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Why are my chocolate chip cookies cakey and not dense and chewey?

And . . . not all ovens are at the temperature the indicator dial says they are. Some are hotter, some cooler. You might think your oven is at 400 degrees, when it is really 350.

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The wave might be passing...

We "overthink" most things.

The bottom line on relationships: "Does this person make me feel better about myself and the world, or does he/she have the opposite effect on me?"

Or: "Does this person build me up or tear me down?"

I have noted that for guys, control is a great issue. Most of them like to be in control.

Example: I was professor of military science at a large university. We had females in the ROTC program. Two or three times a year, a female cadet would come to me and say that she wanted out of the program "because my boyfriend doesn't want me to be in the Army."

"OK," I would say. "Is this boyfriend ever going to be anything but a boyfriend? Has he given you an engagement ring?" No, I was told, the boyfriend had not said or done anything to take the relationship to the next level.

I laid out my reasons why the girl should stay. In about 100% of the cases, the girl left the ROTC program at her boyfriend's insistence.

And, in about 100% of the cases, the boyfriend dropped the girlfriend like a hot potato.

BUT, you see, he wanted to see if he had that much power over her--to get her to make a life decision without making any commitment to her whatsoever.

About 50% of the girls wanted back in--but no could do. The other half just moped around.

In one case, a male and female cadet married after receiving their officer's commissions. The guy kept hounding his wife to resign her commission.

Finally, she did.

A few months later he left her. She tried to get back in--but it was too late.

Once the guys found out that they could control the girl, they no longer wanted her.

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This gender neutral initiative is confusing.

In Canada, the feminists cheered the easy access to abortion.

But then something happened.

Many Asian immigrants were visiting the abortion clinics to abort female babies. Boy babies were allowed to come to full term. But these families wanted sons, because that was their "social security." When the son marries, he takes his new wife into his parents home, and the mother-in-law bosses the daughters-in-law. To be a mother-in-law is to be a supervisor, and freed from the drudgery of housework. To be a daughter-in-law is to be an indentured servant for a lot longer than seven years. Daughters do not provide social security, as they go to their husbands' home and take care of the husband's parents, instead of her own.

The feminists began to weakly protest--but they knew they had little they could say because of their "pro-choice" stance. They just never figured that people would go nuts aborting girl babies. This is a perfect example of "the law of unintended consequences."

In one particular Chinese province, families were aborting girl babies to such an extent that the men in that province have to leave it in order to find a wife. Another perfect example of the law of unintended consequences!

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Are pit bulls safe to have as a domestic dog?

I can just imagine that little girl, when she is five or six, asking, "Mommy, Daddy, how come I have these ugly scars on my face when other kids don't?"

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The wave might be passing...

How about Helpbotcide?

Oh, well!

You have found that, ultimately, it is up to you to make "you" happy.

We should never look to another person to "complete" ourselves. To complement ourselves, yes, but to make us "whole," no.

If you look to another person to make yourself complete, you are on the road to disaster.

It's also a mistake to think that any of us is an "island." We need other people. We need relationships. We need friends.

As in all things, a "balance" is what should be approached. You do not want to be a hermit, but neither do you want to seek a "rescuer" or "messiah."

Look at a relationship as to what you could bring to it, rather than what you could get out of it.

You are now living in the best of times--and the worst of times. The best of times because you are overcoming challenges, and the worst of times because you don't yet know how you fit into the cosmos. You can feel the tension between those things, can you not?

The good news: everything works out in the end! ;-)

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Why are my chocolate chip cookies cakey and not dense and chewey?

Big-Al-One wrote:

Sherlock wrote:
When I encounter these problems, it's usually because I have bought an inferior brand of cookies!

TOLL HOUSE cookies, Sherlock. Not TROLL HOUSE....

The difference is astounding!

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Are pit bulls safe to have as a domestic dog?

ANOTHER pit bull attack (from CBSNews.com):

FALMOUTH, Mass. -- Authorities say a 1-year-old girl has life-threatening injuries after she was attacked by the family dog, CBS Boston reports. Falmouth police said the girl was playing in the kitchen with her father nearby Sunday morning when the pit bull terrier attacked and bit her in the face.

Her father was unable to separate the dog from the child, police said. He grabbed a pistol but when he realized it was unloaded he picked up a knife and stabbed the pit bull . . .

. . . The family has owned the pit bull for five years and it has no known history of violence or aggression, according to a preliminary police investigation.

The attack appeared to be unprovoked . . .

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How on earth do i write a business plan when there are so many unknowns?

How about leasing a building?

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This gender neutral initiative is confusing.

Al is right, and I must concede that the "gender neutralists" have a point. For decades--maybe even centuries--we have used the pronoun "he" to mean either "he" or "she." We have used such terms as policeMEN, fireMEN, and fisherMEN to include members of both sexes. I have no problem with using terms such as police officers, fire responders and fishermen and fisherwomen, or just plain "fishers." And when Jesus said to some of his hopeful disciples, "Come and I will make you fishers of men," the more literal translation is, "Come and I will make you fish for people."

I must also confess to being too much of a Malthusian when it comes to women in front-line combat positions. You can lose a LOT of men, and still keep your society intact. But if you lose a LOT of women, then your society has pretty much run its course.

It's also very Malthusian to note that a society that holds its women back will not progress very far. The Middle East holds perfect examples of this Malthusian law.

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Why are my chocolate chip cookies cakey and not dense and chewey?

When I encounter these problems, it's usually because I have bought an inferior brand of cookies!

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