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When a close friend suddenly returns phone calls a week after you left a message and says hes been busy what does that really mean?

Okay, yeah, three months is a bit excessive, in my opinion. If I don't talk to someone for 3 months...it's usually (not always, but usually) on purpose.

Either they have something they don't wish to talk to you about, or they view you as expendable. In either case, you don't deserve such treatment and deserve BETTER.

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When a close friend suddenly returns phone calls a week after you left a message and says hes been busy what does that really mean?

Coming from experience from the "other side" of that worry? It probably means that he was just busy for a week and it preoccupied his mind. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're unimportant or that he is lying to you. In the bigger picture, there is a huge chance that it would probably just mean that he was genuinely busy. Especially if this was just the first time it happened.

I once had to explain myself to a person every single day (and sometimes just every second day) that I wasn't on at a specific "expected" time that wasn't even previously negotiated. They lived in another country and so where on a different timezone. To the point that they would even accuse me of abandoning them and being selfish just for trying to sleep. They once even self-harmed over it...but that's an entirely long story. Point is...they became obsessed with me being there when they required me.

Try not to hit that point. It's a week, not a month. Sometimes (especially long distance) things can happen. Timezones or time management can get difficult and things can come up. Yes, there may be something he is not willing to tell you, but jumping straight to the conclusion that it has to do with you right off the bat, will only make you further paranoid and suspicious, and not to mention extremely make him feel uncomfortable and/or guilty when his absence could have very well been nothing but innocent/unavoidable.

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Everyone is extremely grateful for this 'resurrection' as it were.

Yes, and I do not apologize for it either! Which is rather rare for me.

Seriously though, just a photo is costing me $150, when usual con prices are around the $60-$80 mark. I've saved for three months even before it was announced he was coming, but I go to at least two each year - it's just that someone actually worth spending that kind of money on rarely steps foot into my crappy city. Lol.

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Everyone is extremely grateful for this 'resurrection' as it were.

Donating $10 for now! I'll help out with more next week. I'd have given more, but I have a convention to go to this weekend, and I love you guys, but a photo with Stan Lee comes first. ๐Ÿ˜Ž

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I have a bit of a dilemma.

Perhaps you can have a quiet word to him first? Not that I am suggesting you lie to your friend, of course! But perhaps if he is aware of what is amiss, he might be able to be prepared for a situation that might have otherwise turned volatile.

If your friend is mad at you, hopefully, she could get over it once she understands that you had both of their interests in mind. However, I'm always one who plans for the worst, so I'm not exactly preaching what I practice there.

It also might benefit a bit for you to talk to her as calmly as you can (as anxiety with BP traits can be a bit sensitive) and try to get her to understand that though he loves her, that doesn't mean he can read her mind and know what she wants from him regarding this, and that all he will notice is her anger, but without her using her words, he's not going to figure out why or how to approach it with her.

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What is thee time?

Ah! That's what the problem was. The first link took me to the HelpToGo website. Lol.

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What is thee time?

Hmm. I don't see any mention of the FB group.

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What is thee time?

I'm not sure I'm even a member of the old Facebook group. I think I was a while back, but not anymore.

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Everyone is extremely grateful for this 'resurrection' as it were.

Yup, I'm in. Aria.

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What is thee time?

Yeah, that didn't clear things up, either. Heh. Just what exactly do you mean?

Sorry, I'm rather sleep deprived at the moment, and my skull is already thick as it is.

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