I dont get to have fun. Im severely disabled so most of my money goes on trying to get well and paying for carers.

Before i got severely unwell long term, I used to spend maybe £30 on drinks for a night out. Didnt go out often. Id come back with change. But have to pay to get in places with it too.

No need to go stupid spending £70+ like some people.

Healthy people spend money on making themselves sick.

Sick people spend money on trying to get well.

Before i got sick i was the same. But don't go nuts with it. Without ur health u hav nothing.

And remember you dont need to do things just because other people are doing it. And drinking every single weekend it silly if u ask me, people end up alcoholics and its not a fun road to go down.

Once when id been drinking i threw up and decided i wanted some water and had had enough. A friends boyfriend started to call me a *****pussy and told me to keep drinking and to drink myself sober. So i went "meow!" And drank my water.

And dont go down the drugs route. There is so much out there and not hard to find.

So many people think a good time time is getting mortal and rolling around the pavement after sniffing coke or whatever and waking up next morning in a bush or a random person's bed.

Heres some tips. Always go with someone u trust and stick together... if u r a girl then go to the toilets together and u can even share same toilet cubicle for a wee wee!!! Lol

Hold tight to ur friends hand whilst u walk thru a night club. Its so easy to get split up and its hard to find people again.

Never ever leave a drink unattended. Never put a down ur back on a drink. Best way is to get a bottle and hold ur thumb over it then no one can pop a date ****rape drug in when ur not looking.

If someone wants to buy u a drink then go with him to the bar and pick a bottle and take the bottle straight from the bar person. Not for the guy. If a guy brings u a drink then just say no thanks. Unless u know them well and trust them.

Its a waste of time money and your health.
Put time in life building something great.
What can you get from being wasted every weekend?
You cant get that time back.
The bar fleas who get laid usually meet people that are sleezy.
Its possible to meet your soul mate.
Its far from probable.
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There are many people whos idea of a good time is seeing how many people they can..... "jump into bed with".

I think many people go on night outs regularly go so they look good. What i mean is... people compete with each other in ways. With looking good and needing a new outfit each week.. people want to fit in with others. They want to be liked. They want to be inside a group feeling they have somewhere yo belong, rather than being outside looking in.

Sometimes it can look like the grass is greener on the other side. Sometimes because its not real grass!

People are not always their authentic selves on a night out.

People see magazines of photoshopped people and think they have to look "sexy" like they do on the mag. Woman can sort of compete with each other in a sense. Silently comparing how they each look thinking, i wish i looked as nice as her. Andit continues that they try to look as nice as her.

But what people don't realise is that people in mags are photoshopped and not real images AND self worth does NOT come from outward looks. Who you are depends on what you do with your life. Everyone has self worth.

Only you can decide who you are. Self worth is not dependant on the acceptance of others.

Those who matter dont mind. Those who mind dont matter.

What i mean is, be true to you and follow your own path in life. Never let anyone else hold the pen whilst writing the story of your life. Never compare your path to anothers path. Neither are right or wrong. Theyre simply different and diversity is the spice of life.

Never give in to peer pressure.

It doesnt matter how much money others are spending. It doesnt matter what others do for fun. It matters what you decide is best for YOU.

The thing is, is that if they do not "fit in" with the group, there will always be another group where they feel they belong. There will always be people who value who you are based on who you really are and your true colours.

You cant please everyone, so please yourself. Not in the unkind sense, but embrace your true colours.

The odd night out was nice and i LOVE music and LOVE to dance. Enjoy but stay safe. But do not get caught up in the things that do not matter.

Do not get caught up in the competition of who can drink the most. Boosting who can disregard their health the most is so stupid. People appreciate what they have only when its gone.

Im 28 and id rather i had my health, children and a job than need to have carers come empty my commode. Even worse when its my mam and shes wretching.

I used to a lot when I was younger but I probably spent about $30-$50. Most of the time, other guys were buying me and my friends drinks. I loved it at the time but the thought of going out the way I did then now is exhausting. I would much rather save up my money and travel with my partner. (Also, I never had a long term relationship with someone I met at a bar or club.)

I was very surprised that someone i know actually married someone she met in a night club! Theyve been married for years.
I doubt it happens often though!
Especially nowadays

Like I said.
Its possible to meet your true love in a bar but its not probable.
I sure wouldnt want a drinker for my spouse

$30-$50 when I was younger and going out a lot. Around $100 now that I’m older and it’s once every 6 months.

The price of sin is high. Both in terms of physical cost and life span. There are thousands of examples of this but I'll mention one: Jim Morrison.

Isn't he, like, hangin out with Elvis at a Burger King?

I never been much of a partier. I go to this weekend thing sometimes and I usually bring a six pack or a bag of chips to feel like I contributed. So not much. I'm in my early thirties.

Date nights are expensive though, going out to eat and eating how you want for a big guy like me can mean anywhere from a 36 dollar night to a 100 dollar night, depending where we go. That happens a few times a week. I decided with my girlfriend recently that we should eat at home before going out. Will hopefully save me a lot of money.

If you don't want to spend much, then don't. Just try to be fair about it. Saving is important.

I don't drink with people, I drink alone and binge watch movies and shows on Netflix while I pretend someone is in the room to listen to me ramble and give loud commentary... Unless I ask my mom to Skype with me, but she doesn't drink, so it's probably us watching Supernatural and her telling me to shut up because I'm talking through it too much.

Or I spend my drunken nights flitting around on SecondLife, and flirting with a special someone through text.

So all up, not including the occasional Linden top up, maybe about $50.I'm a cheap drunk.

Sorry for trying to watch out for you.

I like eating out, with friends, at all you can eat sushi restaurants.

Yeah... my husband and I have gotten really bad about going out like that. I mean, we go over to friend’s houses for dinner and have people come over but that’s about it. I really should go out more :( and as for TV... I have Netflix and Amazon Prime and definitely watch too much of it. But most days I’m just tired. Maybe it’s a combination of being an introvert, having limited funds, and stress idk. But yeah you wanted a short answer so I didn’t go into all of that lol.

So u r trying to compare yourself to others? And u have a problem and are trying to find a excuse to deny u have a problem?

And u don't want help with the problem u just want to hear that its ok to have ur habit cos others do it too?

So as long as u r copying others and allowing others life choices to dictate your own then all is well.

Im not a party person. Alcohol makes me ill and pot makes me paranoid and out of it.

Well said.

Thank you @soco