Im not sure whether I should approach this guy or walk past this guy near of leave him. ¬ ¬ There lots of space still.¬ ¬ There is a guy I knew from school (im now 31 today). He asked me out 2/3 times but I felt too scared to be close to anyone and rejected him in a way he didn’t like. It was a misunderstanding and I guess he thought I didn’t considerate his feelings. He tried to hurt me back and he would behave and say things to hurt me. Because I had strong feelings for him I found being at the receiving end of his behaviour really painful, to the point it had a profound impact on my emotional and mental wellbeing. He apoligised to me how he behaved and I forgave him which he was much appreciative for but I didn’t tell him how much it affected me.¬ ¬ As time rolled on (about a year later of not seeing him) I became fixated on him when he became unavailable and unattainable in my life. I think the fear of getting hurt again made it feel easier for me. I guess I formed a fantasy of him rather than be able to accept the person he truly is. I had an erotomanic episode (a delusional disorder in which someone believes another is in love with them) and my obsessive behaviour “scared” him. He forgave me. I conclude of my insecurities, dishonesty at times and inability to accept the real him I guess made him lose interest in me. Looking back I say that is fair enough. I had another obsessive period in which I contacted him on facebook sending like a love message and justified myself because of him giving me eye contact in public. he was terrified of me for years. (this was 9 years ago)¬ ¬ I got professional advice and was recommended I do not contact him and to leave him to get on with his life. When I saw him outside a supermarket where he worked he looked scared of me and didn’t want to acknowledge my presence so I didn’t go back there in over 3 years till I knew he left to work elsewhere. I told my brother, when my mum wanted me to go into the supermarket to get something for her, that I wouldn’t go into the store so I waited a distance outside so I could leave the guy in peace.¬ ¬ Well, over a year ago he has moved workplace I believe and I guess he is working near a charity place which I go to which helps people like me who’ve had mental health problems. I now and then see him about.¬ For a while he would be so scared of me that when I saw him in town he went onto the other side of the road to get away from me and would get panicky. It upset me but I had to get on with it. I decided to go onto the otherside of the road before him so I would respect his space and not walk into him. Since I’ve been doing that he has been far less fearful of me.¬ When I would see him round town he would give me a lot of eye contact. And 3 weeks ago when I walked onto the otherside of the road when I saw him he decided to cross the road also and walk past me.¬ ¬ I now don’t know what to do, because I thought he’d never want to speak to me again. One reason is because with the illness I had, professionals advice the victim of someone with the condition to stay away from them. I thought he’d have done research into this.¬ ¬ I worry if I walk past him if he contacts me he might worry later on if I’d use it as a jusitifcation or if I carry on walking on the otherwise of the road id feel like id be being rude? I want to be kind but not sure what is best to do?¬ ¬ Since he has deliberately walked past my mind has come up with justifications I’ve decided that when I come back from holiday Im going to get some counselling as its starting to get into my mind a lot.

Im not sure whether I should walk past this guy near of leave him lots of space still.¬ ¬ There is a guy I knew from school (im now 31 today). He asked me out 2/3 times but I felt too scared to be close to anyone and rejected him in a way he didn’t like. It was a misunderstanding and I guess he thought I didn’t considerate his feelings. He tried to hurt me back and he would behave and say things to hurt me. Because I had strong feelings for him I found being at the receiving end of his behaviour really painful, to the point it had a profound impact on my emotional and mental wellbeing. He apoligised to me how he behaved and I forgave him which he was much appreciative for but I didn’t tell him how much it affected me.¬ ¬ As time rolled on (about a year later of not seeing him) I became fixated on him when he became unavailable and unattainable in my life. I think the fear of getting hurt again made it feel easier for me. I guess I formed a fantasy of him rather than be able to accept the person he truly is. I had an erotomanic episode (a delusional disorder in which someone believes another is in love with them) and my obsessive behaviour “scared” him. He forgave me. I conclude of my insecurities, dishonesty at times and inability to accept the real him I guess made him lose interest in me. Looking back I say that is fair enough. I had another obsessive period in which I contacted him on facebook sending like a love message and justified myself because of him giving me eye contact in public. he was terrified of me for years. (this was 9 years ago)¬ ¬ I got professional advice and was recommended I do not contact him and to leave him to get on with his life. When I saw him outside a supermarket where he worked he looked scared of me and didn’t want to acknowledge my presence so I didn’t go back there in over 3 years till I knew he left to work elsewhere. I told my brother, when my mum wanted me to go into the supermarket to get something for her, that I wouldn’t go into the store so I waited a distance outside so I could leave the guy in peace.¬ ¬ Well, over a year ago he has moved workplace I believe and I guess he is working near a charity place which I go to which helps people like me who’ve had mental health problems. I now and then see him about.¬ For a while he would be so scared of me that when I saw him in town he went onto the other side of the road to get away from me and would get panicky. It upset me but I had to get on with it. I decided to go onto the otherside of the road before him so I would respect his space and not walk into him. Since I’ve been doing that he has been far less fearful of me.¬ When I would see him round town he would give me a lot of eye contact. And 3 weeks ago when I walked onto the otherside of the road when I saw him he decided to cross the road also and walk past me.¬ ¬ I now don’t know what to do, because I thought he’d never want to speak to me again. One reason is because with the illness I had, professionals advice the victim of someone with the condition to stay away from them. I thought he’d have done research into this.¬ ¬ I worry if I walk past him if he contacts me he might worry later on if I’d use it as a jusitifcation or leave him lots of space still.¬ ¬ There is a guy I knew from school (im now 31 today). He asked me out 2/3 times but I felt too scared to be close to anyone and rejected him in a way he didn’t like. It was a misunderstanding and I guess he thought I didn’t considerate his feelings. He tried to hurt me back and he would behave and say things to hurt me. Because I had strong feelings for him I found being at the receiving end of his behaviour really painful, to the point it had a profound impact on my emotional and mental wellbeing. He apoligised to me how he behaved and I forgave him which he was much appreciative for but I didn’t tell him how much it affected me.¬ ¬ As time rolled on (about a year later of not seeing him) I became fixated on him when he became unavailable and unattainable in my life. I think the fear of getting hurt again made it feel easier for me. I guess I formed a fantasy of him rather than be able to accept the person he truly is. I had an erotomanic episode (a delusional disorder in which someone believes another is in love with them) and my obsessive behaviour “scared” him. He forgave me. I conclude of my insecurities, dishonesty at times and inability to accept the real him I guess made him lose interest in me. Looking back I say that is fair enough. I had another obsessive period in which I contacted him on facebook sending like a love message and justified myself because of him giving me eye contact in public. he was terrified of me for years. (this was 9 years ago)¬ ¬ I got professional advice and was recommended I do not contact him and to leave him to get on with his life. When I saw him outside a supermarket where he worked he looked scared of me and didn’t want to acknowledge my presence so I didn’t go back there in over 3 years till I knew he left to work elsewhere. I told my brother, when my mum wanted me to go into the supermarket to get something for her, that I wouldn’t go into the store so I waited a distance outside so I could leave the guy in peace.¬ ¬ Well, over a year ago he has moved workplace I believe and I guess he is working near a charity place which I go to which helps people like me who’ve had mental health problems. I now and then see him about.¬ For a while he would be so scared of me that when I saw him in town he went onto the other side of the road to get away from me and would get panicky. It upset me but I had to get on with it. I decided to go onto the otherside of the road before him so I would respect his space and not walk into him. Since I’ve been doing that he has been far less fearful of me.¬ When I would see him round town he would give me a lot of eye contact. And 3 weeks ago when I walked onto the otherside of the road when I saw him he decided to cross the road also and walk past me.¬ ¬ I now don’t know what to do, because I thought he’d never want to speak to me again. One reason is because with the illness I had, professionals advice the victim of someone with the condition to stay away from them. I thought he’d have done research into this.¬ ¬ I worry if I walk past him if he contacts me he might worry later on if I’d use it as a jusitifcation or if I carry on walking on the otherwise of the road id feel like id be being rude? I want to be kind but not sure what is best to do?¬ ¬ Since he has deliberately walked past my mind has come up with justifications I’ve decided that when I come back from holiday Im going to get some counselling as its starting to get into my mind a lot.