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so there is this girl.

We met online and go hiking together 1/week. Everything is fine when we are together. However, when I message her on her phone she berly replies and sometimes answers half of the question or non at all.

Asked the name of her friends and stuff and she totally ignores the questions. Most of the time she answers before she goes to bed or the next day on lunch break or something... I feel like she is not interested.

But if she is not interested, why would she still continue going out with me, i dont get it.

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Some people just don’t like to text. That’s what it sounds like to me! Why don’t you ask her to do something a little bit more intimate like dinner? Then you would know for sure.

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Maybe she likes being your friend and thinks you guys are just friends. I have had friendships like that which had to end because I thought we were just friends and everything was fine and we only needed to talk once a week and found out they were on a different page.

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annaisherealright wrote:
Maybe she likes being your friend and thinks you guys are just friends. I have had friendships like that which had to end because I thought we were just friends and everything was fine and we only needed to talk once a week and found out they were on a different page.

I think I might be going through this situation at the moment

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Call her to see if she's okay or text her to see how she is mentally. There is a lot of reasons why she is not replying properly. She might be going through some things that she doesn't wish to tell you.

Furthermore, you could ask her if she prefers text, phone conversation or face time

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I guess one thing you said kind of worries me, and that's that you're asking her friends' names...oddly specific thing to mention, and I find it hard to think of situations where that would naturally come on in conversation...unless you met said friend and just wanted to remember what the name was.

Is the hiking really a date? A lot of girls aren't trying to sweat a lot in front of a guy who they want to seem attractive to. Maybe she just likes hanging out but doesn't like you LIKE THAT.

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Maybe she likes to hike and doesn't have any friends that do that. Just because you go hiking together doesn't mean it is a romantic relationship, is that where you're trying to go with this whole thing? Have you held her hand or kissed her or anything like that?

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thanks everybody for the input!

Lano wrote:
I guess one thing you said kind of worries me, and that's that you're asking her friends' names...oddly specific thing to mention, and I find it hard to think of situations where that would naturally come on in conversation...unless you met said friend and just wanted to remember what the name was.

yes it was that situation actually, we were talking about friends ealier and was asking her to remind of the name because i already told her am bad with names...

Araz wrote:
Some people just don’t like to text. That’s what it sounds like to me! Why don’t you ask her to do something a little bit more intimate like dinner? Then you would know for sure.

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Maybe she likes to hike and doesn't have any friends that do that. Just because you go hiking together doesn't mean it is a romantic relationship, is that where you're trying to go with this whole thing? Have you held her hand or kissed her or anything like that?

That is possible but we met on an online dating app and we both dont like passive sitting, so hiking is more fun and enjoyable to us. We didnt held hands or kiss, just didnt feel like the time is proper yet. Maybe this is like the 3rd date, feel like we are getting to know each other first to see if we are a good fit together... So i feels its more like friendship to be moved to relationship stage, if that is a thing.

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What this tells me is that she has a life and is not medically attached to a cell phone.
Get over your self and how important you think you are.
Also, she is entitled to her privacy. The time to ask questions is when you are together.

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If you didn't kiss her on the first date you are already in the friend zone.

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DocteurRalph wrote:
If you didn't kiss her on the first date you are already in the friend zone.

you are right, turns out i was in the friend zone :(

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