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So i cant get an appointment for 9-12months...

Finally had a phone assessment with the local mental health team and i cant get individual therapy for 9-12months, and that apparently was a positive time scale. I cant see the uni ones for 12weeks so im currently stuck. I've been put on what should be a shorter waiting list for some group sessions however I dont think they'll be as helpful as i'm a training to be someone that delivers all of this so i litterally know how it works. Atleast with individual treatment its all very personalised and I can go indepth with someone professional and discuss whats wrong but in a group as much as im sure we'll get to share I have a feeling i'll be looked at like i shouldnt be there.

I was really hoping with the ex gone and not feeling so strained from him it would improve but i think with all the added stress of my final year at uni and the emotional damage from this generally awfully dramatic year its just got a bit too much and my coping strategies i leanred the first time i had CBT are just not strong enough.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. I think once i start getting some o the uni work done i'll also feel ebtter but theres the barrier in my mind of being in the wrong headspace to be able to consentrate on such indepth assignments and feel like im making a rational argument in them and generally making sense.

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Thank helpbot, luckily i am not at the point and doubt that will occur however if there was someone who was not in that frame of mind i can imagine it would be far too long. As someone going into mental health as a career i feel this highlights the sheer lack of funding and how these services need to be built up. Hopefully as it gains popularity everything will get better around mental health....

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My only suggestion would be an anonymous post here!

I just looked - - - Our waiting room is totally vacant and no waiting.

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Ive had 2 cbt sessions but applied for it in april. it takes a loooong time. something my therapist told me to look at on the internet is CCI (centre for clinical interventions) she said theres a lot of free material on there that may be able to help.

other than that i would suggest get yourself on the waiting list and in the meantime see if you can get some meds?

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i refuse to take meds, ive had them before and i was so numb...both emotionally and mentally, it would mean i couldnt do any of my uni work to the standard it needs to be at and right now thats the most important thing for me to be focus on. i cant mess uni up for a second time!
I am on the waiting list both for group therapy and the university services so really its whichever gets back to me first.
And i dont feel the need to go anon on here, im open about my issues and most have been details through my past few posts. I know its stuff i can deal with really but i just havent had a break away from everything since before summer when it all started. Actually i had just got back from holiday so yeh ive been stuck in just a slowly sinking pit of failing relationships, work stress, uni stress, and all the extra bits im doing to boost my CV as i really do need to have the extra stuff if i stand a chance to excel at my chosen path.

Hopefully at the end of january ill be able to disappear for a few weeks between the semesters and go have a break with some friends on the other side of the uk and have some space from everything.

Oddly this is aso so far the best year i've at at uni as ive finally met some decent people and am making a solid circle of friends whereas the past two years have more just been people ill see in a lecture and possibly go drinking with, not friendships of substance.

Ive spoken to my tutors about everything so they are aware of the situation and have given me a bit of extra support and put the work into perspective and shown me i stil have enough time to get it all sorted as long as my heads in the right space.

With my phone assessment today i scored lidly for depression and anxiety however as i said to the lady on the phone its more the stress thats getting to me. my depression scores have barey moved since i had my last therapy 4 years ago and finished and my anxiety is the same so its not effecting me too much yet. but i do feel that if i cant relieve the stress im feeling that those will inturn be aggrevated.

I think the worst part is as i am studying psychology, and clinical psychology specifically which looks at mental illnesses the diagnosis and aetiology and treatment etc i understand what and why i am feeling the way i do. i already know many good coping strategies to help improve the cognitions that are the issue however i think because i now understand it theyre also less effective. like when you know how the magic trick is done i suppose.... i do find just venting helps but alot of my friends also have mental health issues and i'm the one they come to which is great! i love it and that makes me confident in my career choice however it makes me feel that i cant break that face for some of them.

I have also looked at the online resources provided by my local provider and theyre stuff ive still got the paper work from before.

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We are here to help in anyway we can. If need be prioritize the causes of the stress and see if there is anywhere you can eliminate or delay this particular item. It sounds as though you have a great deal on your agenda. Re focus on what is of most importantance. Apologize down the road with the line, "I'm only one person."

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most of what caused the stress has now gone, or atleast the most recent trigger for it. The breakup at the beginning of summer (we had been together 4years) didnt affect me at the time and i knew it woudl hit me eventually so i think its partly that. especially as this is the first year in 4 years i wont be waking up on xmas day with a partner which is going to be quite lonely! going to the parents in the evening so its not too awful. i dont really like christmas all that much anyhu.

i do have alot on my agenda, but alot of it is quite interlinked and it all helps eachother out. then my job is just separate but i need the money so cant escape that one!

Ive been doign things to try and relax and enjoy myself...which as a student largely involves going out partying which is amazing while im out but the next day in the light of the hangover i see how much stuff i have yet to do. though the drunken memories are great!

I love that this site is here again and i am able to vent to a safe space, even though some of you know who i actually am xD

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Approximately 70% of men and women make terrible life mates. You have to look in that "band of excellence" that contains the upper 30%.

Uni work, like any other kind of work, requires that you just jump into it and start knocking out the assignments and readings. Easier said than done, of course--but it's still the solution.

And then there is the matter of perspective. In Africa, I saw poverty on a scale you could scarcely believe. And in many parts of Africa, you have jihadists who kill, ****rape and maim in the name of their god--and if you are in their path, life will end for you one way or another.

Meds should be used to get people through a rough patch. They are not something most people can take all the time without consequences.

It is best to focus on studies, rather than on relationships, during the university years. And, if person with whom you have a relationship is sabotaging your studies, then you need to get that person out of your life.

The uni years should be the best years of your life--the future is full of promise, you have yet to reach your full potential, and you are finding out who you are. Get rid of whatever is spoiling that. Junk thoughts renting space in your mind? Evict them! Thinking you don't deserve success? Yes, you do! People doubting you? Don't let others judge your potential by their limitations!

Most people don't get the good things they deserve because they don't think they deserve them.

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i will get there with the uni work its just hard when my heads in so many places at once. and i know perspective is important and that there are all #firstworldproblems - i will post a link to a jim jefferies clip i empathise with though take it with a pinch of salt!

i agree, meds are short term not a solution. i tried them last time while on a waiting list and went through a few kinds and none were any improvmet so i wont this time.

my plan is to focus on studies, my previous relationship was different as it was so long and largely so easy. the latest one was partly ended due to the impact it was having on my work however that impact is still lasting.

andi am enjoying uni, much more so than the first time i went! i do try and remove the thoughts but my coping strategies for that havent been as effective recently. I was looking forward to really getting indepth with a therapist about it and also using it as a learning experience for when im in the other chair.

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Sorry the appointment(s) fell through.
Perhaps you should step out of your head, literally - just as you've stated I've found self analysis to be counterproductive. For many of the people I know, celebrating the completion of a phase (school, army, uni) by a trip abroad to a completely foreign land, such as india or thailand, meeting fellow travellers and familiarising with strange customs, seems to be the conventional method of relief. Not to mention planning it years in advance.
I'm not all that sociable nor outgoing, following a dreadful, though not as difficult, last year of uni found my way to helpcom. Don't know how much it provided directly in the way of a solution, but getting acquainted with people and their stories assisted in shifting focus, at least. During the later work years, have had more distractions in the form of art, writing lampoons, small "picnics" in nearby gardens, baking and volunteering to fix problems where possible. (Am slightly more averse to medicinal treatment - refuse any mind-altering substances, though some folks attest to their effectiveness.)
You likely have heard of the merits of yoga and physical exercise.

Tldr: Catch yourself ere tripping into familiar thought patterns. Go out for a break. Try a new hobby. If affordable, arrange a trip abroad once uni's done.

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i will be headed off to singapore when i finish, my brothers over there so going to see him for atleast a couple of weeks! and im a student so new hobbies are expensive xD this year tho i have tried a few new things through running the society, which also is a new thing.

today i made a nice chunk in one of my assignments so thats helped make me feel a bit calmer, just knowing im doing the work. hopefully ill get that one finished on thursday. then going to see starwars after which should work as a reward xD

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ALWAYS, ALWAYS promise yourself a reward after finishing something difficult--and don't welch on yourself!

That's good, about the trip. Visualise these plans as a positive place of refuge, for a bit.

Expensive - not necessarily. Haven't needed to spend a dime on hobbies, some examples: Origami from draft paper (misprints), including coloured ones from expired ads (and recently someone posted a giveaway of these by the kg...). For carving, wood can be found in abundance, and had some old knives around the house (or a small one bought for a ~$1). There are elaborate online resources & video tutorials for everything nowadays. Baking likely saves a bit given high cost of finished products here (and always makes a nice touch for bday cakes). Sometimes all it takes is creative thinking to circumnavigate the issue.

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Have another suggestion PV.
Volunteering. Giving of a little bit of your time to others brings many, many rewards and is dirt cheap to do.

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Volunteering. Giving of a little bit of your time to others brings many, many rewards and is dirt cheap to do.

i do volunteer! ive created a hub of a charity at the uni and i deliver workshops around the stigmas of mental health and mental illnesses :) its fun but difficult xD

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ALWAYS, ALWAYS promise yourself a reward after finishing something difficult--and don't welch on yourself!

I always have a small reward for myself, its why i try and do work in the day so i can do whatever i want to in the evenings.

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That's good, about the trip. Visualise these plans as a positive place of refuge, for a bit.

Expensive - not necessarily. Haven't needed to spend a dime on hobbies, some examples: Origami from draft paper (misprints), including coloured ones from expired ads (and recently someone posted a giveaway of these by the kg...). For carving, wood can be found in abundance, and had some old knives around the house (or a small one bought for a ~$1). There are elaborate online resources & video tutorials for everything nowadays. Baking likely saves a bit given high cost of finished products here (and always makes a nice touch for bday cakes). Sometimes all it takes is creative thinking to circumnavigate the issue.

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If i got a hobby it would want to be something i do with people, ive tried doing stuff on my own at home and the only one i really enjoy is baking but if i did that all the time id just get fat xD if only i could upload pics on here id show you some of my creations :')

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Perhaps you have a hidden talent in pole dancing. Somewhere around here are two. Just look for the mirrored panels on the ceiling.

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Perhaps you have a hidden talent in pole dancing. Somewhere around here are two. Just look for the mirrored panels on the ceiling.

you know what i actually wanted to try that and theres a society at the uni but it clashed with the society i run so i couldnt join :'(

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Those are very nice creations! Someone likes chocolate!

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Fancy, were these flower patterns hand made?
"Irresistible" certainly is an apt description for such ambrosial looking confections, your disinclination to partake excessively is understood.

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yup all hand made, piped by hand, the cake i was there with tweasers and a brush getting the details right xD also ow did you make them show as picutres? i did the [ link ] thing but it didnt work like a youtube video does

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yup all hand made, piped by hand, the cake i was there with tweasers and a brush getting the details right xD also ow did you make them show as picutres? i did the [ link ] thing but it didnt work like a youtube video does

What are the tweezers used for? Relocating the chips, sticking them to the side? And the brush, I'm clueless - is it a sort of modeling chocolate, or cream? Seems to have too irregular an edge for the latter.

No need for square brackets. Use the quote thing on my previous reply and you'll see the links - you used the 3rd one (url for email & im) whereas the site recognises the 4th (direct link for layouts).

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to paint on the melted chocolate covering then stick the chips on round the rose petals :)
and ahh i wasnt sure but i tried xD

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