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Domestic violence and abuse..

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Mya wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
somehow i doubt Jesus is the answer to these problems. no offense

I didnt take an offence, thanks.

If you dont know Jesus, it's hard to know how much you need Him..

I am absolutely certain Jesus is THE ANSWER to my problems; and the reason i got into this mess with this guy is that I did not put Jesus first.. Although i wanted to and tried, my faith was weak..

well i got into that religion several times and left several times because its anti female and anti something else very important. Jesus actually tells you not to look at women with lust i mean its too much just too much or else youll go to hell. thats too much so i left but theres another religion i have to deal with at home thats just as bad or worse.

anyway hope you stop attracting wrong kinda guys

Some CHURCHES made it anti-female. St. Paul recognized and honoured women who were the LEADERS of their congregations.

He asked the women in Corinth to "pipe down" because, being former pagans, they kept interrupting the minister with questions.

The Nicene Creed first draft was written by Barbara, bishop of Nicaea. It was the Roman Empire, which didn't allow women into leadership positions, that squelched the role of women in the churches.

As St. Paul said, in Christ there is neither Greek nor Jew, or male and female. We are all ONE.

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Domestic violence and abuse..

Anonymous wrote:

Sherlock wrote:
No sarcasm or bitterness. Just my evaluation based on a lifetime of observations. Why would you think otherwise?

well i thought it was being aimed at me, it sounds like that. also you know why they call them the dark ages its because christianity has quite a dark side to it no one can deny it

"Churchianity" has a dark side. But not what Jesus taught: love, tolerance, acceptance and peace. Many churches today have doctrines and practices that are far from what Jesus taught. Example: the Catholic Church, which denies communion to divorced and remarried persons.

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Domestic violence and abuse..

No sarcasm or bitterness. Just my evaluation based on a lifetime of observations. Why would you think otherwise?

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Domestic violence and abuse..

Anonymous wrote:
somehow i doubt Jesus is the answer to these problems. no offense

If I were in a tree in the middle of a flood, I would not insist on Jesus personally coming down to me and getting me out of that tree. I would avail myself of anybody coming by in a boat or a helicopter!

From my vantage point, I see a world that is lost without God. I do not see humanity as having the will to prevent the destruction of our planet. I look around and see the common good being sacrificed for the personal gain. Look around you--do you feel optimistic about the future? You have all of these preppers--they are preparing for an apocalypse, because they don't have faith that our government or the governments of the world will do the right thing in time. Where I am right now civilization is unraveling. I see a long night of barbarism descending upon the world. The will to resist is lessening. In the Western countries, the birth rate of the "native" people is not enough to offset the death rate.

I see that night coming. And I see only one Light that is able to dispel the darkness.

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Mya wrote:

Sherlock wrote:
I'll celebrate not getting malaria or otherwise getting super sick here in Africa!

Oh, and i thought i was the one who was a danger to myself! ;) What are you doing in Africa?

Training UN peacekeepers!

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Soo I don't know why I was given an inhaler?

It's a bronchodilator, designed to open your breathing passages. It is often used to help asthma sufferers.

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I'll celebrate not getting malaria or otherwise getting super sick here in Africa!

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Domestic violence and abuse..

Mya, we are ALL damaged. It's true. The experiences we have, the things that are done to us, and even the things we do to others take a toll on us.

All we can do is forgive ourselves and work on transcending those things. Bad childhood? OK, that is quite regrettable. But to continue to nurse that pain won't help anything. You must transcend it--rise above it.

Many people have been abused. Many have been told that they were worthless. And many of the most successful people in the world today were abused and were told they were worthless.

It is a lie that you are too damaged for human companionship, or that you are too damaged to talk to a minister or too damaged to be of service to God. And you know who is the author of all lies, right?

Now is the time for "damage control," for repairing the damage you have suffered and for transcending all the things that make you feel you don't deserve the best in life.

You are still young--really, you are! Don't sequester yourself for another 10 years while believing lies about yourself. Get out in circulation. Be a friend to others. Contain your anger (we all have to do it). Find outlets for your energies. Set goals for yourself!

You should always have goal on the horizon!

Go to church on Sunday. If your last church wasn't warm, welcoming and supportive, go to another church!

God did not intend for you to sit on the sidelines and be a mere spectator. You have an important part in the Divine Plan. Now you must find out what it is and fulfill your part!

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Domestic violence and abuse..

Mya wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
If he ain't actin' like Jesus, then he ain't the one.

:) i dont act like Jesus either; but thank you!

If we did, we wouldn't have needed Him, right? ;-)

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Domestic violence and abuse..

My dearest Mya, you can follow Christ and still have a decent man in your life.

I stress that word "decent." I have noted, over decades of living, that approximately 70% of the population do not make good life mates. They are either too selfish, too demanding, too immature or abusive. When looking for a possible lifemate, you want to concentrate your efforts in that upper 30% "band of excellence," or really within the upper 5%!

I will note one thing about being a Christian. When you decide to follow Christ, Satan will throw everything at you--including the kitchen sink. He leaves spiritual couch potatoes alone, as he figures they are already in the bag. Always remember this!

You may wish to talk to a minister of your faith for spiritual advice. If your minister does not do pastoral counseling--find another minister!

You have gone through some terrible experiences. I remember one of my female warrant officers telling me about being married to a doctor, accompanying to Sweden for a sabbatical, and then being left alone in the airport while she was nine months pregnant! Yes, there are plenty of rotten men out there in that bottom 70%! And, I might add, rotten women, too!

It is quite natural to contemplate wiping your enemies from the face of the earth, but we must dismiss such thoughts, as such judgments and punishments are reserved to God. We all have that "reptilian brain" in the core of our consciousness--that id--that spurs us to take the most primal of actions, but we have to suppress that while living in a civilized society.

You can still be in a committed relationship--but, as you know, you must stop accepting underdogs for dating purposes. And, if you "fell off the wagon" just recently, forgive yourself and move on. Just set your sights higher.

I recommend becoming more active in your church, and not worrying about doubts--but explore these doubts and seek knowledge. The answers to your doubts are out there, and they will be unlocked as you seek the ultimate Truth!

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