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Figuring my mum out

She's self destructive. Always has been. Happy to complain about EVERYTHING.

When I was a child and we went for family days out, she would always end up arguing and not talking to my dad the night before or morning we go. All of my childhood memories are of crappy days out where my parents fell out as we were driving down the street. Never knowing where we were going, always ending up at a garden centre.

Nothing has changed. Everytime we plan a family day my mum gets moody and says we never go out. I say we are going out tomorrow but she just goes on about no money.

Everytime I take her somewhere she complains how she doesnt go out. 1st of all shes out right now! and 2nd she goes out every single friday with her mum and sister....

Its like she is just happy being sad.

My dad is planning a surprise holiday for her for their anniversary, but then she just keeps complaining about no holidays, no money, etc.

Its f'ing depressing and i cannot cope much longer, i hate going out with her.

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I dunno, maybe she doesn't really want to go out? I mean, if I understand correctly, seems like she complains WHEN she goes out.

Or maybe it's where she's going?

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Sounds like she’s depressed and has been for awhile. Maybe she wants to go on a trip somewhere special? Some people expect others to be mind readers and get depressed/upset when they’re not.

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Araz wrote:
Sounds like she’s depressed and has been for awhile. Maybe she wants to go on a trip somewhere special? Some people expect others to be mind readers and get depressed/upset when they’re not.

Yes she absolutely does and is. She might want to go somewhere special, but she would only complain when she gets there.

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Araz wrote:
Sounds like she’s depressed and has been for awhile. Maybe she wants to go on a trip somewhere special? Some people expect others to be mind readers and get depressed/upset when they’re not.

Yes she absolutely does and is. She might want to go somewhere special, but she would only complain when she gets there.

Some people complain no matter what because in their head, attention = love. Even if that attention is pity or negative.

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I moved 360 miles away from my parents when I was 18 and they didn't know where I was or how to contact me for over 2 years. I suggest you do the same. Sounds like your mum is dragging you down. Do you want or need that in your life? I didn't think so...

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Maybe confront her about her attitude?

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She sabotaged everything done for her. Either depression or she feels she does not deserve any happiness.

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