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I 100% trust this site.

I'm sorry that you felt your trust was violated, however, I can say with confidence after seeing your previous post that it seems that someone may have done it out of care and concern for you - not to be malicious.

This site is full of people who are here because we want to help and we care about people. If someone felt that you were in danger to yourself and actions were taken to try and prevent you from hurting yourself, than I personally cannot very well say that it was the wrong thing to do, as the intentions behind it were to help you, not hurt you further.

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Cake mix cookies - why do my cookies turned out either burnt or are too liquid?

I'd say that because you're using cake mix, your method is going to be slightly different than either recipes call for. It's been a while since I've done much baking (my oven is broken and my housing people won't replace it due to my lease possibly ending in the next 3 months), but I've never used cake mix for cookies.

I preferred basic butter cookies myself, which can be cheaply made with egg, margarine (I don't know the quantities for using actual butter) flour (plain, not self-raising) and egg. It makes about 12-16 cookies if I recall correctly.

The drawbacks to that recipe is...I ended up eating the mixture 9/10 times before they made the oven.

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I'm 6 years sober and I want to quit going to alcoholics anonymous.

I'm just over a year in recovery after an opioid relapse in 2015. I was 9.5 years clean then, just missing the 10 year mark.

The first time I got clean, I did it without the help of services. I just had friends to watch out for me. I relapsed after I miscarried in early 2015 - a pregnancy that I had been planning and working toward for 5 years. By September 2016, I was taking around 70 pills every two days. On September 10th, within 24 hours, I'd taken 40 pills. For the next three days, I could barely leave my bed, I could barely speak, and was not holding anything down. Not even water.

By the Tuesday morning, my parents can and took me straight to the emergency room where I didn't have to wait longer than 2 minutes. I couldn't stand to even give my details at the desk and I was transported in a wheelchair when I stopped being able to walk. I was hooked to a heart monitor and an IV for the next week with severe liver damage. The doctors and specialists were even surprised I was still alive. I should have been dead.

When I got out, the first thing I did was look for an NA meeting. If I relapse again, the chances are very likely that I won't be as lucky next time.

If I hadn't relapsed after 9.5 years, perhaps I might have given you different advice, but I think even in another 5 years, I'll still be going. Not just to keep me strong on the bad days, but also because you can benefit from it by helping others with your journey. I was warned several times when I was in my worst place - even terrifying a close friend when he saw I was mixing alcohol with them over my 30th birthday when he flew in internationally for a visit (he himself is a recovering addict) and said that he didn't realize I was that bad.

So my suggestion? Perhaps you don't need to attend every meeting like clockwork, but still have them in your back corner for the times when you might not be coping or if you're extra stressed and are actively thinking about drinking - then get to a meeting then.

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Who would win the fight?

DocteurRalph wrote:
Okay Jesus would just turn Superman into a barrel of beer and we'd have a party. His first miracle was turning water into wine, why not? I was never that impressed with Superman, besides where's he going to find a phone booth to change clothes in these days? Do they still even make phone booths?

Kal-El is an Alien, so I'm pretty sure The Doctor helps him out these days. Plus, there's a lot more room in the TARDIS.

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How close do you relate to your ethenicity?

My family are mutts. Lol.

My father is Dutch-Hebrew. With my mom's side, it gets even more ridiculous. My maternal grandfather is German, my maternal grandmother is a mix of Scottish, Welsh, English, and French. My aunt, who helped raise me through most of my childhood when my parents weren't fit, married an Italian.

Then there's my half brother from my/our father's first marriage. His mother was half Australian Aboriginal - she was a victim of what's known as the Stolen Generations. My brother never met his mother's side of the family, and our dad walked out on him when he was 2, so he was raised by his mother, who was raised by a white foster family.

And to top it all off, in 2015, I got pregnant to a Chinese man.

As for me? I tend to identify with some of the Hebrew side, just mainly because I wasn't very close with my father's Dutch side of the family, and I left my father when I was 11 and have only seen him once, since. We don't speak.

I know more German than I do Dutch, and I know more Hebrew than I do Dutch as well. But I'm also extremely proud of my Scottish ancestry...but that's because of the clans my grandmother came from; Highlanders who were part of the Jacobite Rising.

So I guess I kind of see myself as a weird Australian/Dutch/German/Scottish Jew...

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Is being too nice a bad thing?

Speaking from personal experience, being nice and kind is a good thing, but as said above...if it gets to the point of you becoming a doormat, it can lead to problems, and that's not a good thing. You can be used, abused, and hurt so badly that you might end up coming out of it with a lot of distrust and unwillingness to believe in other people's genuine kindness.

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Would you rather be intelligent and live a lifetime being poor or be not that academic and be wealthy for life?

Intelligent and poor. I've been stupid and poor (thankfully, I got wise) and it brought me nothing but pain, and a lifetime battle of staying clean from addiction.

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Given I'm not celebrating Christmas this year.

My parents are forcing me to do the Christmas thing with them this year, but I'm not really all that excited about it. Thankfully, it's just going to be a small one, and then I'll come back to my house for some peace and quiet before my sane sister-in-law (brother's ex) and her kids and husband come to visit for New Year. Ironically, just as I was typing this, my mother called to wish me happy Chanukah (first night tonight).

My brother and his psychotic fiance can shove it, though. I'm going to save money this year and onward because I'm not getting a damn thing for them.

On a happier note, one of my oldest and closest friends is coming to spend Christmas for the first time in years since he moved interstate, so I'll get to see him at some point when he's not busy with his family. It will be the first Christmas I've spent with him in 10 years.

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Who would win the fight?

I'm going with Superman. Because he has right on his side. Jesus was a bit of a narcissist with delusions of grandeur. Soup just wanted to help people and live a quite life.

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This site coming alive.

We are happily heading towards absolute global takeover. Pfft. Ibet Brain is totally jealous right now.

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