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My grandfather is very sick in bed and I'm worried he doesn't have much longer to live.

He is extremely weak and hasn't been able to get out of bed in two weeks. I have always had a special connection with my grandpa and I'm really upset and anxious about this situation. I was planning on going to visit him this week but he is feeling worse and he told my mom he didn't want me seeing him so sick so he didn't want me going. He won't let anyone in the family see him. I don't know what to do. I don't know if it's a good thing for me to have seen him when he was happier and healthier or if I'm going to regret not seeing him now even though he basically won't allow me to see him. I also just got a job I've been really hoping to get doing marketing/management for a humane society. It has always been my dream to work with animals and something that makes me so happy and I'm worried something will happen with my grandpa as soon as I start working and I will lose the job... I just have a lot on my mind right now and needed a place to vent

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My condolences to you and your family. ๐Ÿ˜ž

A loss in the family is always hard.

Your job will likely understand and grant you some time off, even if it's new. Just remember- he wants his best image in your head. He's likely the type that would also want to leave everybody better than they were before- so, for him- keep a smile on your face and do the best you can in his honor, even after he's passed.

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I'm so sorry to hear this. You will treasure the memories you had with your Grandpa for the rest of your life.

One of the things that is kind of "quirky," but ended up being really neat years later was as follows:

I took one (3) of my Granny's shirts when she passed away. Seemed weird, but now, it's amazing to have.

I was very close to her, and she worked on a ranch bailing hay, fixing fences and feeding horses up to about 6 months before she passed. She had this old work shirt that she wore all the time.

After she passed,I was just wandering through her house and I opened her closet. I saw that shirt and memories of seeing her wearing it flashed in my head. I took it off the hanger, and then I saw THREE OTHER ones that were JUST LIKE IT. I took them, too. I also took her "ranch jacket," that was nothing more than a man's old thick and flannel shirt.

I hung the three shirts up in my closet on one hanger; and her jacket on another hanger. For a long time, they still had her scent. Now, I just look at them from time to time, and the memories flash.

Saying that because most people would not think of taking clothing, I don't think...but maybe you can get one of your Grandpa's old shirts (?) for sweet memories.

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My heartfelt condolences to you and your extended family. If you can stay near him as long as possible. If he is a Christian, you might give both of you comfort in reading the Bible aloud.
Without a doubt though, you need to go. You will regret it if you dont.

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