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Anyone have wisdom to share on home buying?

Check disclosure laws and get a home inspection before you buy. Some houses have problems that will make them into money pits. Find out what previous owners are required to disclose. Ask pointed questions. And if you get evasive answers, move on!

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Update on my momโ€™s condition (Ilse/Aisha).

I am terribly sorry that your mom is suffering with cancer, and wish it were in my power to heal her. Please know that our thoughts and prayers are with you.

I am in Africa at this moment, also--West Africa.

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So...All in all my new boss is cool except...

I would offer some observations, based on decades of being in "management" positions.

When I said that some people are just looking for a paycheck, I meant that they are simply wanting to get paid by doing just the minimum. If people are desirous of entering management, they have to treat the enterprise as if it were their very own, even if they are just a low-level employee.

Take the employee who walks by things that are broken or just not working well, and just keeps on walking. Take another who reports things that are broken or just not working well, and perhaps as a bonus, comes up with solutions to fix things and make things run better. If you were the boss, which one of these would you select for a management position?

We are constantly having to prove ourselves. Every day is a new challenge. No one is so accomplished that he or she can afford to rest on his or her "laurels." I have seen, time and again, people in organizations who feel that they have contributed all they need to, and they just slack off. I have seen those same people go out the door with a little push.

Credentials are great, but attitude is 99%. The most important thing is motivation. I have seen people with credentials coming out their ears who just lost their get up and go. Truth be told, most employers do not care if your knowledge is especially broad. They want you to be able to perform specific functions exceedingly well.

To get a substantial promotion, you have to convince the powers that be that you are wanting that promotion so you can make a greater contribution--and not because you just want a bigger paycheck.

Once an employer is convinced that you have his or her back, magical things start to happen. If they don't, it's time to find another employer who appreciates a person with your motivation.

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So, I have a date set for my medical and interview to become a Military Officer with the cadets.

This is great!

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What do I do to survive the three weeks until my gastro appointment (optional: what's wrong with me)

Just hang in there! Do not be silenced--there IS something causing all of those symptoms!

If--perchance--you had a gastrointestinal candida infection, part of what you ate would be converted to alcohol. Yes, you could not touch a drop and get drunk!

What happens if you drink a nice, big cup of coffee?

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How would you go about getting your heart throughly checked?

I think you're probably OK. But talk to a doctor if you still have concerns.

You can worry about this or that being wrong with you, and work yourself up into a state of anxiety.

As for myself, I know that I will not live on this earth in my present state forever. That worry is out of the way.

I look forward to what is beyond.

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What do I do to survive the three weeks until my gastro appointment (optional: what's wrong with me)

A cautionary tale.

We had a lovely person on the old Help.com. She had some real medical problems. The medical doctors in her area were idiots. One of them spread a false report about her, so she wasn't taken seriously by the other doctors. I advised her to go to the Mayo Clinic.

She died. And her death was directly attributable to the incompetent doctors she had seen.

The moral of this story is to not be satisfied with unsatisfactory results. Just as there are incompetent auto mechanics, and electricians and plumbers, there are also incompetent doctors. Around 200,000 Americans die each year because of doctors' incompetence. Let that sink in for a minute or two.

When you sense that your doctor is a boob, RUN--don't walk--away. *****Boobs will kill you. As the old saying goes, "Lawyers hang their mistakes, while doctors simply send theirs to the cemetery."

I do not think the urgent care centers are equipped to really help you. What you need is a gastroenterology specialist. May is almost here!

Don't sweat life, kid. Nobody is going to eat you! I sense you need to learn to relax, to quit overthinking things and getting worked up about them. There is probably a physical basis--a jittery digestive system can make you anxious.

And remember this, kid: worrying about crap doesn't do anything to fix tomorrow--it just takes away today's peace.

You hang in there!

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Crying.

This will blow over.

One, don't tell fibs to your parents.

Secondly, don't feel you have to tell them everything you do!

Ask for forgiveness. Then forgive yourself!

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Three Weeks and counting.....

Good show! Keep that doctorate in sight and do not become distracted from your goal.

Really glad you have given up cigarettes.

I can see a beautiful woman, and if she lights up a cigarette, it is the same to me as if she picked up some dog poo from the ground and stuffed that into her mouth.

When I was single, nothing was a greater turn off than seeing a girl light up a cigarette!

OK . . . off my cigarettes rank now!

Keep up the good work!

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I passed the exams I'm going back to Uni!

Congratulations! You are now well on your way! Always keep your goal in sight!

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