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I'll be honest. I don't know the other part of this story. It sounds like you told everyone about this and I'm coming in at the after post

I dont know what she did but if she did something really bad and you cant risk her being in your home maybe you can point her in the direction of some shelters or churches.

If what she did is something that was a mistake but she can be giving 1 more chance after you lay out some clear rules and she is sorry and gives you some verbal or written word she wont do it again you can tell your husband it's only temporary just till she has another place or compromise with him by seeing what he needs/expects from her to be comfortable with her back.

If she did something really bad though and it's not in your best interest to welcome her back point her kn the direction of help, give her hotline numbers. But she has to live with the consequences of her actions

You cant set yourself on fire just to keep everyone else warm

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Oh Pep!! I hope that you can find some peace with this soon. I know that it has to be killing you inside. Maybe a decision can be made and you can just move on...IF she doesn't answer you at all, maybe that decision has been made.
Please take it easy.... 😟

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bug people bug me

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Nevermind wrote:
I'll be honest. I don't know the other part of this story. It sounds like you told everyone about this and I'm coming in at the after post

I dont know what she did but if she did something really bad and you cant risk her being in your home maybe you can point her in the direction of some shelters or churches.

If what she did is something that was a mistake but she can be giving 1 more chance after you lay out some clear rules and she is sorry and gives you some verbal or written word she wont do it again you can tell your husband it's only temporary just till she has another place or compromise with him by seeing what he needs/expects from her to be comfortable with her back.

If she did something really bad though and it's not in your best interest to welcome her back point her kn the direction of help, give her hotline numbers. But she has to live with the consequences of her actions

You cant set yourself on fire just to keep everyone else warm

We thought that having a room mate would be a good way for us to be in a win/win situation with someone....we could use a little extra money and we were renting out a safe, comfortable space for a very low price. We also told this one woman that she could live here for free from Feb through May. Just to help her get on her feet and all.

She lived in a pretty bad neighborhood and was in a bad situation with a man. She paid all the rent where she was because he never stepped up. It was $750/month plus about $80/month in utilities. Here, utilities would be included and rent would be $400/month. The room was bigger than her old living room/kitchen combined; and she had use of the whole main level of the house as well. She is a 60 year old woman with some health issues. She never had children, so she was even looking forward to my 4 kids who live here.

So we began the process of moving her in. As we were moving her desk in, bugs were literally falling off of it.

Come to find out: she had a VERY SERIOUS infestation of bed bugs. She'd had them in her apartment complex for 7 months already. My boys told me that they saw bugs crawling up the window sills and door sills of her apartment and that they were crawling all over her furniture (I need glasses, btw, so I didn't see them). We put her stuff into our van and brought her to our house.

Come to find out, she had been let go from her job BECAUSE of bed bugs. And she never told us that she had them. She knew, and didn't tell us

I had her stay in the one room and hired an exterminator, who came out 2 days after we learned of the infestation. It cost us over $3,000.00. My husband told her that she would have to move out. She moved into the homeless shelter, but that is just for cold weather months. It closes today.

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bed bugs freak me out, your crazy for letting her movie in. youre lucky if your whole house isnt infested now also, which it might be..

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Check with a local Episcopal church. They know about all of the programs for the homeless and needy.

Does she have ANY family?

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Jebus-Zeus wrote:
bed bugs freak me out, your crazy for letting her movie in. youre lucky if your whole house isnt infested now also, which it might be..

It's not. I hired a specialist way back in Feb. He treated it 3x in 10 days and since then.... no signs

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Sherlock wrote:
Check with a local Episcopal church. They know about all of the programs for the homeless and needy.

Does she have ANY family?

No family. I called a couple places. They are either too full or closing down

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CaraMia wrote:
Oh Pep!! I hope that you can find some peace with this soon. I know that it has to be killing you inside. Maybe a decision can be made and you can just move on...IF she doesn't answer you at all, maybe that decision has been made.


Please take it easy.... 😟

Yes... her not reaching out or answering has made it easier

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Holy crap! I thought bed bugs were something invisible, like dust mites. Just googled it and now I feel itchy..
Pepper it's not your fault she's homeless. She did that to herself. It's not even the nasty bed bugs. If I were you, I would never let her bring her stuff in my house and I'd make her burn her clothes before she could come in. Since you exterminated the bugs you shouldn't have let her go. Right now she's out in the streets. Who knows what she has now. It's not safe for you. She could have any disease.

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Knowing you Pep I bet this is literally killing you inside.
I too would feel the same.
You’ve already helped her out once and look where that got you.
Sadly you need to give her a wide birth,unless you have another $3,000 to spare..


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Most likely, she still has a bedbug infestation and still has head lice. She needs a medical intervention.

This is the great failure of our society. Refugees come knocking at our borders, and we do backflips to get them settled, to have an adequate income and to help them find jobs. But our OWN people we just let languish into whatever gutter they fall in. I'm really sick and tired of it!

And the CHURCHES need to be performing charitable works instead of just raking in donations and building more church annexes!

Did you talk to any Episcopal priest?

I hate to say this, but too many fundamentalist Protestant ministers and congregations believe that if somebody is suffering misfortune, it is because they offended God and are now the subject of divine punishment. That is total BS and goes against everything Christ taught!

At one time this woman was a productive member of society. She probably had a family and was a respected member of the community. Misfortune overtook her and she is now suffering like someone in a Russian gulag. She was forced to live in squalor and now has become the host to bedbugs and head lice.

Government social workers are probably too lazy to help her--but try. And try that Episcopal priest. There IS a way out there to help her!

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Yes, it's killimg me @Evansent
I can't imagine what this lady is going through. A 60 year old woman out on the streets.

@Sherlock she was a productive member of society right up to the point of losing her job due to her bugs. I agree with you: refugees get help, but citizens don't

@Kalinihta yes. We shoild have just let her stay when we got the place exterminated, but my husb was adamant. We have 4 kids and not a ton of extra money to be spending like that. Also, we are all asthmatic and have allergies. One of the home remedies we used made us all sick.

I just can't believe I'm "that person" who would put someone out of my house, but it was all during the panic mode. That very same day, I was all over town looking for her

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I would be exactly same Pep. I have a special place in my heart for the homeless just like yourself.
Have you done what, Sherlock suggested?

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Evansent wrote:
I would be exactly same Pep. I have a special place in my heart for the homeless just like yourself.
Have you done what, Sherlock suggested?

Doing that today in a little while. Currently have a houseful of noisy kids (my 4 + 4) and the noise is prohibitive to a productive phone call...

Didn't want to do it yesterday (Easter)

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Pep your family comes first and foremost.
Don’t feel to bad,it’s not like you ain’t trying to help this lady out.
See what happens tomorrow.

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Pepper, you will have to get the right people involved. You cannot do it by yourself.

She can be saved. She just needs the right people to help her!

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I've known this lady for years. We worked together before I ever had kids. She has Turner Syndrome and has never had kids, has bad hips, and has heart problems, and has never been able to drive (partly due to heart probs and partly because she's barely 4'1")


When we both found ourselves in this town, my family has helped her. We've given her rides pretty often; when she broke her arm, we picked her up from hosp and paid for her meds. My son felt so bad for her that day that he treated her to McDonalds with his own money. She likes my kids... and that's saying something because people and mostly kids, annoy her.

After she left our house in Feb., we paid for her to get a hotel room for 2 weeks and gave her cash for food. I would text her often to see what she needed.

Recently texted her and she is living with a woman in another town and told me about the drama going on there since this other woman discovered recently that she has bed bugs

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i have turner broadcasting syndrome too, its cuz its a sucky channel tbs

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Sooo...thePost bug lady that was in my house...is now homeless and is looking for help anywhereclosed. She'sThank evenyou posting in "buy and sell" sites saying that a piece of floor is all she needs. ¬ ¬ I feel like such a rotten human for makingyour her leave my house! I have contacted her and asked her if she needs anything and have not received a reply....¬ ¬ I keep trying to get my husband to agree to let her live here. But he's adamant that she lied to us and he doesn't want her herehelp

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