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How can I accept my daughter's boyfriend?

Padre_J_Roulston wrote:
Age is still a number... But that does beg the question as to the nature of the relationship. When they first met in person, etc. Should the police be involved based on age, etc.

However, if things were done, where she was an adult when first meeting in person... as distasteful as it may be, I think you are still left with loving and supporting your daughter.

In person they met when she was 18. Despite that, from the legal point, the police could have been still involved due to the online activities, and she is very well aware of it.

I am extremely anxious and stressed from meeting him, he is due to stay four weeks, but am honestly trying my best to act in the best interest of my daughter, and may the Almighty help me with that.

But thanks for your reply, Padre_J_Roulston; it is helping me to preserve my sanity.

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How can I accept my daughter's boyfriend?

Thank you, Padre_J_Roulston, I agree with you, good points. She knows my views about him, and she is still choosing him, so I should support her. Will have to pray to do just that when he comes.

Padre_J_Roulston wrote:
There is always the old adage that 'age is just a number.' Which I think is true.

Maybe I should have written that my daughter is 21 now. So, substract 8 from her age, and he was 28 when they met!! Is the age still just a number in that case? :(

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the new me ow.

NacthoMan wrote:
lots of love from here to you @Cregyn, its not easy but doing my best here.. lentils is my new favorite food lol

Aaw, bless; 'thank you for lentil me into your life..' ;) I love lentil soup, and lentil curry.. If you ever hang around Wales, you are invited for a dinner. :)

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the new me ow.

NacthoMan wrote:
@Cregyn i get it, theres always someone having it much worse. for that i should be ultimately greatful for what i got no matter how hard it is for me.

i humblely respect and praise for those who thrive with much difficlut situations. my hats off to the real champs.

I fully agree with you, NacthoMan, respect and praise for those who thrive with much difficult situations. But on the other hand, I did not mean to invalidate your situation, feelings, and difficulties; I hope it did not come across that way.

I was just trying to bring some hope into the difficult situation you are in. I hope you are adjusting well so far. (I personally go through lots of anger before I can accept any adverse permanent changes, and see positives about it..) The financial burden in your case is not negligible. Hope there is a positive way forward sorting it out!

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the new me ow.

So, sorry to learn about your health issues, NacthoMan, and the impact not only on your finances, but your whole lifestyle.

I can relate as my daughter's had various health issues for well over a decade, and I work with kids with various health issues, disabilities, and autism etc.

I have to admit that I find it much harder to deal with my own daughter's disabilities than those of the kids at work. I have plenty of patients at work, but with my own daughter I struggle to have enough patience for all the adjustments that impact our lives daily. And it is much harder to watch own child suffer, being constantly in pain etc.

I do hope that you will have enough support, NacthoMan, and depending which diabetes you have, although inconvenient, it can be managed by food pretty well. Counting carbs is a burden, but it will get easier as you will get to know the food, and it will become your second nature.

Hope you will adjust well, and will be able to stay positive for the future.

Working with kids with so many health issues, was extremely rewarding for me and humbling as well. I've looked after a boy who had been fighting a brain tumour for over 5 years! It returned three times within that period in different parts of his brain.

It affected him in every way you can think of. After the first surgery, although successfuly removing the tumour, left him without the ability to walk, to talk, or to swallow. It also affected his sight, and hearing. He ended up in a wheelchair, communicating through sign language, being fed by a tube, on chemo for years, and the boy did not complain once!!! He was so amazing always considering other people and their feelings, often putting others before him, and always full of joy and making jokes. He touched lives of everyone who encountered him. So, it is possible to shine through impossible as this boy's proven; hope you will, too.
All the best x

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Happy Thanksgiving.

Lano wrote:
Nothing stopping you from having turkey and mashed taters and saying thank you ๐Ÿ˜Ž

I suppose I could buy some meat-free turkey and have it, you are right. I might even fake my own family.. ;)

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Happy Thanksgiving.

The mushroom gravy seems nice, hope you enjoyed it, and had a good thanksgiving. What a relief with the septic tank backup! :)

There is no thanksgiving here in UK, and I am wondering how come halloween has made it here, but no thanksgiving..

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Am I a good person?

DocteurRalph wrote:
I wouldn't say it was the same answer for all of us. There are good and evil people. I don't follow rules well and get in a lot of trouble for victimless crimes. One of my children is a very good person by what one might call Christian standards. He treats others better than himself, gives money away all the time to those he feels deserve it, and generally does everything he can to get along with everyone he meets at all times. He's not much like his father.

Aaaw, bless, Doc. I wish I could say that about my child..

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What bits of wisdom has life taught you?

Hope for the best, but be prepared for the worst :))

It's not work hard, play hard..
It's work smarter, play crazier.. ;)

2019 Avoid Negative People
2020 Avoid Positive People
2021 Avoid People x

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