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Many of you here remember our friend littlenick.

Really sorry for your loss, littlenick, and Sherlock. x

'Best friends live forever in memories that we keep.'

May you find comfort and peace in the memories that you will treasure.

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I lost my beautiful Dexter bunny just over a year ago. He stopped fighting cancer when Lilly, his bunny wife, died. He had been also blind and plagued by some nasty virus, causing lots of harm, but he was always 100% loving and caring, and always would put his bunny wife first. Still missing him every day. The only reason why I did not lose my sanity when I had to have him put down was because as I went for a walk to be alone to grieve the day he died, I found a memorial bench on which it said - Do not be sad it is over, be happy it happened..

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For those of you on mental health medication...

I have never taken any meds for my mental health for the same reason. The side effects, and tiredness, outweigh the benefits, but for some people some meds work.

My daughter takes meds for her anxiety, especially when she has a panic attack, and those do work. Perhaps you should ask in a forum that specializes on depression; people there will have more experience with meds and side effects.

I do hope you will find the right solution soon. Battling depression is tough.

What helped me to stop depression some decade ago, was a Biblical Counselling book by Ed Welsh - Depression, Looking Up from the Stubborn Darkness.

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Husband is filthy.

If you have a six year old, how about trying to ask the child what are good hygiene habits in front of your husband.

If the child says correctly, praise them well, and stress how important those are.

If the child does not state them correctly, just explain what is the right thing..

Hopefully, your husband will get the hint. If not, it's gonna have to be more direct way. It is a tough one to deal with, hope it goes well.

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Im not having a good time.

Really sorry you are not having a good time..

Do hope this approach does work for you as you write, as a sort of catharsis. There are many ways to express even if words are not used. Are you artistic any chance? Painting, sculpting, or anything else, even if you turn cooking/baking into an art, can help to manage or release stress.

However, long term, usually the feelings/actions need to be addressed directly.. Hard to guess your situation.

Hope you will find the right support, and solution to your problem. x

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Hey guys !!!!

I like the tune, it's quite catchy x

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I have fallen in love and I don't want it!

Well, the good thing is, you are quite aware of the reason why you have feelings for him, and the most importantly, you realise that it is just some unwanted chemical reaction upon which you will not act!

The bad thing is, I don't know the solution, sorry. I have fallen for the worst guys out there numerous times, not when I was married, but they were too toxic or abusive; so if you will find the solution, please do let me know.x

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CAN'T WAIT for life to be over.

Really sorry that your life has been going in endless cirlcles. It is tough, it may seem that there is no hope, no positive change.

But what about if there was hope?
What about if it all turned to better,
to what you would like it to be..?
Would you life to end then as well?
I hope not.. x

Would you like to share some more of your stuggles, so we can maybe show you a different angle, and perspective? Baby steps, as they say, things can change x

Hope you'll feel better soon, and things start going better for you.

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Too much snow.

Lano wrote:

A. I have to shovel it. We got a foot a couple of weeks ago and now we just had 6 inches this past weekend. We're getting another couple of inchest tomorrow. And it's going to snow this coming weekend too.

B. I have social distanced plans that the snow is interfering with.

Too much snow.

I see, thanks. I remember shoveling snow when I was a child, but then, of course, we loved it.

For the past 23 years or so, I've hardly experienced snow..

Is it unusual to snow in your area? Here in UK even an inch of snow brings everything to a standstill.

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Too much snow.

How much is too much? And why is it a problem, Lano?

Hope it melts soon though if it is so much trouble for you.

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Housemate trouble

Thanks, guys, you all make valid points.

NacthoMan wrote:
hmm...

with that kind of obscenity and lame behavior coming off him. cut your losses. in a big house with 7 - think of it like a small apt complex. get friendly with the better neighbors and avoid the deplorable.

Sorry you had a similar experience, @Yorick, and I do understand what you write. I am not afraid of him that he would hurt me physically; it would be more likely that I would hurt him.. My daughter was here last time he chucked my clothes out of the washer. I joked that we had no light in the kitchen, I could accidentaly trip over with a knife and fall on him.. :D She replied in the most serious voice: 'Mom, don't!' Honestly, I was only joking..

I have always avoided him since I moved here. In fact, I don't even know his name! I realised pretty early on that he was kind of a loser, but I seemed to have hugely underestimated what he could do..

Lano wrote:

I think if you explicitly rejected an advance from him this would make more sense, but simply finding out that you're older or that you are a mother is not something, by itself, would make a guy start hating you or, depending on his intentions or the way he sees things, even discourage him. That said people aren't always rational. But I wonder if there is something else at play that is making him act this way.

Perhaps you have done something to annoy him? I wonder if it's not something that can be settled with a simple discussion.

If that doesn't work, or you don't feel comfortable approaching him, maybe you should talk to your fellow housemates about it...they could be experiencing the same thing from this guy for all you know.

You can also try talking to the landlord I suppose.

I have never lived in an apartment or shared living situation so apologies if I sound naรฏve on all this.

Thanks, @Lano, I have messaged the landlady after she sent me a rude text message which turned out to be spurred on by him falsely accusing me of things. She said she did not want to be involved in this.

He is popular in the house, and others chat to him all the time, so I presume he is not picking on them.

I wouldn't feel comfortable talking to him, but I have been trying to prepare myself to tell him that I will no longer tolerate his hostile behaviour against me. However, what would I do if that did not stop him..? He knows my car, I dread that he could do something to my car.

I am not exactly certain what exactly made him mad at me, but since he found out about my daughter, he turned hostile.

From the beginning when I moved here, he looked like a guy who thinks that all women should lie at his feet, and for some time, he misinterpreted situations thinking that I was interested in him - I look out of the window checking if there is a parking space outside of the house, so I can repark my car. Once he was coming into the house with girls, and thought that I was spying on him.. Then I met him outside when I went for a walk a few times; he was with a girl and again, it looked like he thought I was stalking him..

I presume, he kinda liked it. So, when he found out that I have a daughter and just like going for walks, not stalking him, maybe again he twisted it in his head thinking that I was leading him on, I don't know.. That's my interpretation, but of course I might be wrong.

soco wrote:
Board meeting.
Get everyone in the room at the same time and call him out to the other tenants. Ask that the vengeful acts come to a halt starting today.
Or he leaves.

Thank you, soco. The landlady asked me to join a facebook house group, where I suppose I could have done it. However, I declined and explained that I would not be joining because of him. I do not want him to know my facebook profile. Also, because others seem to be keen on him, that might have turned things against me, and they might side with him..

I have just bumped into him now after two days (had to pop into the kitchen since I started writing this message); he had a loud music on and his earpads on, so I did not talk to him.. He never had the music loud, and earpads on before! He did used to have a show on his phone but always quietly. Neither of us said anything.. but I think he realised he's overstepped. Hoping for peace now?

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