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Sherlock wrote:
You are doing a great job!

Remember, the male ego is more fragile than gossamer. We are always second guessing ourselves.

And, since women initiate 67% of divorces and almost always get the kids and 97% of the couple's assets, men are always wondering when the other shoe will drop. I have known men who were shocked and stunned by wives wanting a divorce--they say it came like a bolt out of the blue.

When he feels his place in your life is assured, he will want kids.

Stay away from bad counselors and therapists. Most of them live miserable lives.

Very true! One of the biggest turn offs for me when we went to marriage counseling was when our counselor suggested that we might get a divorce and then get married. I don’t think you should jump to a divorce, it should be a last resort.

I think it also doesn’t help that his best friend’s wife left him and took their baby. :( Now his friend is depressed and alone, so I definitely understand that fear.

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OK so after reading all of these replies and thinking really hard what I decided to do is apply for the Thailand couples position. Even if I get it, I don’t have to take it. There’s no pressure on either of us to go. We wouldn’t even find out until September if they wanted us to go. This way, we have plenty of time to decide what we want.

I definitely don’t want to get a divorce because I do love my husband very much. I also hate ultimatums show I understand what you guys are saying about giving them. I am hoping that we can find a happy compromise.

I definitely don’t want to give up on having kids and so I told him that too. He used to really want them, so I think he might change his mind. I feel like the only reason he decided not to have them deep down inside is because he’s actually afraid of not being financially responsible.

Also, I was unhappy when he went to Thailand without me because I wanted To go too! I fully trust him though. I know for hundred percent fact that he would never, ever cheat on me. He doesn’t even notice other women. Even though we have problems, we don’t have any problems that are divorce worthy. It’s nothing we can’t work through. I think just the last couple of weeks have been particularly hard on me Because I have been so stressed and I feel like I’m having a midlife crisis

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I talked to my husband. I said everything I wrote in that initial post - that I was tired of giving up on my hopes and dreams, that I felt like this was one sided. I promised I wouldn’t make any rash decisions because he asked to go to marriage counseling. I said I would wait to apply until then but that I wouldn’t change my mind about applying in general.

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I’m a little bit overwhelmed with the responses. I’ll answer soon - I have to go to work now, then my father in laws birthday dinner, and then my sister’s engagement party. Every hour of everyday has been scheduled like this. 😴

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@BA1 I’ll let you know how this goes. Worst case scenario, I go by myself. Best case scenario, he goes with me.

Yeah I was not excited when he went to Thailand with his best friend and we had only been married for 4 months. But his best friend who was also married insisted on it being a boy’s trip.

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Original version of a very old poem .

I read this and literally cried. I don’t normally feel anything when I read poetry, but @Eddieee , this is a good one.

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J.N-Bucking wrote:
Then you may have just answered your own question

Yeah, I did :( I wanted to add “BUT I don’t want to leave my husband” but Al said no BUTS so... yeah.

I wonder if this means I’m a bad wife. 😔

Big-Al-One wrote:
Sounds like it's time to break the news to the hubby...

I’m so non confrontational. He’s stubborn and I’m nervous about how this conversation will go. He’s been so nice lately, I’m having a hard time “rocking the boat”.

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I want to join the Peace Corps. I want to go to Samoa and teach primary school. I want to be a teacher. I want to eventually adopt or foster.

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@Nix - I would love to dive into the unknown together! It's much easier to give advice than it is to take your own advice, isn't it?

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The more I think about it, the more selfish and self pitying I sound. Oh no. :(

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