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How do you make friends as an adult?

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Smile. I thought you knew that already.

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Hobbies. That's basically the only way. ๐Ÿ˜‚

Find a hobby, even if it's as simple as walking. There are lots of online meetup type sites and apps where you can find others that enjoy the hobby as well. Find groups that talk about or do the hobby collectively. Join those groups, and be open. Talk to people and be friendly. Friends will come.

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I walk in my neighborhood every evening. I frequent the public library. I'm in two community organizations. I put my garden in my front yard and occasionally passersby ask about it. I'm nice but not particularly friendly. I smile and say hello, and they reply back, but I have no idea what is supposed to happen next.

Had a conversation with a neighbor about bees the other day. Might join a local beekeeping group.

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@Rockster160 hobbies are solving Rubic's cubes with one hand while doing backflips and making waffles.
[you DON'T want to see what his kitchen looks like after.]

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Float like a butterfly. Sting like a bee!

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Smiley, the only way I have found to make friends as an adult, is to join a group or a workplace, and one of the existing members adopts you... so to speak. If there is some other way, I'd be interested to know what it is. :)

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Padre_J_Roulston wrote:
Smiley, the only way I have found to make friends as an adult, is to join a group or a workplace, and one of the existing members adopts you... so to speak. If there is some other way, I'd be interested to know what it is. :)

If I find an answer, I'll let you know. I'm usually the one left out of workplace social gatherings. I've never "fit in" with other engineers. I do have some wonderful internet friends, and folks I've kept contact with over the years.

When I used to go to church I had some nice friends, but they dropped me like a hot potato when I decided their religion wasn't right for me. They seemed nice anyway. They sat with me in the hospital while I was giving birth to my second son and my then-husband went bowling.

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Places of worship still work. Find one you like and attend regularly. Get involved in outreach projects. There are single men and women everywhere unless its a couples only type gathering. To reach a guys heart, start with his tummy. Give him something great to eat!

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Places of worship still work. Find one you like and attend regularly. Get involved in outreach projects. There are single men and women everywhere unless its a couples only type gathering. To reach a guys heart, start with his tummy. Give him something great to eat!

Not looking for that kind of love, just folks to hang with, talk about life the universe and everything, go for hikes or walks, drink tea, and maybe learn some new ways of seeing the world.

I do political and environmental causes, not religion. I have my beliefs, but other folks whose beliefs are similar are from a different universe. (For starters I'm white, poor, and Muslim and it gets weirder from there.)

I have acquaintances. How do I make the jump from acquaintance to friend? I always invite people to meet for coffee or tea, and for the past fifteen years only one person has ever accepted that invitation. Do I need to be more interesting, or maybe I simply need a different invitation?

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My brother bought some racquet ball equipment and regularly posts on social media that he's got a gym membership with a guest, so he can bring other people. He just leaves an open invite and talks to people about it and now and then he gets people to come.

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