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What does it mean if a gal who is crazy about you all of a sudden gets real distant very quiet and mysterious?


How should I react?
Do I also get distant?

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What does it mean if a gal who is crazy about you all of a sudden gets real distant very quiet and mysterious?¬ How should I react?¬ Do I also get distant?

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no .. she probably needs a chocolate feeding so get a bag of kisses.

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Could be that she just got super busy. Why not ask her?

Although I do have to disclaim that I’ve been in my current relationship for 7 years now so I don’t know if dating has changed... I just think life is easier when you’re direct.

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I did ask but no real answer other than one or two word responses.
She is totally out of character .

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Yikes, that’s not a great sign. I mean, you asked, not much else you can do at this point. I guess wait a week or so and ask her out and see what happens? To something specific, like a concert or festival, not open ended like “dinner sometime or a movie whenever”.

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Don't react. Just continue to be yourself. Trying to figure out a woman's mood swings will drive you bats#%t crazy. Don't let it get to you at all. Just realize this sort of thing happens all the time, in every part of the world.

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Anonymous wrote:
I did ask but no real answer other than one or two word responses.
She is totally out of character .

Are you actually dating? And for how long?

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I wouldnt say dating.
We are in a commited relationship.

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I hope soco is right but my intuition says shes wants out or has met someone else

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Anonymous wrote:
I wouldnt say dating.
We are in a commited relationship.

So you're in a committed relationship where you don't go on dates?

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We do things together. I never called it dating.
Dating is a test.
We are past that.

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A test for what exactly? In your opinion

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Maybe shes depressed or maybe something happened in her life. Maybe she worried about something.

I find it hard to understand your relationship together. What is a "commited relation" vs dating relationship?

Perhaps she is struggling to understand if herself? Terminology like that doesnt clearly state boundries.

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Then again what does dating mean to you?

Dating to me means having a girl friend boy friend relationship until they get engaged.

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I cant explain it any better.
We are in a commited relationship.
Ho hum.
Anyway were off topic.

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I dont think we r off topic. Im trying to understand so i can help u. But if u don't want my input then thats fine.

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Must I spell it out.
0. Meeting/ attraction
1. Dating. Dating is an out dated term. Spending time together or some call it hanging out or hook ups.
2 commited relationship. Its official your in a relationship.why. because you both agree to it
3 moving in
4 marriage.
Anyway she refuses to tell me why she is so distant.
Im assuming its over and she met a guy with money or whatever

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IMO it’s not a good sign. You’re in a committed relationship, you’re past the stage of playing games and hard to get. If she’s distancing herself and it’s out of character, it either means she’s not interested or she has met someone else.

Lol I think you needed to spell it out though - most people define “dating” differently from you.

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I Didnt define dating jetmoo didnt understand what a commited relationship is so I gave a timeline for clarification. I merely stated that I was beyond dating and she still didnt understand hence the timeline. Everyone is stuck on the word dating.
I lost my soul mate. Im hartbroken and you want to play semantics.
Dating is getting to know each other by doing fun things like dinner. Movies. Its testing the waters.
I think I know what dating is.
Im beyond that.
She was my future wife.
She isnt anymore.
Im done

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I didn’t realize that things were so serious for you in this relationship. I hope for you that it’s not the case and that she is just busy right now. Don’t just give up on your “soulmate”. Just give it time, focus on living your best life and see where things go from there. We don’t know her, or you for that matter in real life, so who are we to say it’s over? Might not be.

Stay strong and don’t give up!

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Give her some time. Offer to find someone she can talk to. Perhaps a neutral female that you trust and won't spill secrets. She wants understanding, not judgement or rejection.

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I wanst trying to play semantics, you gotta realize that people from all walks of life come on here and not all of them are taking their prescribed meds so additional clarity can often solve a person's query before too much ink is spilt over it.

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Not you lano.
I thank you soco and arnaz
Ill give her time.
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Update. Update. Update.
Soco was right.
My girlfriend was having her period and was just having girl issues.
She didnt leave me.
Amen

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dude.. i was just saying.. feed her some chocolate! seesh

times of periods.. chocolate is the perfect fix

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Thanks for the update Anonymous. There will be other tests from time to time. Feel free to come back anytime. We are here to Help.

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