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Life sucks.

Find the courage to do something that gets you out of the routine living. Explore something new, something different, something that can stimulate your senses. You can do this at no cost. Choose to do this anyway and despite how you feel.

Your circumstances may indeed be difficult but there is a way to endure hardship with a smile, or at least acceptance until change comes.

Rest assured nothing ever stays the same. A positive outlook certainly helps speed things up.

May you find ease and guidance soon ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ

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I have fallen in love and I don't want it!

The physical/ emotional signs will go away (never mind the intensity now) if you pluck up the courage and disconnect entirely from that person.
Especially if this is early days, you can nip this right in the bud, but you must cease ALL contact with the other person... if you truly want to avoid cheating on your spouse.

Remember its not just your relationship at stake, but his too. A lot of pain and heartache could result.

The more you keep in contact the more feelings will build and the harder it will be to pull away. Do the right thing now.

Use the time instead to magnify the positive aspects of your husband and remind yourself of why you got together in the first place.

It is all about shifting attention and it's all up to you.

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I guess I'm going to let it go...

As hard as it is to accept, you owe it to yourself to move on. If he saw you the way you saw him, things would have been different a long time ago.
Trust that you deserve better and you can do better. Most importantly learn to love yourself enough to walk away from anyone that for whatever reason, disrupts your peace and joy. You are valuable, remember that!

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What can I do to get my child to stop chewing his clothes?

I guess its his way of deriving comfort.
I say unless he is causing any form of harm, let him be.

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Iโ€™m in one of those moods.

People can never dictate how WE FEEL. We subconsciously invite them.

Put another way: I truly believe that people who come into our 'sphere' are mirrors to how we feel inside. They reflect what we hide.

A really deep question you might want to consider: Do you like or respect yourself? If not, why not and do you want to change that?

Once you truly begin to respect and love yourself you can only attract nicer people who reflect that.

You commit to change and your interactions will change.

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Three Weeks and counting.....

Keep going you are doing great and at least you are not where you used to be. And always remember, as one door shuts another will open. Stay open and stay positive.

I wish you all the best finishing your course.

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Gift card guilt.

Smile and walk in as though you own the place ;)
They are supposed to be 'pleased to see you'. You are the one spending money there and its their job to be nice to you and not the other way round.

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Humans are going to have conflict.

In my humble opinion, managing human relationships is the most challenging part of life. And by far family relationships (I find) are the ultimate testing ground for any progress made along the personal growth journey.

I firmly believe in personal energy fields and the vibes people give off (we are star dust after all).
Once humans learn to align their individual personal energy into a pure vibrational frequency they will only attract (like) positive energies (as in fellow humans).
As our interpersonal relationships become more stable and loving, the beings who insist on giving off unstable energy and choose to live in discord, will gradually disappear from our environment. They simply will no longer be a 'match'.

I also believe, that love, compassion, caring and unity are all pure vibrations that should be taught from a very early age. May be then humans can avert conflict.

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I wish people would stop looking at me.

Unfortunately you can't and will never be able to stop people from starring at you.
But you do have another choice that no one can stop you from following.
Ignore them. Its not easy at first but if you do want to see change you will have to do your part and put in the effort first.
Every time you catch someone starring, divert the attention from thinking of them to something else (your surroundings, positive affirmations, even a song will do). Basically train your mind to flick them off the moment you see yourself heading towards noticing them noticing you. Give them no time whatsoever because that is exactly what intensifies the anxiety for you.

So catch your thoughts VERY EARLY and re-direct the attention. Keep doing this over and over again until it becomes a habit for your mind. You really can re-train habitual thinking, and it really is worth it in the long run.


This reminds me of a beautiful quote by the Austrian Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl:
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedomsโ€”to choose oneโ€™s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose oneโ€™s own way."

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Lacking motivation!

First write the list don't worry about the doing. This 'intention setting' actually preps the mind at a deep level. Then relax- do the passive thing you want to do. In most cases you'll find your mind wanting to tend to the list. It just won't rest.

Tip: When you write the List, list the chores from easy to hardest. Getting the easy done first will help get the momentum going to completion of all tasks.

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