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What do you honestly think would happen if the help community actually met in person?

Rockster160 wrote:

Iโ€™m pretty sure at least 85% of us is socially inept to some degree. ๐Ÿ˜„

Yup. That's me to a T.

I'd be the cowering figure in the far corner of the room, trying not to draw attention to my presence, attempting to avoid having a panic attack by focusing on my phone, and sneaking out for cigarettes every 15 minutes.

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What is it you are Thankful for?

I am thankful that I had so many friends and loved ones that stood by me in some of my darkest times. I am thankful for the knowledge that I have gained in knowing what is good for me, and what is not. I'm thankful for growing in mental and emotional strength enough to stand up for myself after over two decades of bending over backwards for people that mistreated me.

I'm thankful that I am still here to be thankful.

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Will 2017 be remembered for the empowered women coming out of the shadows of abuse?

With such a delicate topic (though, it really shouldn't be, as the crimes of it are shameful and should be shamed, as far as I'm concerned), I'll try my best to contribute as plainly as I can.

I think more needs to be done with taking complaints seriously. Due to the lack of justice and cases being seen as "not a big deal" in quite a few areas of the law, it provides a smoke screen, and a level of anxiety to those who fear coming forward. "It wasn't ****rape, so they're not going to care." "I don't have marks or bruises, so they won't believe me without evidence." "I shouldn't have been drinking" and on and on...

Victims who are hesitant or are unwilling to speak up can see that trying to go for help in their situation of harassment of any form can be seen as a "Case by case" circumstance, and personally, I think that is worst approach. It is trivializing some forms, and making others more "important" when really, the more you ignore, or brush aside something that is more "trivial", the more it can build into that more "important" act of crime.

I'd like see stuff such as conversations about having funded self-defense classes for children, teens, and adults. Entire modules to students on consent culture and why a person's personal space and body is important. I'd like to see instances where physical self-defense isn't just the only way to protect oneself. I'd like to see conversations where self-awareness and safety exit strategies (that I begun to learn while doing my Krav Maga training).

I'd like to see those who are convicted of crimes get harsher punishments and no more "probation", "suspended sentence" or "community service" as a part of their sentencing.

And less excuses being accepted for the next -G-d forbid- Brock Turner.

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Hi, it's Dolly from help\chat.

Dolly wrote:
Got the position :)

Congratulations!!!!

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I was just invited to a party

I'd honestly tell them to stick their social expectations where the sun doesn't shine (if they whine about it, of course) if they don't like you saying that "I'm just not feeling up to it."

By now, most people have caught the clue that I'm just not a party/get-together person. I no longer need to use my "I'm sick" or "I haven't slept" excuse, unless it's business related. And 95% of those cancellations is because I'm actually unwell or sleep deprived.

The other 5% is just because I feel bad telling religious door-knockers to go away, I'm not interested in their "no heaven for you" scare tactics.

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What is thee time?

I hear menopause is the time to celebrate...

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Hi, it's Dolly from help\chat.

Wow! You've definitely had a few adventures then! I am so glad to hear that you are happy where you're at now, though. Despite the financial drawbacks of it all, I think happiness is worth more. :)

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I just tried doing a second set of exercises for the day...

soco wrote:

Aria wrote:
I've been trying to get into better shape recently too, and have looked at joining my local gym. One thing I can suggest though, is stay the hell away from Beachbody's Insanity if you haven't been working out easily for a while. Even some people who I know to be quite physically active found it one of the most challenging.

I made it through 11 minutes of the fit test and I could barely walk for the next five days.

Have you talked with your doctor Aria? I highly recommend you do so before starting any excersize regiment, especially us females.

Yup, I have. I hadn't at the time I decided to test out Insnity though - I wanted to check it out as a friend highly recommended it at the time. I didn't go near it after that. Lol.

This time though, my doctor is pretty involved with my health due to issues that arose with my thyroid and liver. My gym stuff is mainly me trying to be more proactive with my health since I've been clean from opiates. But I figure once a week with my personal trainer (with my doctor's approval) should get me onto a path until I feel confident ramping up the fitness I actually want to do more regularly. Such as boxing classes, and going back to my Krav Maga training.

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Hi, it's Dolly from help\chat.

Hiya, Dolly! I definitely remember you. I think you were doing fashion design the last I recall. Or I might be confusing you with Polly... my brain is not so good these days.

I definitely get the frustration over the job stuff though! I decided to combine my passion with something that I could make a career out of. But then, my field of choice is luckily versatile, and I'm not too sure about how to build up in the education sector. Unless you actually want to work at owning the school, I guess Lol

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I just tried doing a second set of exercises for the day...

I've been trying to get into better shape recently too, and have looked at joining my local gym. One thing I can suggest though, is stay the hell away from Beachbody's Insanity if you haven't been working out easily for a while. Even some people who I know to be quite physically active found it one of the most challenging.

I made it through 11 minutes of the fit test and I could barely walk for the next five days.

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