tell me about it! i just went to meet a guy off tinder and he bailed because i haddnt put my full face of makeup on xD pahahaha

It's commercialism--purveyors of products who want to make us feel that we are ugly or incomplete without what they are peddling. Ninety-nine percent of all advertising is designed to make us feel deficient in some way.

I personally prefer women without makeup. 😄

Not sure why people are so focused on looks, really.

In an honest and blunt way, it's probably because they want something "pleasant" to look at for the rest of their lives in the case of marriage? Or because "attractive" features are attractive because we recognize them as suitable for our offspring and deep down we just listen to our instincts?

Some people definitely take it way too far though. I'd take ugly and pleasant to be around over gorgeous, but downright mean/unpleasant any day.

I'm pretty sexy, so I have no idea what you are on about

i was bewildered xD

Idk.... it's sucky, tho

Because the thought of looking like the corpse we will eventually become is abhorrent.

Cause men are jerks... That is all!

Because people want to be noticed and they want to be complimented! It makes a person feel good to be complimented, especially by someone they really care for. However, those feelings aren't always reciprocated! Making someone try to glam it up so that they feel they have a better chance of receiving the reciprocated feelings.
It really sucks to be shut down and not have someone talk things out and reciprocate feelings especially when they don't know the other persons situstions... never run, I have learned this, yet cannot stop someone else from doing it.

Not to be sexist- but I've seen a LOT more women be judgmental against people that aren't as attractive than men. Especially when it comes to dating/relationships.

I was venting! Sorry

No worries! 😄 Maybe I'm just around the wrong type of people. 😉

Romantically, I think you should be attracted to the person you’re with. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder - I think my husband is very attractive but he’s not every girl’s physical type just as not everyone will find me attractive.

In all other cases (friendship, work, etc) it’s people being superficial.

Araz makes a good point. We do need to be attractive to the person we end up with and they to us. Unfortunately for some, it's entirely subjective and not universal. I think it's rude to bail on a date just because of looks, sometimes seeing the beauty in someone takes time (getting to know them), and better to at least consider friendship. Finding a partner is difficult, if it's not looks it's something else (political views, religion, culture, intelligence - too high or too low, interests, life goals, on it goes).

The only looks my girl Coco is concerned about is if it looks like food or fun. I tell ya, it's a dogs' life.

I don't really care about a guys looks.
I'd rather have a nice guy I get on with well that wasn't attractive than a model that doesn't interest me.

Looks to me does not matter one iota. I go for personality each and every time.

I used to wear tons of make up as a Teenager,but now I hardly wear anything.
It's surprising but I often get complimented on my freshed faced look. I don't get that when I'm wearing make up.
I think it depends on what kind of mood your in tbh.
I also think media plays a big part in Today's Society and how we should all "conform" to certain standards.
Then again you are who you are at the end of the day. So it's a matter of choice.

Well..... I wouldn't go that far. Just those that swallow every drop of the Trump kool-aid. LOL

I must admit I've lent my face and hands to companies that sell makeup. It is a multibillion dollar industry that isn't going bankrupt anytime soon.

Think about anything visual you see on a daily basis. Television. Magazines. Billboards. Movies. Every single one involved makeup for both the male and/or female that is seen. If no one wore a single drop of makeup on say a newscast, that show would drop in ratings by the 3rd day.

We may not like it for our own personal use, but it has become the norm of what we want to see on others.

Not everyone.
Some say I smell funny too! :)

Im so sic of artifical photo shopped phony adultered selfies on facebook. Seems like an epidemic. They now have a pic editor that makes you look slim when your far from it.

I think men are turned on sexually by good looks. I know I am. If I'm with a girl that is extremely unattractive I don't really feel like pursuing her. I mean Hugh Hefner got rich publishing pictures of attractive nude women because it did something to men. You don't want to have to look at a picture of another girl just to get ready to go to bed with your wife.

Of course that urge to have a pretty girl goes away about 3 seconds after you have her and then what are you left with? Suddenly that attractive face or body whatever has to be someone you like and can get along with. That's when the trouble starts...

Because sight is our preferred sense when making judgments and we have been socially programmed to put most of our stock on looks.

There is a lot more to it than mere magazine beauty. For myself I cannot see the person behind a thick mask and don’t see the point in the projections, but people are easily mislead.

The heart will be the most important feature, but looks and how a person carries themselves does make a difference as we gauge how we match based on certain features. The genetics will be involved in preferences and there is only so much one can do about that.

This said, we also have a lot of programming going on about appearance which do not conform with the dynamic nature of matchmaking, which for the easily influenced will cause problems and tough lessons as one then learn that what’s behind the facade bear no resemblance to what one initially thought was there. This then becomes a falsehood of which veils truth, be it permeates our general perception to a point of living in a false world where not even truth is seen as truth.
The offset then brings on personal experiences that comes with pain so that the individual can learn to look past the outside and get more in touch with the feeling and intuition instead of learned reaction. The difference here is only learnt by experience, so we have to pass through the fire to get to an understanding.

I wish more women would appreciate me for my intellect over my looks.

Haha... this is so funny. My husb and I did one of those quizzes and a question was, "What do you admire most about your spouse?"

His answer, verbatim: "Your brain, honeybun..."

You are a gorgeous woman, inside and out

Thanks Pep I'm just trying to prove a point,that not everyone "are hung up on looks"
Like Jay says it's what's in the heart that matters.😊

from my ***POV when i look in the mirror.. i think im sexy as hell until someone shows me a picture they took of me.. a total esteem bomb right there. looks should not matter, its ofc what matters is when the feeling is right .. fight with everything you got to keep it that way. i've been a smartass for so long i forgot what its like to feel.

[‌quote DocteurRalph]I think men are turned on sexually by good looks. I know I am. If I'm with a girl that is extremely unattractive I don't really feel like pursuing her. I mean Hugh Hefner got rich publishing pictures of attractive nude women because it did something to men. You don't want to have to look at a picture of another girl just to get ready to go to bed with your wife.

Of course that urge to have a pretty girl goes away about 3 seconds after you have her and then what are you left with? Suddenly that attractive face or body whatever has to be someone you like and can get along with. That's when the trouble starts...[/quote. Been there. Got the t shirt. Yea its amazing how fast you lose interest in a pretty girl once the lovin is done if theres nothing backing it

The same reason we love order, symmetry, tv, reading, photographs, landscapes, animals, etc. We're visual creatures! It's an amazing sense. We love to look at beautiful things. We love to experience beautiful experiences. It's apart of our human aesthetic.

well I think we are programmed to follow natural instincts.

the brain can release feel good chemicals when they see an attractive person.

Still, there are people out there who can't look beyond appearance and justify themselves to make cruel and hurtful comments. Life is too short to be round those kind of individuals.

😂 You’ve got a great sense of humor!

I have never met you, never seen you . . Not once.
Still, I think you are one of the best people I know. Not for not, but for who you are. And for the friend you have been.

Thank you for being my friend.

Confidence is said to be the most attractive quality of a person. I tend to agree with that! Unless your over-confidant and a jerk.

I love it!
That's the best thing I have heard anyone say in months!!!

So I saw this quote from Dr. Who that popped up in my FaceBook memories and it made me think of this post!

It's not really something we can change either. I mean your body reacts to images whether you want it to or not.

And yeah I like the Dr. Who quote but twosock's was even better. But I think the self-confidence thing is mainly for women being attracted to confident men. I'm not always attracted to confident women, sometimes the little shy wallflower with a pretty face is very attractive to me. Lots of men just want a pretty girl that follows them around and does what they say.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=117131&am...

I once worked for a nice female boss at a certain company. She was enormously talented. Not bad looking, either. But she had hell getting dates, and if she got one, she'd never get another call from the same guy. I later found out why: on dates all she did was talk shop. Let me tell you something, ladies--guys hate that. You might make a passing comment, but to make your entire conversation about what happened at work is a huge turnoff for men. We don't really care about what you did at work. What we care about is having a nice, relaxing time. When we leave work, we want to get away from all of that. And, frankly, it's boring as hell. By all means tell us about yourselves--but don't give us a blow-by-blow description of everything that happened at your workplace!

Amen Sherlock