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Hahaha! Yeah - I don't mind openly talking about a few personal details of my life but there is a limit, usually down to the one I would like.

As far as the older fellow goes - it's up to you. If you like it, you like it. The moment is usually defined by our reaction.

If he's that much older than you, there's a fair chance that a long term relationship could come about - it doesn't matter that he mentioned FWB, he's just talking a language that a younger generation understands.
But, then again, he's a co-worker.... Sort of riskey behaviour with regard to employment. If he made a pass, he seems more interested in you than the job. That says a lot in my opinion.

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Nothing wrong with liking a little bit of attention BUT be careful about over sharing. Best way I can think of stopping yourself is to have one confidante- or two! - that you trust 100% and only sharing overly personal details with them. Definitely make sure they’re not coworkers, though, lol.

Idk I’ve been described as a bit of a “prude” in public, so I definitely keep things to myself, but that may just be a cultural thing.

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I forgot to mention that the most recent encounter was at a work outing where everyone had a little too much to drink.

I am working on not over sharing but I slipped up bc of the alcohol. Part of me thinks I lead guys on which is why I have it coming. But the other part of me thinks that a 43 year old coworker should not have tried to kiss me.

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You say tried so I take it you thwarted his attempt. Can you say how? Did you duck out of the way or try to rearrange his *********testicles to behind his tonsils?

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- but I slipped up bc of the alcohol.

Sorry, but you're trying to blame something here to excuse your own behavior.

Part of me thinks I lead guys on which is why I have it coming.

This is the closest to owning the truth but with a degree of reluctance.

But the other part of me thinks that a 43 year old coworker should not have tried to kiss me.

👉But👈 nothin - you can't have it both ways. If you're sending up green lights like a signal flare, you're saying "Come get me."
You can't be disgusted with the way a river runs while gravity does its thing.
And if you're advertising in the sky....you can expect customers of all ages to answer your message.... So, vigorously stating this mans age isn't going demonize him when it comes to the natural course of his response.

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- but I slipped up bc of the alcohol.

We’ve all been there. That’s ok - so you overshared when tipsy. It happens! Don’t beat yourself up over it.

Part of me thinks I lead guys on which is why I have it coming.

You NEVER have anything coming. It’s natural to flirt, but setting boundaries is important.

But the other part of me thinks that a 43 year old coworker should not have tried to kiss me.

I agree with this. That’s the equivalent to a 13 year old flirting with me (I’m 33) and wtf that’s gross. 20 years is too much and honestly... I feel like you’re a baby compared to this guy. He’s old enough to be your father! Ick!

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aand here i was taking ages just to understand what fwb meant. 🙈 oh dear haha i got there in the end.

I really dont know. Im that type of person who likes to hug people. Only some people i should get to know better first. Some people think a hug is a bigger invitation. But i think my caring nature confuses people sometimes. Its not a topic im good at. Still much to learn. Probs with being an aspie.

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soco wrote:
You say tried so I take it you thwarted his attempt. Can you say how? Did you duck out of the way or try to rearrange his *********testicles to behind his tonsils?

It was simple, he leaned in and I turned my head away. After that we continued talking like normal but he was feeling up my leg.

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@Araz thank you for your response. Everything you said is 100% correct and it is nice to know you understand. Your advise was helpful <3

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My darling. I would say be careful. I had a co-worker expressing their feelings towards me in a respectful manner but I was surprised regarding his behaviour because everyone knows that I keep to myself at work. I'm 27 years old and he is 40 years old. This is 13 years difference and I am finding it difficult to even comprehend if I will give him a chance or not. From your situation, I would aim for 10 years difference as well as because you are a kind and open person. People will use this for their advance and the way he approached you is not appropriate. You can find other men that would treat you with the upmost respect. I wouldn't use the word 'attention.' I would say feeling validated and attractive. There is nothing wrong with feeling like this. You deserve better and someone to approach you and be clear with their intentions. I hope you have a lovely day and again please be careful as he is too old for you.

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the age difference really gives off the stigma..and yea it gets a bad rap from those who cant or wont understand it.. it doesn't stop the love tho.. watch netflix "age gap love.." sure does shine some light on the age gap.

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A coworker 20 years older than me tried to kiss me. Another one told me he wants to be my fwb. Is it bad that I like the attention. Guys never notice me and it feels nice to be wanted but at what cost. I tend to overshare because I am confident in who I am and I have no issues sharing personal details about my life. I am working on setting boundaries but when even I slip up I slip up badly. I’ll have R rated conversations with people who don’t need to know my business. I guess the question is, how can I make it easier to be friendly but not give out the wrong impression.........Cancel.......¬ ¬ ........Cancel.......¬ ¬ ........Cancel.......

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