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When the aftermath of everything crashed down on you...

Well, that's part of what the circle is there for - reassurance when forced to expulse someone. To trust in their presence.

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When the aftermath of everything crashed down on you...

You are not alone, in this experience. Emotions seem to be dispersing in darkness & silence, but sometimes you can perceive the hints.
Are there any long term effects to this illness?
The past you describe is rough, I understand. But for now, you've broken free from it, at least in concrete obligations if not emotionally. You have big plans for the future. As far as I'm aware, credit for the courses taken doesn't dissipate so you could perchance resume at a later time.

As for the cat, I've had similar issues in the past - heck, she's attacking me as I type! ☺
I've read that cats are naturally crepuscular (active at twilight, early dawn and dusk), but they'll adjust to their feeder's schedule. When she'd wake early, it was sometimes actually due to litter, which she's picky about. When fed & played with a bit ere going to sleep, she seems sufficiently satisfied to sleep in till noon. Admittedly, even when it happens I'm capable of getting the food or litter whilst maintaining a half dazed state, if I don't think myself awake. She's stereotypically capricious and usually return to staring out or resting within no more than 5m.

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I’m wondering if there’s a term for this:

Ah, so you do have a tell - he does the same thing to other people. Would be handy to know if any family member had left and how that went. In any case, since he's able to extract extra effort for little expense, would classify him as a shrewd businessman (aow, X25-26 comes to mind), and whether or not vindictive as well, it's strenuous when mixed with family.
This sort of guilt tripping is standard issue round here, and it's brutally effective against those who haven't developed proper immunity. "Fortunately", you've no shortage of reasonable excuses to leave - you've already had one breakdown, you might have enough workload as is, with more on the way possibly, bookkeeping was offered more as an alternative rather than suitable for your professional skillset, you could pursue another job offer (and exaggerate regarding its merit when recounted), or education. Important points: Focus on one main reason, in order to not be perceived as captious; Make the notice formal (required a month ahead here); Present your case by focusing on what you want, without calling faults to the current situation, if you've not intention to stay (I'm assuming this is so). Even if you can see a way which could work out, bear in mind that despite promises having no limits, real change takes vast effort in a rigid framework.
My own escapades included employers who were... highly motivated to keep me around, arranging meetings up the chain of commands, and a rather flimsy reasoning objectively. So I'd basically go there, listen to what they offered, and say "Thank you, but I'd like to take a different direction now."; my parents claimed it's disrespectful to reject any offers outright, so later added that I'd consider it for the extra time spent till the deadline. By maintaining the mien of an immovable resolve they'd have to do serious detective work to learn its vulnerabilities. I don't think it burned more bridges than expected, since I was willing to assist the surrogates on an occasional call, and only then did they learn the true value of that which was lost, yet it lacked that personal layer you have.

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I’m wondering if there’s a term for this:

By this you mean he's your boss, or a coworker? Either way, that's a counterproductive attitude, have seen it in stress prone individuals. In my case preferred to keep a distance and follow his instructions to the letter so as to be perceived as reliable. Getting shouted at outweighs favour in my book.

Is there any reason, then, not to get another job?

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I’m wondering if there’s a term for this:

If I may share some thoughts...

It's likely quite difficult to impossible for B to discern whether A truly believes their demeanour innocent, or is versed in manipulation promoting such an appearance, unless B is skilled in detection or has specific knowledge of A's tells. Either way, it might not make much of a difference. A was informed their behaviour was impacting B negatively, and elected to alter B's perspective rather than their own conduct to respect B's boundaries (in accord with the accusation). This could be fine for small things, evolving as a person, yet B questioning their sanity indicates a profound concussion from matching their inner beliefs (for what is proper) with the proffered truth. The insane don't question their sanity.
Nevertheless, in time it may be possible to come to terms with this. Painful, most likely. Needs good reasoning to fight for it. In other situations, I'd describe it as a "deadlock": either of 'concrete' nature, such as marriage, mutual children, family, reliance (professional, monetary); or emotional, essentially accepting some negativity for greater benefit, which oft involves no small amount of fear of change.
It isn't trivial, clear cut. Difficult to decide. Suffering the same effects repeatedly during indecision tends to brand itself in the mind, from what I've seen. Still, might be more important for B to know how they feel for sure, averting later remorse, whilst receiving moral support (rather than advice) from the people in whom they trust.

Sorry if it's kinda off.

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Samsung A3.

A similar post seems to indicate it's okay, as going up from 32 was the more serious format change; however, can't tell for sure there wouldn't be a bug somewhere. If it's a standard os, this is less likely.

What do you need to transfer? I'd keep the old card just in case. Make backups of personal stuff periodically - there's a plethora of physical calamities waiting around the corner regardless.

Reference:
https://superuser.com/questions/892401/if-a-dev...

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Rockster160 wrote:
Unsubscribing from a post also prevents you from receiving further notifications. 😅 That might be a little overboard though.

Well, that may be debatable. Invites from multiple friends were a thing sometime.

By the way, I don't have a smartphone - can anyone confirm it works?

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soco wrote:
Present. First in line... What do I win?

Oh, but you must follow the instructions. It's all there, in the fine print. :)

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Okay, so if I unsub... @Yeti.

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Again @Yeti. @Rockster160

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