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I don’t want to be angry.

It is exhausting. But every time I try and forgive and forget I just get let down over and over again. I have trust issues and I try not to let that get in the way of my friendships and relationships. But then I end up giving everyone the benefit of the doubt when maybe they don’t deserve it. I don’t know what is worth my time anymore and what I should just give up on.

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You learn and grow from everything.
Understanding comes at a price and part of that is pain.
To avoid it means you stop growing. Seems good in the moment, but is not good long term.

You don’t need be in faulty relations. Just take the lessons and move on to the next. In time it gets easier to know where you’re time is worth spending. Also need to recognize your self worth and take responsibility for your journey through life.

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I am familiar with the cycle, too. Get also confused about who to trust and then end up trusting the worst possible people.. (in every way - not only personal relationships, but also professional).

Wonder if you experienced any abuse in childhood and this is still not resolved, or had a toxic family. These things tend to affect our ability to trust and to judge people correctly.

But it is possible to resolve! There are many therapists on youtube, for example, who talk about these issues if you would like to look. If you can afford one for yourself, it might be a good investment also.

All the best, hope things will improve and you will experience relationships with unconditional love and trust.

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Life is up and down. Often, both at the very same time.
There is a saying "Forgive quickly, and forget slowly."
I'm not a fan of sayings, follow your instincts and do what you think is right.

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You sound like me.trying to do the right thing but always being taken advantage of by those that aren't. I can tell you for sure your time is not worth that. If I could only follow my own advice, I'd tell you to only agree to do something for someone else if you gain a clear benefit and if you are able to hold them accountable for doing their part.

Do you know all these other ***ass hole people will be as lazy and worthless as they can so long as there's people like us that feel obligated to do it for them if they don't? Remember your not naturally born angry. Something is making you angry. There is a reason. Your biology is trying to tell you something.

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Forgive, let go of the anger, but never forget.

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