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I’m in love with my vet.

What do I do? I have been with my current vet for about two years now. We are about the same age. I’m single and I know he’s not married. Not sure if he’s got a girlfriend. But I’ve always had a soft spot for him especially seeing him with my pets. Last summer I lost my dog suddenly and unexpectedly and he was just amazing with me. Ever since then there has just been something there. Idk what it is but I feel something for him. Idk if it’s just his love of animals and me seeing his big heart or what it is. But I do feel something. I was in his office today with my cat getting his annual exam and shots and he started telling me a story about his cat when he was a kid. He was just laughing and stuff. But it seems like he enjoys talking to me and laughing with me. But I really really like him. What do I do? I mean, I like him but I don’t want to ruin this doctor/patient relationship because he’s a really great vet and he’s great with my pets. But I do feel something. Idk if it’s just on my end like wishful thinking or if it’s coming from him as well. Any advice? How would I even go about seeing if there was something there and maybe asking him to dinner without making it awkward?

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I’m in love with my vet. What do I do? I have been with my current vet for about two years now. We are about the same age. I’m single and I know he’s not married...or he doesn’t wear a ring. Not sure if he’s got a girlfriend. But I’ve always had a soft spot for him especially seeing him with my pets. Last summer I lost my dog suddenly and unexpectedly and he was just amazing with me. Ever since then there has just been something there. Idk what it is but I feel something for him. Idk if it’s just his love of animals and me seeing his big heart or what it is. But I do feel something. I was in his office today with my cat getting his annual exam and shots and he started telling me a story about his cat when he was a kid. He was just laughing and stuff. But it seems like he enjoys talking to me and laughing with me. But I really really like him. What do I do? I mean, I like him but I don’t want to ruin this doctor/patient relationship because he’s a really great vet and he’s great with my pets. But I do feel something. Idk if it’s just on my end like wishful thinking or if it’s coming from him as well. Any advice?

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I’m in love with my vet. What do I do? I have been with my current vet for about two years now. We are about the same age. I’m single and I know he’s not married. Not sure if he’s got a girlfriend. But I’ve always had a soft spot for him especially seeing him with my pets. Last summer I lost my dog suddenly and unexpectedly and he was just amazing with me. Ever since then there has just been something there. Idk what it is but I feel something for him. Idk if it’s just his love of animals and me seeing his big heart or what it is. But I do feel something. I was in his office today with my cat getting his annual exam and shots and he started telling me a story about his cat when he was a kid. He was just laughing and stuff. But it seems like he enjoys talking to me and laughing with me. But I really really like him. What do I do? I mean, I like him but I don’t want to ruin this doctor/patient relationship because he’s a really great vet and he’s great with my pets. But I do feel something. Idk if it’s just on my end like wishful thinking or if it’s coming from him as well. Any advice? How would I even go about seeing if there was something there and maybe asking him to dinner without making it awkward?

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If he’s free and single then why not. You’ll never know until you ask.

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Keep in mind one truth. If things proceed forward to where you hope and dream they can, you will need to find another vet for your pets.
He is part of a business that depends on making money. If you continue to take your pets there you are going to expect a little leniency in the amount normally charged. He may feel pressure to do so too. The people that suffer though are the other staff in the office. Either in bonuses or raises they deserve to receive.

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Soco is right.

Now . . . does he wear a wedding ring?

There are a thousand ways to discover his relationship status.

But do not say you are in love until you are know the person really well!

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My dad was a doctor of veterinary medicine and he didn't have any problem working on our pets at the house for free.. he spayed our cat in the garage one time, and castrated our dogs in about 5 minutes in the front yard. I don't think that's a big worry.

Dress up when you go see him and tell him you'd really like to spend some time alone if he wants. If he's not interested he'll just laugh it off and you can still take your pets there. Quit making it into such a big thing and go for it!

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Ask if he is single then if the answer is yes go from there.

Just ask him out.
No point wasting time and wondering, just do it.

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"Oh, Dr. ________, I'd really like to see __________, but I just hate to go to the theater alone!"

There you go!

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I may not go right into a dinner date, maybe ask if he wants to have coffee (or iced coffee?) sometime, you could frame it as “I heard of this cute coffee shop, I was wondering if you’d like to try it out out with me sometime?” Or something to that effect. I think you definitely need to see how he is outside the workplace before you decide how you feel about him 🙂

I don’t think I could ever date a vet, knowing the process of getting the degree (I have problems with the ethics of it all).

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"Oh, Dr. ________, I'd really like to see __________, but I just hate to go to the theater alone!"

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"Tee-hee-hee! I'm drunk!"

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Best advice, be honest and just be yourself. No tricks necessary. I would also suggest you not approach at his place of business. He's busy.

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Did you approach him?

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No. Not yet. I keep going back and forth about it. I really like him but I’m scared he won’t like me if he finds out I’m about 4 1/2 years older.

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Here is the bottom line: if you feel strongly that he is "the one" there should be not one thing in the entire world from finding out for sure.
Everyone should find that special person to share life with, with absolutely no regrets.

Now how you approach this is the question. The best course is to ask a direct question in a setting away from the office. Put on your Nike's on and go for it.

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Not Nikes. Anything but Nikes!

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Sherlock wrote:
Not Nikes. Anything but Nikes!

Converse....?

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Owned by Nike.

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Anonymous wrote:
No. Not yet. I keep going back and forth about it. I really like him but I’m scared he won’t like me if he finds out I’m about 4 1/2 years older.

I can relate to your concerns, in a way - in general, I'd rather take a hundred detours than face someone with the prospect of failure / rejection.
However, with regard to age, humans don't come with a display gauge denoting their current mileage (yet). I'm inclined to believe that beneath this alibi lies a deep sense of insecurity; mayhap in your perceived external appearance, or fear of a blunder. It would be presumptuous on my part to know with certainty what course of action would be preferable in any case; can only suggest to know your limits, and when you shouldn't let them dictate your path.

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