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Should I stay or should I go?

jj01 wrote:
I was a TP recruiter in my last life! ;-)

Lol!

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Should I stay or should I go?

Overall consensus is to leave. I honestly probably wouldโ€™ve given this advice to someone else. Great example of me needing to hear it from all of you and still internally struggling with it. Iโ€™m going to take it slow like @Rockster160 advised but itโ€™s time to start the job hunt.

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Should I stay or should I go?

peter wrote:
If they needed to let you go, they most probably would.. With companies it is usually just a one way loyalty, sadly. I worked in a place where I felt I was useless - I didn't have enough work, yet they kept me; and from another department they let go a woman who worked for them for decades! I was furious.. and that was the reason I left. I loved the job while I had the work, but when I just sat there doing nothing watching others being made redundant, I couldn't stay..

Anyway, I agree with Rockster, and wish you all the best getting new interviews and deciding with your next step.

I know that one way loyalty tends to be a thing that happens ๐Ÿ™ Thanks for the advice!

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Should I stay or should I go?

jj01 wrote:
Your first loyalties need to be to yourself and your family. ...Don't play the counter-offer game. (No one ever wins.) Once you make up your mind to go, you need to just do it! If they offered you more $ to stay after you've said you're leaving, you should wonder why they didn't make that gesture sooner. Either way, good luck! Go boldly into the world, and be your best at whatever you do (wherever you do it)...and you'll always be able to sleep at night!

How did you know I briefly considered countering? Youโ€™re right about all of this as well.

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Slash wrote:
1. A good thing never lasts.
2. If you don't want to look like a ribcage, you go where the money's at.
3. You gotta do what you gotta do - who other than you will pay the consequences if you ignore the signs.
4. It's time to go.

Youโ€™re right ๐Ÿ™ I donโ€™t have to like that you are right, though? Lol

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Yorick wrote:
rocky, i dont think she wants the canned bs about the job hunt. its a dig here.

I definitely didnโ€™t want the advice but I really needed to hear it.

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Rockster160 wrote:
I was in a surprisingly similar situation just a couple of months ago.

I totally understand the loyalty thing.

However, more importantly than loyalty is happiness. At least in my opinion, enjoying your job is far more important than money... Obviously- thatโ€™s only to a certain degree. You need money to survive.

If you really canโ€™t afford to stay, and you know the company cannot afford to pay you more, there isnโ€™t much of a choice there.

If the company has any sort of respect towards you- theyโ€™d tell you: do whatโ€™s best for you. Make the decision out of YOUR best interest. The company will figure itself out.

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My advice? Put in some applications. Do some interviews. Look around. If you find a job you canโ€™t turn down- take it. But job searching takes time, so itโ€™s not like youโ€™re leaving tomorrow. And you ALWAYS have the freedom to choose whether or not you take the job.
At the very least- that will give you some feelers on how long it will take you to find a job, about how much youโ€™ll be able to make at these other companies, etc. Also, youโ€™ll be able to get a feel for how much you like these other places and decide whether youโ€™ll fit. Plus getting experience interviewing is ALWAYS good because interviews suck.

Thank you, I think this is something I can handle doing without feeling too guilty. I could definitely get a better feel for other firms.

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Yorick wrote:
not necessarily revealing alot ( or if ya wanna ), what kind of company is this?

I sorta have this loyalty issue as well. i wish i could scrap every job whenever i thought i was worth more. the job before the one i have now, i stuck with em on this sinking business in a bad economy - till they layed me off in some attempt to recreate their business venture.. couple yrs passed and learned that they closed down.

i feel ya araz. i just have my own reasons to stick with the job i have.. loyalty is one of em.

Itโ€™s good to know that Iโ€™m not the only person struggling with this.

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Facebook is really beginning to suck big time!

smiley wrote:
Yes.

I'm fond of Twitter.

But both are echo chambers.

Reddit ๐Ÿ’ฏ for me. I prefer Twitter and Instagram over Facebook. I have to take a break from those platforms periodically too lol

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What is the most ethical profession?

soco wrote:
I have never had the pleasure of using one but I'd say midwifery has to be one of the top 2 or 3 professions.

Ooh soco thatโ€™s a good one!

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