoMan wrote:
imo love is overrated

It sucks. It's a loss of self control, and a whole bunch of weird sickish feelings and obsessive thoughts. I'm too old for this nonsense, and I have a very stable life that I don't want to wreck.

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Anonymous wrote:

NacthoMan wrote:
imo love is overrated

It sucks. It's a loss of self control, and a whole bunch of weird sickish feelings and obsessive thoughts. I'm too old for this nonsense, and I have a very stable life that I don't want to wreck.

good enough for me :)

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Anonymous wrote:
I have a very stable life that I don't want to wreck.

will let you on a little secret, because you have stable life, you unconsciously want to wreck your life :) welcome to humanity, we make 0 sense ^_^

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It's been a little over a week and the edge has worn off a little. Probably I'll be ok.

As an experiment, I contemplated kissing, touching, etc this person, and it was difficult. It is easy to imagine talking together or just hanging out as friends. Can a person have a platonic infatuation?

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The physical/ emotional signs will go away (never mind the intensity now) if you pluck up the courage and disconnect entirely from that person.
Especially if this is early days, you can nip this right in the bud, but you must cease ALL contact with the other person... if you truly want to avoid cheating on your spouse.

Remember its not just your relationship at stake, but his too. A lot of pain and heartache could result.

The more you keep in contact the more feelings will build and the harder it will be to pull away. Do the right thing now.

Use the time instead to magnify the positive aspects of your husband and remind yourself of why you got together in the first place.

It is all about shifting attention and it's all up to you.

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