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Would a man love me for me and ignore the fact that right now in my life I am not financially stable?

I’m having the hardest time finding a full time job. I’ve been applying. I am working 2 part time jobs and in between those I freelance for some extra money. I’m single and most of my friends do not live in this town anymore. But for some reason tonight I keep thinking I’m going to be single forever because who would accept someone like me? I really like this guy. He has a pretty good job. Has his own house. I get the vibe from him that he may share the same feelings. But I’ve been avoiding him because I’m a little embarrassed because I’m older and I can’t afford these things yet. And I keep telling myself that it would probably never work. But I have had feelings for him for the past two years. Any advice?

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Araz
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1. Your job does not define your worth. You need to work on your self esteem.

2. If he likes you, it definitely won’t matter to him what you do to make a living. If it does, he’s not worth it.

3. Two years is a long time. It’s always going to be a “no” if you never ask... go for it.

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Thank you for this. It makes me feel a little bit better.

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Araz wrote:
1. Your job does not define your worth. You need to work on your self esteem.

2. If he likes you, it definitely won’t matter to him what you do to make a living. If it does, he’s not worth it.

3. Two years is a long time. It’s always going to be a “no” if you never ask... go for it.

I 100% agree with this statement. You will never know if you don't ask. There is always someone for everyone. Other people find them quicker than they though and others have to wait a little longer. You will not be single forever. That is what I tell myself on a daily basis. At least you are trying your best to find a full time job. Part time jobs are ok too. You have more time for yourself

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Don't let money or material get in the way of love.
Just make sure that you're real and ALL in.
It's already beginning to look good.
Good luck!

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Aww, two years! Go for it.. All the best, hope he is the one xx

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Ask him out and stick your tongue down his throat. Yeah see all the questions have the same answer today... this is easy.

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I used to feel the same way, and it sort of felt worse it when I finally figured out that I was asexual, because, unless I magically found another asexual person that I was romantically attracted to...who the hell would be okay with me not being sexually attracted to them? Most likely, they'd probably end up seeing someone else because I wouldn't be keeping them happy.

But I think that was just me adding to the pressure myself. But the other advice others have given you, is well said. Your job or finances shouldn't be a "selling point" for you being attractive to another person. And if it is, personally...I wouldn't think too highly of them.

Plus, just because you don't feel you have found the career NOW, doesn't mean that you never will! I'm 33 and ten years ago, I didn't even have the self-esteem to be able to apply for a job, because I had no way to say "I'd be an asset to your company because..." and then I'd draw a blank. My self-esteem was pretty shitty, and it would feel like I'd be lying, because I wasn't an asset to anyone's company. Unless they wanted someone to be an example of a shut-in, then I could have made the big bucks. Lol.

Now, I'm focusing on moving forward to get a masters degree...and that's just my BACK-UP, but it's still in-line with what I feel I really want to do with my life that would satisfy me. (Journalist/author). Ten years ago, I was bemoaning the fact that I'd never get to Hollywood... but, with my new direction, I still get to travel and write, or...I can easily just sit and type at my computer all day too, but I'm still doing something.

Money is not of a real concern of mine. It'd be nice to be able to stop renting in public housing and pay a mortgage, sure. But if me renting is the reason a man doesn't want me? Then he's kind of a trash human being to figure that as a deal breaker.

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Just go for it, if you've liked him for 2 yrs then you're obviously serious, and if he's a decent guy he won't care.

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