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Help Me

I appreciate your honesty. And maybe this was already mentioned in other comments, I didn't read them, it is a lot, but I wonder what about your wife being fat is really bugging you. Are you not attracted anymore? Or do you feel like she is more of a homebody now and you two are doing as much socially or whatever?

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Help me with this

One of the reasons I don't post as much is most of what is in my head lately is political stuff and since that one post about bullying and political stuff I'm reluctant to make posts about that.

I wonder if it is the same for other people...I think the election is taking up a lot of real estate in all our brains these days.

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Weird Al decides to monitor the Presidential debate on Tuesday.

soco wrote:
He has not aged well...

Then again, who has...?

Really? I think he seems actually really spry for a 60 year old. And he still has that high pitched voice.

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Help me with this

Good good content.

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so..

I think a lot of people think it's all just hype. But we are really at a turning point and it's not even necessarily linked to Trump, Democrats, or Republicans.

All our lives and this country are going to change a lot in the next twenty years. It's shocking how Covid happening is not enough to wake people up to that.

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so..

soco wrote:
Trump will not lose but he will not continue to be our POTUS. Let me explain.

Before the final tally of all the votes in all the states Trump will resign still thinking in his mind he won. This is how much he hates to lose so he will quit before that happens. Within 72 hours Pence will be sworn in as the interim President and his first act as POTUS will be to give Trump a full and complete pardon. This will protect him from any Federal charges only. The rest of his life will be spent holed up in another country while his lawyers fight thousands of civil law suits. He will die a destitute.

That would be a nice irony.

I think he will lose and try to say it was rigged, force recounts or try to invalidate people's votes.

No matter who wins it's going to be the least legitimate election in history. Country is in for some dark times if we don't win senate, house and presidency.

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so..

According to polls, Trump is going to lose.

However, polls also said he'd lose in 2016, and we know how that turned out.

Another factor is Republicans and the Trump campaign are actively trying to make it harder to vote in some key states, zeroing in on districts that are likely to vote Democrat. Even if polls show Biden up in florida, for example, a last minute poll place subtraction could tip the balance in Trump's favor.


I think Trump has already won in the sense you're talking about of "showing the world what America is about." Or maybe Fox News won? the point is, even if Trump loses, he's going to lose narrowly...which is just sad given what a terrible President he's been. People do not judge their politicians based on performance anymore, apparently.

The stakes are high. It's a matter of survival. COVID is just the tip of the iceberg. If Trump stays around things are going to get a lot worse and quickly.

And the pathetic thing is his approval rating won't go under 40 percent. Even if we went into a full scale depression, I'd wager. ugh.

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Am I wrong to try and find someone to have a physical relationship with?

I think it is wrong unless you have received some kind of "hall pass" from your wife.

It is also my belief that is is not fair, unless you went into the relationship with that understanding, for one party to say "I don't want this, and because I don't want this, you can't have it with anyone." That is something you would have to work out as a couple, and that means you need to have a frank discussion with your wife about this. If she is unwilling to have this discussion...honestly it may be a sign that there is something wrong in your marriage that needs addressing.

I really do think sexual intimacy is an important part of a healthy relationship. I do not think I could stay in a relationship where I was not having ***sex with my partner. I also do not think going behind your partners back is the way forward.

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On the other hand.

I am not a doctor, but I do not think it is normal for someone to wake up one day and suddenly they are no longer interested in ***sex. I wonder if your wife has experienced some kinda of trauma, mental or physical or both, that is preventing her from enjoying ***sex.

Some questions you should ask your wife: Does she pleasure herself? Is stimulation uncomfortable or painful to her? Does she have trouble becoming aroused? Depending on her answers to these questions, she should probably go to a doctor for this, and I would start with either a primacy care physician or a gynecologist. I know she has already gone to a doctor. Is she reluctant to see a doctor about this? If so, why?

I wonder if she does not see it as a problem and just expects you to be ok with it. I do not think that is fair if so.

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I feel like sum1 has hacked my tech.

I guess it depends what they are doing and how they are doing it. If it is very serious you should probably get the police involved.

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I lost my friend.

I'm sorry to hear that. I've kinda felt the same about a certain friend once. I don't really talk to that person anymore. It got better eventually but at the time it felt very sad and made me quite depressed.

It's not much of advice but the only thing I can offer is that all pain is temporary and if you two aren't able to make it back to being friends, you'll eventually feel better about it. But I wish you luck in patching things up.

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