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We're in agreement about the platform, but I think you should reconsider, probably, or at least sleep on it. Whilst you may place much emphasis on this tradition, others might not; if they knew it mattered to you, perhaps they'd take care not to neglect in response. At least, that's what I believe a friend ought to do (assuming they're available at all). Even people who aren't real friends may be of use, just not going out of your way for, as you've stated.

I don't celebrate; nevertheless, shall wish you a merry christmas, for what it's worth.

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life is just a comedy....

Thank you for sharing these balmy ventures. Everyone I knew irl was remarkably modest / coy so they're certainly insightful.

Contrary to popular belief, a handful of guys maintain a modicum of dignity, he might not have wanted to press for it on the first date (I'm assuming). Or maybe he doesn't have cable and was exposed to a world of possibilities.
The makeup fellow... ๐Ÿคฆ
Things really degenerated hence, huh. At least you've managed to shrug 'em off for now. Unfortunate these predators find their mark after enough attempts.

Don't forget there's sturgeon's law to consider - 90% of everything is crap, so filtering is never easy.

I know these uncontrollable bursts of laughter during inappropriate times, understandably comical in retrospect... but then, from his perspective, since it sounds like he was gushing blood all over the place, I'd imagine those hours must've been agonising, mostly the pain in his tenders inhibiting thoughts & perception. But quite the man, his father.

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Anxiety medication?

I'm no expert in pharmaceuticals, but from what I've picked up over the years, it seems your mileage may vary with regard to the efficacy of such substances. Might be better to describe the symptoms honestly to a psychiatrist for a more precise assessment. Personal belief comes into play, both yours and theirs (was asked directly whether I wish to be prescribed anything); notwithstanding, there's no magic pill - chemical alterations must be accompanied by psychological treatment.
I know it's not much, but if you wish to talk, I'm willing to listen.

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I get overwhelmed with feelings of failure

I am reminded of a psychological concept called "egoistic relative deprivation", which asserts that in order to assess your own value, you compare yourself to people you know are similar to you in a way, contrasting the differences to their perceived image. Objectively, there may be others more or less gifted than yourself, yet they aren't in that circle.

I don't know what the aforementioned disabilities entail, but you don't have to play their game. This view of social hierarchy is an illusion. The world is chock full of problems, and the smartest person could not solve a fraction of them alone. There are people out there who could use your help, would be grateful for what you can offer, if only your circle expanded.

Furthermore, notwithstanding a possible cliche status in social networks, would be remiss to leave this quote unmentioned: Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.

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life is just a comedy....

You have such nice cops, or incredible luck, BA1... 50% of the time I'd been requested for credentials during bus rides just for sporting a beard. And one time whilst walking the remainder of the way to work, they just stop next to the pavement, half blocking incoming traffic, and start interrogating me. Out of 3 visits to the central station, in 2 I'm detained and tried by MPs for bristles beneath the ears (and you're always guilty in military trials...). Always had a sneaking suspicion I'd end up in jail indefinitely some day for no reason, somehow has yet to come to that.

Aw, don't be sad, becca. Have a cookie. ๐Ÿช :)

I'd like to hear some of those tinder tales, miss vampy... the internet's a mad world.

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So i cant get an appointment for 9-12months...

ProffVampy wrote:
yup all hand made, piped by hand, the cake i was there with tweasers and a brush getting the details right xD also ow did you make them show as picutres? i did the [ link ] thing but it didnt work like a youtube video does

What are the tweezers used for? Relocating the chips, sticking them to the side? And the brush, I'm clueless - is it a sort of modeling chocolate, or cream? Seems to have too irregular an edge for the latter.

No need for square brackets. Use the quote thing on my previous reply and you'll see the links - you used the 3rd one (url for email & im) whereas the site recognises the 4th (direct link for layouts).

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So i cant get an appointment for 9-12months...

ProffVampy wrote:

http://i63.tinypic.com/ico96c.jpg

http://i66.tinypic.com/2gy69s7.jpg

http://i67.tinypic.com/1j6v0p.jpg

FTFY.

Fancy, were these flower patterns hand made?
"Irresistible" certainly is an apt description for such ambrosial looking confections, your disinclination to partake excessively is understood.

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So i cant get an appointment for 9-12months...

That's good, about the trip. Visualise these plans as a positive place of refuge, for a bit.

Expensive - not necessarily. Haven't needed to spend a dime on hobbies, some examples: Origami from draft paper (misprints), including coloured ones from expired ads (and recently someone posted a giveaway of these by the kg...). For carving, wood can be found in abundance, and had some old knives around the house (or a small one bought for a ~$1). There are elaborate online resources & video tutorials for everything nowadays. Baking likely saves a bit given high cost of finished products here (and always makes a nice touch for bday cakes). Sometimes all it takes is creative thinking to circumnavigate the issue.

Attagirl.

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Why are people so hung up on looks?

Not everyone.
Some say I smell funny too! :)

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So i cant get an appointment for 9-12months...

Sorry the appointment(s) fell through.
Perhaps you should step out of your head, literally - just as you've stated I've found self analysis to be counterproductive. For many of the people I know, celebrating the completion of a phase (school, army, uni) by a trip abroad to a completely foreign land, such as india or thailand, meeting fellow travellers and familiarising with strange customs, seems to be the conventional method of relief. Not to mention planning it years in advance.
I'm not all that sociable nor outgoing, following a dreadful, though not as difficult, last year of uni found my way to helpcom. Don't know how much it provided directly in the way of a solution, but getting acquainted with people and their stories assisted in shifting focus, at least. During the later work years, have had more distractions in the form of art, writing lampoons, small "picnics" in nearby gardens, baking and volunteering to fix problems where possible. (Am slightly more averse to medicinal treatment - refuse any mind-altering substances, though some folks attest to their effectiveness.)
You likely have heard of the merits of yoga and physical exercise.

Tldr: Catch yourself ere tripping into familiar thought patterns. Go out for a break. Try a new hobby. If affordable, arrange a trip abroad once uni's done.

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