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Have you changed since help closed years ago?

Some things have changed, where others haven't.

Before the site closed, I got a puppy, at the same time I had a cat. That puppy is turning 10 this year, and the cat passed away. I've had two other dogs since. Both passed.

I'm still living in the same place, I was engaged a few years back, but never got married. I was slammed with severe agoraphobia for about 4 years until 2013.

I had a nephew born, and then pass away within 2 years, and I no longer speak to my sibling, but I still speak to the mother of my nephew. Neither of us can stand my brother, now.

Still unemployed, although I am now considered disabled and am on the disability pension. Temporarily until I recover from my anxiety disorders enough to get started on a career again.

Emotionally/personality, I definitely have changed. My depression is managed now, I have new mental illness diagnoses (which have made it really easier to manage and understand myself better) and thankfully, I have been through a lot of crap that has helped me to learn to stand up for myself a bit better. I'm no longer the one who hides away in the corner and cries when someone snaps at me. Lol.

So I'm in a better place, I guess. At least in my head. In other areas, nothing much has changed except the size of my dog, embracing me and learning to like myself, and a few furniture pieces have been changed over the years.

My lame sense of humor and bad habit of rambling about ****shit that probably doesn't matter is still around, though.

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I booked a flight to Denpasar Bali and its the first time I'll be flying on my own.

My first advice point...

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Schapelle_Corby

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I booked a flight to Denpasar Bali and its the first time I'll be flying on my own.

Don't carry a surfboard bag...that's my best advice.

As for money exchange, there should be a place near customs where you can change over currency, and I would definitely see a doc and find out what vaccinations you might need to be up-to-date on, and what you may need to be protected against while abroad.

And just in case you weren't aware, don't bring ANY leftover food from the plane off the plane - that's a big no-no due to possible contamination. Even if it's fresh fruit you didn't eat.

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would u take a job that's a bit higher pressure and 30-45 minutes away for 80 dollars more a week?

As desperate as I am for a job right now to the point I'd resort to burying my arms up to my elbows in dirty dishwater for 16 hours a day for minimum wage - I'm still not desperate enough to resort to telemarketing. You'll get abused, screamed at, ignored, and if you already have self-esteem issues, it could take a sledgehammer to them and make you feel even worse.

In my opinion? It wouldn't be worth the extra $80 unless you were really really desperate and you had no other alternative.

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My friend told me today he might be bi, he also said he wants to experiment with me.

Evansent wrote:
I’m glad you’ve told us about your age I was about to ask you the same question.
Don’t feel pressured in any way,shape or form.
“Being experimental”is all well and good if your at the consensual age.
Make sure YOU use some kind of protection.

Yes! #1 advice if there's going to be any sexual contact. Even if neither of you have been sexually active before, safe ***sex is a must and it's good to start practicing now.

I'm asexual, so my advice with anything beyond "stay safe" is probably not going to amount to much, as I'm in my 30's and still haven't had consensual ***sex. However, the heart can be a tricky thing, and so are sexual hormones (I hear, anyway). So it's best to be cautious with both.

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My friend told me today he might be bi, he also said he wants to experiment with me.

Sounds like you're thinking this through well. :) I'm not sure how old you are, but it took me until I was 24 to figure out my own sexuality properly - and sometimes, I still have days where I'm confused - but that's mostly because society is weird and confusing to me.

I'd say that you've come to the right idea. If at any point one of you does decide to pursue a serious relationship, I'd advise you to communicate with each other thoroughly. Also, you do not need to come out if you don't wish to. Some don't at all, and some just let others work it out from what they observe.

So whether you're bi, gay, pan, ace, or otherwise as long as you are happy with you, and the person you're with is happy with you, no one else matters. It's your life, and your feelings that matter most.

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Rockster's post reminded me of this.

I love a few of her songs, but just the poem posted reminded me of the song. Oddly, it's my least favorite of hers but I still thought of it. Lol.

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Rockster's post reminded me of this.

This whole thing reminded me of this...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QZjTBW-raGw

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Family rules.

Sadly, most of my family isn't capable of this due to the amount of toxic people we seem to be related to. Family services know almost a dozen of us by name and background history...

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Please close/cancel post

I'm sorry that it's not been the best journey for you in finding some inner peace. :( That's not the way it should ever go. And I certainly understand the frustration with the lack of support of mental health. Australia is dealing with it's own incompetent dealings of it (they are closing and selling important property of psychiatric facilities to rich real estate and "relocating" mental illness consumers to boarding houses).

For those not in "immediate" danger, they just refer you to hotlines and call centers that do nothing but give platitudes and goose chases.

But that doesn't mean you're not worth it, or that people don't care for your happiness and well-being. They do. Even here; we care.

Though you may not be getting support from your local places, or even your family - there are those around who can help. I myself, found solace in an online community that helped me overcome a lot of my depression that therapists couldn't even scratch the surface, let alone touch. I'm still very close with some of the people I met there to this day - who even helped me (and currently still are) through a relapse of addiction that I was fighting long before I met them.

Your support doesn't have to be conventional -though that's not to say I discourage them all together, some can help- but just having support can be one of the most important things (and something you might not even be aware is capable of) you can have in your corner. Try not to block it out or convince yourself that's it's not needed, or useful. You'd be surprised.

My shoutbox is always open if you ever need to talk. I can promise you, I will not do anything against your knowledge or comfort, if that helps you feel at least a little better. I understand that sometimes just knowing someone will listen and is a welcoming outlet can make one feel less alone.

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