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Kalinihta
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"thanks" "sorry" "I love you" "well done"


simple words, yet almost everyone seem to either forget to tell, or fear, or just not interested enough. whether it is at home, or at the office, or even with friends, some nice words could make someone elses day. and also, what you give is what you get.
lately I've been dealing with this negative, pessimistic friend and I'm trying to give her good vibes. doesn't seem to work a lot but at least she keeps coming back, so I'm guessing that's good for now. what I've learnt is that, there's no bad or good person. depends on how you approach them and if you give love to a hateful person, instead of giving back the negativity they gave you, you could heal them.

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well said..

cant say i've never been so spent on trying to help some of those radical neg folks.. wound up fixing their sadness for a day but they always come back for more. it was like a drug to them. after so long i sorta gave up to my shame, we shouldn't lose faith on people.

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As long as it isn't hurting you... some people will take and take, but never change.

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thanks for warning me @Yorick and @smiley ! I'll keep that in mind. :)

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Sometimes, no matter how much we think we can "heal" or change people, we cannot.
People have a way of getting totally SET in the way that they act and feel.
The person has to WANT to change.
Most do not.
I am guilty of just about knocking myself out trying to "heal" people.
Then I realized that the person who really needed "healing" was ME.
Still working on it.
Try to surround yourself with caring, loving people. The kind that are there for you no matter what.
Life is way too short to be trying so hard to change others.
The change begins with YOU.

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hi @Cara! thanks for your input! I'll keep your words in mind.
healing and changing are two totally different things. you can't change anyone and it would be stupid for me to try. no one can change unless they work alone with themselves. but. as I said above, there's no good or bad person. depends on how you treat them. I know for a fact that many people, if they were in the same situation with two different people, they'd react totally different depending on who they've got in front of them.
so, there are two scenarios. you either change yourself to try and accept the fact that the other person is going to treat you badly, or you try to show the other person that they can trust you. so they can begin their path to change themselves. I don't want to give up hope and let them be, I care too much for this person, so much that, at least, I can try. I can try to show them that there is good in this world. if I don't succeed, at least I tried. it takes time and a lot of effort. but I've seen it happen a few times. some people just need a push.
it all comes to the point where you decide what kind of person YOU want to be.
when I decide to get involved in a situation like this, I always ask myself: in two years from now, if I looked back, what would I see? would I see a person who didn't give two f**ks, or would I be able to say that I tried my best, no matter what the outcome was?
you might have given up on others, I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I did that.

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By Kent Keith:

People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.

If you are kind,
people may accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.

If you are successful,
you will win some false friends and some true enemies.
Succeed anyway.

If you are honest and frank,
people may cheat you.
Be honest and frank anyway.

What you spend years building,
someone could destroy overnight.
Build anyway.

If you find serenity and happiness,
they may be jealous.
Be happy anyway.

The good you do today,
people will often forget tomorrow.
Do good anyway.

Give the world the best you have,
and it may never be enough.
Give the best you've got anyway.

You see,
in the final analysis it is between you and God;
it was never between you and them anyway.

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Next time you make plans to get together, buy her a helium filled balloon. You can't help but smile when you receive a balloon.

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Soco your words (Kent's words) are inspiring!!! thank you, I really needed to hear something like that now!
and I think I'll take your advice about the helium balloon!!! what a nice idea!
she seems pretty disconnected from her inner child and I was actually thinking to invite her to a luna park. (yeah, I still go to those! hah) I guess a helium balloon would work wonders! thanks! :)

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Keith's prose is simply called Anyway and is often misassigned to Mother Teresa. It can still be found written on a wall in a children's orphanage she visited frequently.

You're welcome. Keep us updated please.

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Well it's always good to spread as much good as you can. Even if you get nothing in return it's always better to put out good vibes in the world, especially since there's already so much negativity in the world already

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